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HoneyTree and ... you see where Helen's "shag his brains out" advice got DiD??? well, nuff said.

Gunter, I felt a lot of the same things you talked about in ref to not expecting the baby and struggling with how something so wonderful and unexpected could be so hard to accept. I'm excited, I really am. I'm just going through a bit of an apathetic time right now. Like I know I should be more prepared, mentally, physically, emotionally, materialistically - in terms of stuff for baby and birth (I barely have anything ready *ready*). I don't know if it speaks of an emotional block or just sheer exhaustion from keeping up with the kids. This pg has been way different too. From all the little bumps and illnesses to the now almost bulging varicosity where one shouldn't be... yeah. It's nice to see/know that you've found center and calm.

Amy - great job on the haircut!!! Gabriel's hair is pretty shaggy around the edges because last time I cut his hair he decided he was done before I was. I've really got to trim him up again soon Cutting hair is so hard for me. It's all slippery and hard to get even.

Mel- on the car. I'm curious to see what solution we're gonna have to come up with once the lease is up on our vehicle (stupid, stupid, stupid decision that we got talked into... ugh). But that's not for another year I think.


Well, willem's bday is next tuesday, and I have almost all his presents together. As usual, I feel pretty clueless when it comes to birthdays and celebrations. I posted in my current ddc in a thread about baby showers how it's always sort of been an afterthought for me/baby (as far as the people planning it are concerned). Then I happened to mention how my mother has never celebrated ANYTHING , any milestone in my life - ever. Not graduation (either time), no bridal anything, no baby anything... nothing. Ever. No wonder I have such a hard time planning celebrations.
Anyway. I have to figure out what to send with Willem on Tuesday to preschool... I was thinking some sort of cupcakey muffins. He really wants chocolate so that's what I'll probably make. Any suggestions on recipes are appreciated
My parents are coming on Saturday. Mom is bringing dinner and cake and everything so I "dont' have to do anything" but of course I do. I have to clean up around here (I soooooo have kids who hate tidiness, spughy), have to finish up a few projects I have lying around and have to go get Willem a present from my parents... my mom said she had spent three hours shopping for him and just decided to send $50 for his present. Because she is so invested in doing things to help ME out! Actually, she asked him what he wanted and he said he wanted a remote control helicopter (the one we saw on display the ONE time we went to the mall at Christmastime to walk, not shop). Ugh. It's this one. and it's not for little kids. He's gonna break it in minutes. And then freak out about it. So I told my mom exactly what kind he wanted. And instead of going to THAT store and getting it, she put it on me (that mall is almost 40 min away). And I don't want to get it for him... ugh. But I can't find an acceptable alternative either.
Dh took the morning off and we went shopping. But because I rarely go to "normal" stores, I didn't know where to go and didn't really find anything. We ended up getting plants for the office and I scored some postpartum sized tops at Goodwill for a buck each.
He's getting a new bike from us (outgrew his from last year) that I got for a penny from target (had merchandise credit from there for xmas presents I returned). And new playshoes that have velcro closures (they are cheap Carter's brand ones). I'd like to get him rain boot/goloshes and a child sized umbrellla but haven't had any luck with finding those. I was thinking about sewing him a play costume (he's so into firemen right now) but I just don't have the umph. I pulled out the sewing machine a few days ago to rehem a pile of pants and take in some waistbands for the boys and spent three HOURS doing it and I'm done in as far as sewing is concerned. I thought about knitting him some play food but I'm on a baby knitting roll so nix'd that idea. I feel like such a bad mom because it's important to me (planning his day) but I just don't know what to do... sigh.

Fern, if you're still online, know that I'm gonna miss you!!!!
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Monique, I know - what is up with not being able to find rain boots? I did have some luck on E-bay actually, but never bought them. They had quite a few, though, so you might want to check.

As far as the birthday party thing goes, I really think the "themed" parties are a bit over-the-top these days. Brynn's birthday was so simple, and I enjoyed it so much more. But that's just my 2 cents. I hope that whatever you decide will be special for you and your big boy!

Gunter, my PhD area is language disorders resulting from neurological degeneration, so I study the change in the sounds of language that Alzheimer's patients experience as the disease progresses. It is actually interesting and I like it, but as I told Jason the other night...it's just not the same now that I'm a mama. I'm going up to my university next week to talk to my advisors and the dean of graduates to just get a really clear picture of what I would be committing to if I do go back. Right now I feel like 70/30 that I will choose to do it, but am just so scared of making the "wrong" decision. By this time next week I should have a decision either way. I really have been asking myself, "OK, if I don't do this, what would I want to do?" and nothing really clear has emerged, so... I might be won over purely by the pragmatics of the situation: I have the time to do it now, it won't cost me any more money, the hardest work is behind me, and I'll be pretty darn employable in 3 year's time. On paper, it seems like a no-brainer.

