Just wondering, do you tell people you are struggling with infertility, that you are taking medication or doing IVF, other procedures? I ..... don't. When I went through IVF the first time, I carefully chose 2 very supportive friends who didn't know any of my other friends and told them and they were wonderful support. I only told a very few people when I was pregnant the first time, and then was very glad that I only had a few to tell I had miscarried. And I have asked those friends not to refer to it to me, I think about it, probably will be processing it for a long time but I hate to be surprised with it in conversation. No one in my family knows and they won't if I can help it. Our issues are male factor and my dh is very private, which is a big part of the reason. And I also just didn't want too many opinions/questioning of our our choices. I felt like I would have to relive it all by explaining it to everyone (no, just skipping the lube and making my dh switch to boxer shorts is NOT going to work!) And one of my friends, who is a cancer survivor, said "you wouldn't take fertility drugs though, right?". Arrrgghh, if you only knew.... I guess that is one of the things I find helpful about this forum is being able to be more open about it without the emotional risks. Gearing up for another cycle this year, so lots to think about.
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1/30/08 at 1:44am