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There are so many things to love about that! I totally love how you didn't hold back. I told DH about you screaming f* me! a few times and he thought that was great. I love how you screamed ouch through contractions.
I love compliments about this, because I've always been so self-conscious about it. All the UC or even natural birthing videos I've seen everyone's so relaxed and calm. I just never have been. I think I'm coming to feel more at peace with how I birth. As Morgan (the woman with long, dark hair nursing the toddler) said, "You've never been a zen and candles lady, anyway." So I guess it makes sense that I wouldn't birth that way

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I love that everyone was comfy enough that a few of you were nekkid. I love how he was born so in the caul! That's awesome. Most of the time you see it burts as the head comes out. he's one lucky babe! Oh, I cannot express how much I love those videos. I think it's so awesome to see your DH in there the whole time. Everyone was so calm, like hanging out for a movie. So cool!
I love the comfiness of it all. Those are some of my favorite parts of the video. When the camera pans around the room or hell, when the dryer goes off. It's a lovely reminder how normal birth is. The caul was an awesome surprise! I definitely had an instinct about his hand being up there and I've always had back labor, so that was no shock. The caul I read about several times while pregnant with him (I'd never heard of that happening before) and was fascinated, but certainly didn't think it would happen to him! Yes, Brian, my DH, was awesome! Once again, glad I have the video, because I couldn't see him alot. I knew he was there and he did things I trusted only him to do, like pressing my back or protecting my perenium, but that meant he was always behind me. It was nice to see what he was doing and read his facial expressions

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My uc babe was the same with the napping right after. And I said the exact same thing about no more babies. Yet your videos make me want another (and mine is not even 6 months yet! ) Mine was slow to want to nurse too. She had other things in mind...like napping.
Awww, they worked hard, huh? He nursed really well when he did nurse. I think he was on me for over an hour and we switched sides 4 times! I've never said I don't want anymore babies. I think I might mean it! Really though, Bastian was my 6th pregnancy. So even though Bri and I only have two kids, I'm not sure I want to put my body through anymore. And it's not just that I feel done...I feel complete. It feels like everyone is here

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Did your pernieum area hurt? I found myself pushing along with you (and holding my breath ) and there were a few times I wanted to just apply some pressure for you! (not to myself...man that makes it sound like I'm playing with myself It looked like such a tight pull through that area!
Oh. my. god. It hurt. I tore not just there, but also had a strange abrasion/skin stretching thing, like the top layer had split higher up that I didn't find until later. He was quite a big baby and, especially with that hand... Still, I healed up really nicely. I kept my knees together, didn't sit flat, stayed DOWN for about 10 days and used some seaweed and comfrey.

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I wish i had had such long pauses between pushes. I just pushed for 2 minutes straight to get the head out and then whoosh! out she flew. It would have been nice to get that break.
I've never been a fast pusher. I pushed for about an hour and a half with Declan, my older son. With Bastian, I started doing little pushes more than 2 hours before he was born. I didn't know this until I watched the video, but I knew it felt like a LONG time. As much as it sucks at the time, I think it's probably good for us. I think if he'd just shot out, I would've torn much worse. The slow pushing allowed me to stretch as he moved down.

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Wow. Thanks for sharing.
Sure! Thanks for the great comment
post #22 of 48
I watched the video before I read the responses. As I watched it, I had a hard time with all of the people- their comments, their noise, their moving about, people actually touching the baby's head and bag as it emerged. As I watched the new mother holding baby, having after-pains with all of those people talking and walking around, I felt protective of her and was thinking "why don't those people get out of there!"

And then I read all the posts! How interesting that nobody seemed to think as I did, but rather thought all those people were supportive, their prescence positive. It just goes to show you that we all want and need such different kinds of supportive environments when we birth. I don't like noise when I birth, and I certainly don't like people touching me or my baby. I would have flipped!

Thank you for sharing the video with us. Congratulations on your sweet baby!
post #23 of 48
Thanks for the video.

