My son turns 5 in two weeks and has a 2 year old sister. THe two of them are constantly at each other which drives me up the wall. Often he instigates a situation and my daughter joins in because she thinks he is the funniest guy in the world. If I tell him to stop he simply ignores me. He loves to tease her and is usually satisfied when she's in tears. I just read the posting about constant nagging and it reminded me of myself. I find myself also very often telling them not to do this and stop doing that.
Early this summer I lost my part-time job and part of me was looking forward to spending more time with the kids. I had a great job and a pefect situation but I was still thinking somehow I should spend more time with the kids. Now, I'm not so sure anymore. I partly blame myself for all the fighting that is going on. I just don't know how I can motivate them to do more productive things with each other.
The thing I find most shocking is that I get so mad at my son for acting out like that. THe only way I can let it out is yelling. I tried to talk about my emotions and why it upsets me but I think he can't comprehend it. We have a lot of power struggles which I think are such a waste of time but maybe a neccessary part of growing up. Today, for instance, we were riding our bikes. All of a sudden he stops and tells me to cross the street and ride on the other side. THe side we are on goes along a park and there are no crossing streets. THe othere side has a lot of crossing street and is not shady. I tell him to give me a reason that makes sense and of course he can't but still insists.
We're right now in our home as we're waiting to move into our new house. We're subletting because we had to move out of our old place. MAybe this is also part of the problem. I just hope things are going back to normal or is it normal that siblings fight a lot???
Early this summer I lost my part-time job and part of me was looking forward to spending more time with the kids. I had a great job and a pefect situation but I was still thinking somehow I should spend more time with the kids. Now, I'm not so sure anymore. I partly blame myself for all the fighting that is going on. I just don't know how I can motivate them to do more productive things with each other.
The thing I find most shocking is that I get so mad at my son for acting out like that. THe only way I can let it out is yelling. I tried to talk about my emotions and why it upsets me but I think he can't comprehend it. We have a lot of power struggles which I think are such a waste of time but maybe a neccessary part of growing up. Today, for instance, we were riding our bikes. All of a sudden he stops and tells me to cross the street and ride on the other side. THe side we are on goes along a park and there are no crossing streets. THe othere side has a lot of crossing street and is not shady. I tell him to give me a reason that makes sense and of course he can't but still insists.
We're right now in our home as we're waiting to move into our new house. We're subletting because we had to move out of our old place. MAybe this is also part of the problem. I just hope things are going back to normal or is it normal that siblings fight a lot???