Sleeping and weaning - things are going smoothly in both areas. It's a breeze to get Brynn to sleep, and she's even napping now without nursing to sleep, which is a majorly huge deal, in my opinion. We've been nursing ~2 times a day (and none at night) for the past few days, or maybe a week, and have even managed to skip the wake-up nursing on most days *without incident*! It has caused her to want to get up for the day closer to 6:30 rather than 7:30 or 8:00, but it is actually fine because then I know for sure she's going to take a nap and that she'll be ready for bed by 8:00 - 8:30pm. So it's working out. I actually didn't think it would be this easy, and it definitely still feels like the right choice to me.

In other news, I'm getting my hair cut tomorrow, probably back to the pixie style that I always go back to! Long hair is just not for me. I'm excited! How are you feeling about your hair these days, Jen? Oh and speaking of hair, thanks for the Kudos on Brynn's new style. I totally love it, and am glad I decided to do it.

Oh, and check out this fun little gadget I came across today.


SAFE TRAVELS, FERN AND FAMILY!!! :
post #43 of 213
Monique, bringing out my inner heartless bitch, just give him the money and take him shopping at your leisure. In recent years, my otherwise cool mother has given up on shoopping for the grandkids (and FIL just won't/ can't) so my guys have come to appreciate the value of cold hard cash and free rein to buy something unsuitable I think we started doing that somewhere between 3 and 5 ???
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HoneyTree and ... you see where Helen's "shag his brains out" advice got DiD??? well, nuff said.
It's good advice.
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Mamas, thanks for the kind words and hugs regarding my baby wanting and noncommittal partner, as well as my recently passed would-have-been due date. I noticed it as it approached, but never really thought of it as the time that I should have a newborn. The way I see it, if I should have had a newborn in February, I would have. But the universe had other plans.

I took y'all's advice and did talk with dh about babymaking in a very straight-forward kind of way, and while we have had the talk several times before, I was consciously thinking of it as what Mel called a "clothes on" talk, which I took to mean unclouded by romanticism and emotion (while trying to recognize that those are both factors in all that we do with lovers).

It was fruitful. He reiterated that he would have been OK having no kids at all, and has no desire to have any more. I reiterated that I did and do want children, and I'd like Woody to have a sibling who's close in age, which now means having a baby within a year or two.

We talked about our mutual aversion to artificial birth control and how we share an appreciation for fertility and the life cycle that it perpetuates.

He said he wants our situation to stabilize some.

I said that life is almost always as stable as it's ever going to be.

So we agreed to meet around random screwing, which is to say exactly what we've been doing, only now mindfully and in explicit agreement. And that does feel eversomuch better.
post #46 of 213
That sounds like a beautiful talk and decision.
post #47 of 213
It really does. Sigh. I'm starting to feel my sex drive kicking in already, and I don't want it to. This week has gone far too fast.

Honeytree, have I ever told you how much I love you? I know that for me, nine months after conception is always a wonky time for me hormonally, regardless of whether I'm holding newborns, heavily pregnant, unpregnant or slightly pregnant with another one, which is why I mention it.
post #48 of 213
teresa- can i just say, again that i want you to move to my town? you two are so precious in your talks! i am glad that you got it all out there with him and were able to get to a place that you are both comfy with.

oh, sex...what it must be like to have it freely. i am so nervous about pre-term labor that poor DH is counting down the days until 38 weeks!

monique- thanks for relating with me about the pregnancy stuff. i am just really starting to get excited now. i even had a sweet baby dream last night; i have only had two other baby dreams the whole time. sorry that it has been hard for you, too. you are such a fabulous, inspiring mama. i hate that it's nor been easy to get our heads together about this next babe. like, they so deserve it but it's so hard to get there. each day longer that i am preggo though i am really working on welcoming in my heart. welcome baby! willem will be so happy however things go down for his birthday, you know? we overdid gifts (even though, like you they were thrift store stuff or needy things like kid utensils) for christmas and realized ez would have been so happy had we done it differently. just the experience of friends and the vibe of a time special for them is so fun.

