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My latest update....and you won't believe this!!

post #1 of 20
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Well, its not a tubal pregnancy. So, that's the good news. The tech looked all around in there and did not see any type of mass that would indicate a tubal, so I can cross that off my list of worries.

Here is the interesting, weird, confusing, befuddling part of it all:

There is NO sign of a baby!! ANYWHERE!!! Not only did they not see a baby, a heart beat or any movement, but not even a definite gestational sac could be confirmed. The u/s tech said a time or two, "that area looks like where a gestational sac *may* have started....", but it was nothing that she could confirm.

We are all very confused. I think even the doctor is. I spoke to him on the phone immediately after the u/s was done. He said he believes the pregnancy has developed abnormally. I said, "No, you think?"....trying to keep the mood light (I'd rather laugh than cry). He then told me a story to give me a glimmer of hope:

When he was practicing in Las Vegas, there was a lady with very similar circumstances to mine. He couldn't see a baby via u/s when he should have been able to. He recommended her to have a D&C, but she waited because she had to leave town. 10 days later she was back in his office, ready to have the D&C. He took one final look on the u/s, just to be sure. Lo and behold, there was a baby!! So, I guess it is possible for it to happen. My sister has a neighbor who also had a very similar thing to her, and she went on to have a healthy baby girl.

The only thing I can think of, if there is indeed a baby, is that perhaps it was hiding behind the largish fibroid I found out I have today. Is that possible?

So, I wait. Again. Unless I have a definite m/c in the meantime, I have another u/s scheduled for February 11, and then I see the doc the next day. If there is still no sign of a baby and I haven't m/c, I will undergo a D&C at that time to rid my body of tissues that never turned into a baby. Of course, I hope I have a baby that was just playing hide and seek today.

My body is definitely still pregnant, as evidenced by all the hormone blood tests and my changing body. I told my DH that he's fathered a ghost. (again trying to keep the mood light so I don't get down and depressed)

I'm going to make a list of to-do's this weekend of little projects around the house I'd like to get done, to give me a distraction for the next week and a half. Of course they'll be little things and not strenuous, as I think I should rest as much as possible.

Well, I guess that's about it. I thought I'd have some kind of answer and closure by this time today, but it seems all I got was more puzzling confusion. Keep me in your thoughts and prayers, okay?
post #2 of 20
Oh Amanda - so many thoughts and prayers for you mama and your family!
post #3 of 20
Amanda, you are definitely in my thoughts and prayers! And I feel great hopes that the baby is just not able to be *seen* but is there alive and healthy as can be! :

could that be the reason for the spotting? Because of the fybroid?
post #4 of 20
By any chance has your doctor said if you have a tilted uterus?

I have a tilted uterus and at 7 weeks DS2 could not be seen until I had a vaginal u/s, AND put a pillow under my butt with my fists on top of the pillow. The tech had me freaked out that I had just made the entire pregnancy up in my head until I told her that I had a tilted uterus. That trick worked - we went from seeing nothing to seeing his little heartbeat.

You'll be in my prayers!
post #5 of 20
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Originally Posted by truelife View Post
By any chance has your doctor said if you have a tilted uterus?

I have a tilted uterus and at 7 weeks DS2 could not be seen until I had a vaginal u/s, AND put a pillow under my butt with my fists on top of the pillow. The tech had me freaked out that I had just made the entire pregnancy up in my head until I told her that I had a tilted uterus. That trick worked - we went from seeing nothing to seeing his little heartbeat.

You'll be in my prayers!
Ya know, I'll have to remember that trick and ask if my uterus is tilted. Geez, I wonder if that would have made all the difference????? I wish the doctor would have said so today when he did my pelvic exam. It seems I remember something about that from long ago, but can't say for sure. (although I know my uterus has been a bit on the large side).
post #6 of 20
boy, amanda, what a roller coaster you're on. i'm really pulling for you!!
post #7 of 20
Wow, I hope you are able to keep some kind of sanity through this. I think I would be going crazy. I really, really hope that everything is still ok.
post #8 of 20
not in your DDC but please please please read the stories on misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com

so many people have been misdiagnosed with non-viable pregnancies and no baby seen then have went on to see a perfectly healthy baby on ultrasound sometimes as late as 10 or 11 weeks!