I also like how comfortable you and your DH seemed to be naked. I like that it seemed like nice get together.

But OooMG did I want to scream. Ohh that hand!
post #24 of 48
I just watched them again My DS had a nuchal hand and when I was pushing I remember thinking that it didn't feel right. Felt almost "square" compared to "round" with my DD. Once he was born it made sense. It's so rare to see a birth video so long and complete and detailed!
post #25 of 48
Yes thanks for sharing your video with us all It really is lovely!!!
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I watched the video before I read the responses. As I watched it, I had a hard time with all of the people- their comments, their noise, their moving about, people actually touching the baby's head and bag as it emerged. As I watched the new mother holding baby, having after-pains with all of those people talking and walking around, I felt protective of her and was thinking "why don't those people get out of there!"

And then I read all the posts! How interesting that nobody seemed to think as I did, but rather thought all those people were supportive, their prescence positive. It just goes to show you that we all want and need such different kinds of supportive environments when we birth. I don't like noise when I birth, and I certainly don't like people touching me or my baby. I would have flipped!
Actually, I was thinking the same thing. I know everyones experience and desires are different, that is why I did not mention it. I told my husband as I watched that if someone were continually talking to me through contractions like that I would scream at them to shut up! But, that is just me. I remember my first birth, and my Mom verbally "supported me" and all I could think of was "please go away!" But I was too intimidated to say anything.

I have to have quiet and be left alone.
post #27 of 48
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I watched the video before I read the responses. As I watched it, I had a hard time with all of the people- their comments, their noise, their moving about, people actually touching the baby's head and bag as it emerged. As I watched the new mother holding baby, having after-pains with all of those people talking and walking around, I felt protective of her and was thinking "why don't those people get out of there!"

And then I read all the posts! How interesting that nobody seemed to think as I did, but rather thought all those people were supportive, their prescence positive. It just goes to show you that we all want and need such different kinds of supportive environments when we birth. I don't like noise when I birth, and I certainly don't like people touching me or my baby. I would have flipped!

Thank you for sharing the video with us. Congratulations on your sweet baby!
Wow, no, not invasive at all I definitely wanted all of them there and I was very specific about what was an was not okay with me beforehand. I wrote a plan that everyone had to agree to in order to attend and it was absolutely respected. I've always dreamed of birthing in the midst of loved ones. Also, I don't like quiet much and thrive on noise and chaos and busyness. It was just right for me.

Thank you for commenting. That's a really interesting perspective for me to hear.
post #28 of 48
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Thanks for the video.

I also like how comfortable you and your DH seemed to be naked. I like that it seemed like nice get together.

But OooMG did I want to scream. Ohh that hand!
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I just watched them again My DS had a nuchal hand and when I was pushing I remember thinking that it didn't feel right. Felt almost "square" compared to "round" with my DD. Once he was born it made sense. It's so rare to see a birth video so long and complete and detailed!
Yes, definitely the hand! Ouch. That's still the hardest part of the video for me to watch. I didn't watch it at all until I was entirely healed and had already had good sex a time or two! I think if I'd watched it beforehand I would've been pretty panicky anticipating it.

I love that it had the quality of my friends just hanging out together, like we've done so many times. Normal. Birth is normal. Awesome, but normal
post #29 of 48
Oh, I am so crying. Good tears!!

I just now got a chance to watch these videos...and now I will say that this is definitely one of my favorites (ok, it is totally my favorite, but I don't want the rest of my favorites to feel bad )!!! The part where his head is just there, and he is still sleeping because he is still in the caul and doesn't realize he's being born yet...omg, I cried! That is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen! Ever!! Ever, ever!! <3 <3 <3

Thank you SO MUCH for sharing such an incredible story with us. Your videos are so real and true and powerful. Just amazing, truly.

