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post #61 of 109
1/27/08 at 4:22pm
I am so sorry!

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post #62 of 109
1/27/08 at 4:32pm
I wish there was something I could say to make it better, but obviously I can't. I'm so sorry. Thank you for sharing more about her.
post #63 of 109
1/27/08 at 4:44pm
im so sorry. i cant even imagine.
post #64 of 109
1/27/08 at 5:03pm
post #65 of 109
1/27/08 at 5:14pm
I'm so, so sorry for your loss
post #66 of 109
1/27/08 at 5:15pm
I can't even imagine...I'm so sorry. And thank you for sharing.
post #67 of 109
1/27/08 at 5:20pm
You're so right when you say the pain does not go away; you only learn to live with it. I wish your burden were lighter. Sending hugs to you and family
post #68 of 109
1/27/08 at 5:38pm
Thank you for sharing her with us

LP
post #69 of 109
1/27/08 at 5:41pm
So many hugs to you.

I loved reading your memories of her.
post #70 of 109
1/27/08 at 6:55pm
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing those stories w/ us. I can just picture a little girl w/ her wagon going to her neighbors door selling rocks. Too cute! I know I'd by the rocks too if she came to my door.

post #71 of 109
1/27/08 at 7:06pm
Have you ever read this letter by Ram Dass that he wrote to someone whose daughter was murdered? Its the only thing I've ever read dealing with the loss of a child that seemed to contain even a shred of comfort. Sending much love to you...

Dear Steve and Anita,

Rachel finished her work on earth, and left the stage in a manner that leaves those of us left behind with a cry of agony in our hearts, as the fragile thread of our faith is dealt with so violently. Is anyone strong enough to stay conscious through such teaching as you are receiving? Probably very few. And even they would only have a whisper of equanimity and peace amidst the screaming trumpets of their rage, grief, horror and desolation.

I can't assuage your pain with any words, nor should I. For your pain is Rachel's legacy to you. Not that she or I would inflict such pain by choice, but there it is. And it must burn its purifying way to completion. For something in you dies when you bear the unbearable, and it is only in that dark night of the soul that you are prepared to see as God sees, and to love as God loves.

Now is the time to let your grief find expression. No false strength. Now is the time to sit quietly and speak to Rachel, and thank her for being with you these few years, and encourage her to go on with whatever her work is, knowing that you will grow in compassion and wisdom from this experience.

In my heart, I know that you and she will meet again and again, and recognize the many ways in which you have known each other. And when you meet you will know, in a flash, what now it is not given to you to know: Why this had to be the way it was.

Our rational minds can never understand what has happened, but our hearts– if we can keep them open to God – will find their own intuitive way. Rachel came through you to do her work on earth, which includes her manner of death. Now her soul is free, and the love that you can share with her is invulnerable to the winds of changing time and space. In that deep love, include me.

In love,

Ram Dass
post #72 of 109
1/27/08 at 7:23pm
I can't imagine your pain DragonflyBlue. I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing your memories with us...

Anika
post #73 of 109
1/27/08 at 7:43pm


For Marissa

Love to you.
post #74 of 109
1/27/08 at 8:07pm
I'm so sorry mama. for your DD.
post #75 of 109
1/27/08 at 8:43pm
I am so very sorry.

Love and light to you.
post #76 of 109
1/27/08 at 8:48pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by DragonflyBlue View Post
One of my biggest fears is getting old and forgetting her... As much as it hurts, I don't ever want to forget...
I had no idea what I was going to say until I read that. You will never forget her. You won't. Even if there are details that fade, she is flesh of your flesh, born of your heart and soul. Mothers and their children are knit together in ways that time cannot possibly undo. It's why you're hurting right now as much as you were five years ago, but it's also why she is bound to you and will always be.

Lighting a candle for your beautiful daughter tonight, with trust that she is waiting for you in a place of peace.



post #77 of 109
1/27/08 at 8:53pm
I am so so so so sorry
post #78 of 109
1/27/08 at 8:53pm
Oh sweetie, I am so, so sorry. I wish I could give you a big hug in person.
post #79 of 109
1/27/08 at 9:38pm
s So, so sorry momma

Take care of you,
Tara
post #80 of 109
1/27/08 at 9:52pm
I feel very honored that you shared the story of her with us. I am so sorry she is gone. Please, share stories of her any time you feel like it.

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