hope this gives you some hope.
post #9 of 20
Wow, how strange! I'm still hoping for a miracle for you!
post #10 of 20
I hope they will keep a close eye on you. The fact that your betas are that high and there is no sign of an intrauterine pregnancy should be really concerning. I don't want to be Debbie Downer, but I hope you will go straight to the ER if you have any unusual pain. I hope that you don't experience that and when you go back you see a perfect pregnancy in the right spot. But do keep a close eye on yourself during the next week...
post #11 of 20
I just wanted to let you know that I am keeping you in my thoughts and hoping the best for you! I know this must be an extremely difficult time. Hugs mama!
post #12 of 20
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Originally Posted by MommytoHHH View Post
I hope they will keep a close eye on you. The fact that your betas are that high and there is no sign of an intrauterine pregnancy should be really concerning. I don't want to be Debbie Downer, but I hope you will go straight to the ER if you have any unusual pain. I hope that you don't experience that and when you go back you see a perfect pregnancy in the right spot. But do keep a close eye on yourself during the next week...
Yes, I'm monitoring myself for any unusual pain. So far its just the mild cramping that I've been having, plus a little extra from all the vaginal/cervical interference I had yesterday with the pelvic exam (which was prolonged since it took them a few minutes to find a huge needle with which to drain that cervical cyst), and then a vaginal u/s that was quite lengthy. I'm going to be resting most of today.
post #13 of 20
Wow, Amanda, what an adventure. I hope it turns out well and ends up being a funny story to tell your little ghost when he or she is born. I'm sure waiting is not fun. * Jaime
post #14 of 20
Oh sweetie, I am so sorry you are going through this. I am sending all of my positive thoughts and prayers to you. Follow your heart and don't let anyone talk you into a D & C if it doesn't feel right. Maybe that sweet baby is just hiding in there somewhere. I'll be thinking of you.
post #15 of 20
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Originally Posted by Shanti_Mom View Post
There is NO sign of a baby!! ANYWHERE!!! Not only did they not see a baby, a heart beat or any movement, but not even a definite gestational sac could be confirmed. The u/s tech said a time or two, "that area looks like where a gestational sac *may* have started....", but it was nothing that she could confirm.

We are all very confused. I think even the doctor is. I spoke to him on the phone immediately after the u/s was done. He said he believes the pregnancy has developed abnormally. I said, "No, you think?"....trying to keep the mood light (I'd rather laugh than cry). He then told me a story to give me a glimmer of hope:

When he was practicing in Las Vegas, there was a lady with very similar circumstances to mine. He couldn't see a baby via u/s when he should have been able to. He recommended her to have a D&C, but she waited because she had to leave town. 10 days later she was back in his office, ready to have the D&C. He took one final look on the u/s, just to be sure. Lo and behold, there was a baby!! So, I guess it is possible for it to happen. My sister has a neighbor who also had a very similar thing to her, and she went on to have a healthy baby girl.
Hi, haven't been following this, but wanted to say (1) I'm really glad for you it's not a tubal pregnancy and (2) something similar happened to a friend at work. Her doc wanted to do a D&C, she went to another doc who said all was fine, and she had a gorgeous healthy baby boy. So good thoughts going out to you! I'm sure it must be enormously stressful for you and I hope you can get some relaxing time in somehow or another...maybe even fun movies to distract yourself for short periods of time?
post #16 of 20
Wow mama, I will definitely be praying that baby is just playing hide and seek with you.
post #17 of 20
i also have a friend who had an early u/s at 6 1/2 weeks and her baby couldn't be found, nothing could be found, they repeated the u/s the next week and lo and behold it was there with a beating heart and measuring 7 1/2 weeks. So hang in there.

I truly think we are not always meant to have such early u/s. This is my fifth pregnancy and only the second one that I have had an early u/s. I usually don't even see my OB until at least 12 weeks pregnant. I had an old OB (I loved him) he used to say "no need in seeing you before 12 weeks, I can't even tell you are pregnant before then". He has moved away and I miss him desperately. I had an early u/s this time because I am old (37) and I wanted genetic testing. The only other time I had an early u/s was when I was 8 weeks pregnant with #1 and it was to ensure that I wasn't having a molar pregnancy or twins since my hyperemesis was so bad.
post #18 of 20
well this sounds like great news compared to the other day!
you know with my daughter they couldnt see her either and recommended i do a d& c as well.. they even sent me home with a pamphlet about how pregnancies end
I declined the d&c, waited another few weeks and low and behold she showed up on my next u/s!
meanwhile i was spotting and bleeding through this whole time as well!
Remember the d&c is just to clean you out and is basically an abortion if youre pregnant still.
Even when I miscarried i refused their d&c's and the placenta came out just fine on its own..
Im so excited that your baby is just hiding on them
what a sneaky little dude!
post #19 of 20
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Originally Posted by TrippyLongstocking View Post
well this sounds like great news compared to the other day!
you know with my daughter they couldnt see her either and recommended i do a d& c as well.. they even sent me home with a pamphlet about how pregnancies end
I declined the d&c, waited another few weeks and low and behold she showed up on my next u/s!
meanwhile i was spotting and bleeding through this whole time as well!
Remember the d&c is just to clean you out and is basically an abortion if youre pregnant still.
Even when I miscarried i refused their d&c's and the placenta came out just fine on its own..
Im so excited that your baby is just hiding on them
what a sneaky little dude!
I think you must have mis-read the thread and read about someone else's baby being seen a bit later, as I still haven't seen mine. But, I do have some encouraging news that I will now post on another new thread.....
post #20 of 20
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Originally Posted by TrippyLongstocking View Post
you know with my daughter they couldnt see her either and recommended i do a d& c as well.. they even sent me home with a pamphlet about how pregnancies end
I declined the d&c, waited another few weeks and low and behold she showed up on my next u/s!
That is UNBELIEVABLE! Why are they so quick to scrape you out like that?
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