I know you birthed Bastian back in November, but so many congratulations to you, Mama. You and Bastian are just beautiful!!
post #30 of 48
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Oh, I am so crying. Good tears!!

I just now got a chance to watch these videos...and now I will say that this is definitely one of my favorites (ok, it is totally my favorite, but I don't want the rest of my favorites to feel bad )!!! The part where his head is just there, and he is still sleeping because he is still in the caul and doesn't realize he's being born yet...omg, I cried! That is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen! Ever!! Ever, ever!! <3 <3 <3

Thank you SO MUCH for sharing such an incredible story with us. Your videos are so real and true and powerful. Just amazing, truly.

I know you birthed Bastian back in November, but so many congratulations to you, Mama. You and Bastian are just beautiful!!
Thank you!

Comments like yours make me so happy I didn't edit it down much more. I really thought about it and felt really embarrassed about how loud and out of control I was. I'm so pleased that other people are identifying with my experience and getting something out of it

I love the part where his head is just waiting, yes, because he doesn't know. A friend of mine said she loved seeing him resting there between the worlds, which is sorta what that is like. It made me tear up. Even the song...I had 159 birth songs and we just played it on shuffle. "Let It Be" playing - to get really personal, my father died in December. He and I weren't close and had a very complicated relationship, but in December, when he was ill, I'd sing "Let It Be" and think about death and birth and how it all connects. I don't know if I will ever be able to hear that song without crying.
post #31 of 48
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I watched the video before I read the responses. As I watched it, I had a hard time with all of the people- their comments, their noise, their moving about, people actually touching the baby's head and bag as it emerged. As I watched the new mother holding baby, having after-pains with all of those people talking and walking around, I felt protective of her and was thinking "why don't those people get out of there!"

And then I read all the posts! How interesting that nobody seemed to think as I did, but rather thought all those people were supportive, their prescence positive. It just goes to show you that we all want and need such different kinds of supportive environments when we birth. I don't like noise when I birth, and I certainly don't like people touching me or my baby. I would have flipped!
Actually, I was like you when I was in labor. We had a lot of family present at our first birth, but I couldn't stand people talking or being touched at all (not even for the doppler or my vital signs - it almost hurt). My midwife actually commented that I was a "quiet pusher", that most people make a certain amount of noise during birth and I just didn't.

I have read of people using noise in labor, and after actually watching this birth and reading the story I feel like I really understand what that means to people. She used singing and music, yelling and other vocalization, and the verbal encouragement of friends to help manage her labor. It was very different from what I personally would want, but I learned a great deal about what it means to use noise during labor.

On a different subject, I also wouldn't call any of this "screaming". Screaming is high-pitched and usually caused by fear. This was loud, but it still sounded controlled.
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Ok, that was AWESOME, is it weird I instinctively pushed with you lol????? I am not even pregnant!!!!
I did that too!
post #33 of 48
That was awesome!! I screamed my baby out just like that. Thank you for sharing!
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I couldn't stand people talking or being touched at all (not even for the doppler or my vital signs - it almost hurt).
Thank you for describing that I knew that lots of women were more quiet or private, but I've never quite understood that, either. It's so fascinating to me how much variance there is! I felt instantly calmer and in less pain when someone touched me or made eye contact.

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I have read of people using noise in labor, and after actually watching this birth and reading the story I feel like I really understand what that means to people...This was loud, but it still sounded controlled.
Thank you for the compliment! I keep being so glad I posted this. I'm learning alot

