I don't think anyone was trying to imply that those who went early or had smaller babies did something wrong or didn't do something right. I think in general most women who frequent these types of boards do more things "right" then wrong or not doing at all. KWIM?
But no we have no control over what mother nature has in mind.
I listened to my body, took it easy much earlier then what the doctor thought I needed to, ate more calories and protein then what my doctor recommended. I did these things because of sites like this and other experienced mothers out there who had been there done that
I still ended up with preeclampsia and delivered the girls at 34w6d weighing 6 lbs and 6 lbs 13 oz. It was still early. I was still sick. But IF I hadn't done what I had done, I might have gone earlier and with much smaller sicker babies.
Knowing how awful my body has always dealt with pregnancy, I am very proud of the successful outcome I had thanks to many useful tips and info like you all ahve given here