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That was awesome!! I screamed my baby out just like that. Thank you for sharing!
"Screamed the baby out!" That's great!
post #35 of 48
Thank you for this video!!! So often the natural birthing videos feature quiet self contained women. I was loud too, and loved counterpressure and having people around helping me. I showed this to my daughter actually and told her I was like this when she was born and I am probably gonna be like this for our next baby. She said she thought that would be fine, and loved seeing your babe born and you happy and smiling and 'okay.' Since watching she has been pretending she is having a baby and pretending she is a loud mama, then a quiet mama, etc. Your vid has really helped her get what I may be like. Thank you!!!
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Thank you for this video!!! So often the natural birthing videos feature quiet self contained women. I was loud too, and loved counterpressure and having people around helping me. I showed this to my daughter actually and told her I was like this when she was born and I am probably gonna be like this for our next baby. She said she thought that would be fine, and loved seeing your babe born and you happy and smiling and 'okay.' Since watching she has been pretending she is having a baby and pretending she is a loud mama, then a quiet mama, etc. Your vid has really helped her get what I may be like. Thank you!!!
Thanks for sharing all of that, especially about your daughter! That's wonderful We watched alot of birth videos with Declan and I remember being worried that they didn't properly communicate how loud I'd likely be. I guess he knows his mama, though I've never been very quiet, period.
post #37 of 48
I'm still thinking about your videos. I was wondering why you couldn't do hands and knees earlier on? Was it something about wanting the water on your back? I kept thinking back labor... hands and knees! But I didn't catch what was being said when you switched and then switched back.

I also think I would be weird about all those people around. But maybe if I had a tribe of RL friends who were more like that, I wouldn't be.

My daughter came out really, really fast. Probably less than 2 minutes from crowning to feet. DH was like "OMG... isn't she gonna push faster... doesn't she need to get him out sooner!?" I think I spoiled him last time and he has no idea what's average.
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I'm still thinking about your videos. I was wondering why you couldn't do hands and knees earlier on? Was it something about wanting the water on your back? I kept thinking back labor... hands and knees! But I didn't catch what was being said when you switched and then switched back.
Keep in mind that the videos were edited WAY down. I was in transition for about 3 hours. I did quite a bit of hands and knees early on, until my knees hurt so badly I needed a break. I agree that I probably should've moved from side lying sooner, but I was being whiny Also, for whatever reason, the way he was position (and maybe his sheer length, stretched out, made any position that scrunched up my torso painful, so stretching out on my side did relieve that pressure. Does that make sense?

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I also think I would be weird about all those people around. But maybe if I had a tribe of RL friends who were more like that, I wouldn't be.
I'm blessed with a wonderful birth culture! Of course, we're all hippies, pagans, and general rebels. Everyone I know closely breastfeeds, doesn't circ and most homebirth, several UC. It's really wonderful.

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My daughter came out really, really fast. Probably less than 2 minutes from crowning to feet. DH was like "OMG... isn't she gonna push faster... doesn't she need to get him out sooner!?" I think I spoiled him last time and he has no idea what's average.
It really does vary alot, doesn't it? Morgan (the long-haired mama nursing the toddler) has always been a super fast pusher and said that she was scared, a bit, at how long my pushing took (about 2 hours). She didn't show it, of course, but she's never seen anything like that in real life before
post #39 of 48
Thank you for sharing your videos and story, they brought tears to my eyes. I'll be giving birth to my second any day now and I hope to do it in a pool too. It was wonderful to see so many people around to love and support you in your hard work. I am a little apprehensive about the pain - after my first I said I wouldn't have any more and here I am again. You blowing through your lips was a good reminder for me to practice that. I feel the need to leave sticky notes around the house to remind me about keeping a loose mouth.
post #40 of 48
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Thank you for sharing your videos and story, they brought tears to my eyes. I'll be giving birth to my second any day now and I hope to do it in a pool too. It was wonderful to see so many people around to love and support you in your hard work. I am a little apprehensive about the pain - after my first I said I wouldn't have any more and here I am again. You blowing through your lips was a good reminder for me to practice that. I feel the need to leave sticky notes around the house to remind me about keeping a loose mouth.
Thanks There were sticky notes all over my house, too, with all sorts of positive birth affirmations. I think you can see a few, little yellow squares on the red hallway wall. I had them up for a few weeks before the birth and they were so helpful!

I hope you have beautiful birth!
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