amy- sounds interesting and unique! sorry that you aren't super stoked about it right now. perhaps once you are in the enviro of academia, again, the passion will come to you. i did research after undergrad for my university and TA'd a class connected to it. it seems so far from me now but i absolutely loved it then. i miss school, for sure most days but find it hard to consider all the work it would be for me, personally to go back right now. if it fits your life though, why not go for it? I am soooo glad that things are so easy with weaning and sleeping! i too, was so surprised by how easy it was for ezra once she was ready. i always thought she'd nurse until she was 5.

i know pregnancy played a role in her weaning some though. so, we'll see how nursing a newborn tempts her tummy once the babe is born...LATER THIS MONTH! WOW! I am 37 weeks today and you all remember that ez was born at my 37th week. so, send me sticky vibes b/c i want to be preggo a lil bit longer and get prepared a lil more for welcoming this babe. and, i want the babe to cook and be full of life so i don't have to worry about low birth weight (ez was barely 5 pounds) or have nursing struggles, etc. I feel in the clear for having a homebirth (ez's labor and birth were fabulous at home) but just want the babe to get more growth time. totally, i trust babes to come when they want to come.

my mother's blessing is sunday! i am so stoked about it!
post #49 of 213
Oh Gunter- I'm so excited for u! Time is wearing down....but I'll send u sticky vibes anyway. :
post #50 of 213
Wow, Gunter, is it that time already????? I'm almost sort of shocked! For some reason I had you due a little bit later in my mind--maybe because you kept it secret for so long, and probably also because of Monique--I have you two sort of clumped together in my mind as the next "crop" of babies!!

I've had a bit of trouble getting on here (MDC) the last few times, and then also have had not much time or inclination to post, so I am just saying hello to you all. I do try to read along and keep up though, even when I don't post.

The image of me I would like you all to hold in your minds in the coming weeks is that of an efficient and orderly person whose life and household is running smoothly with nothing left out. Something between a perky camp counselor with a whistle and a clipboard, and a drill seargent!!! I am working on changing things with Ella's sleep schedule (and ours) and I am feeling that I need to whip things into shape in all areas around here now so that I can accomplish what I want to. I have also reached a point where I realize that I just have to suck it up and put Ella in preschool or get more babysitting or do *something* so that my own needs are being met on a regular basis. Things cannot go on like they have been, and the reasons for that don't really matter--it just IS. I think that my health and my happiness and my marriage are not going to survive otherwise, and that will ultimately be worse for Ella too than just adding a few more hours with a beloved babysitter to the week, so there you have it. The money spent will come back in some other way. DH and I are going out together tonight, so it's our first date in a really, really long time!

So that's life here. Have to go get a few things done before she wakes up from her nap, so hugs and to everyone!!
post #51 of 213
You go girl Sometimes a little light "home management folder"ality can be good for the soul.
Gunter, isn't it 37 weeks today? Hee-hee. And kaspirant turns 37 weeks next week, and she has previous form for going early too... actually, that's a scary thought. Where IS kaspirant, and why hasn't she posted in a while???
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Where IS kaspirant, and why hasn't she posted in a while???
That is a great question....

Yeppers 36 weeks on the button today and....

I JUST finished my LAST day of work... I am now officially a SAHM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Today was perfect. I will cherish my 6+ years I spent teaching, but I will not regret this decision to be mama for at least the next 5 years. I am stoked!!

My internet at home has been on the fritz and I have been unable to get online at home, and with this being my last week of work it's been crazy here so I'm barely following along here. We have the cable peeps coming out tomorrow to figure out what the heck is going on and why it's not working so hopefully it will be up and running soon.

I'm working my butt off feeding my freezer for after Leah arrives. I am getting anxious and ready, feeling miserably pregnant..and trying not to complain about it because I really prefer being miserably pregnant to leaving my baby in the NICU. That was so horrific for me...4 more weeks to go until the in-laws arrive and then I'm good to go anytime after that...sure would be nice to have them here for Jacob so he can have some serious love and attention when I'm in the hospital.

My students threw me a baby shower today and I ended up with....8 new outfits for Leah ranging in size from newborn to 12 months, some booties, a blanket, a toy from tupperware, a pack of onesies and a giftcard to Target. WoW...my kids hated me all year but now that I'm leaving and the new teacher is taking over...they love me again....part of that is because of how horrid the new one is...but that is another story and doesn't really belong here anyway.

So, yeah. I'm here and still pregnant... 2 weeks more pregnant, to be exact, than I have ever been before!!!!
post #53 of 213
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So, yeah. I'm here and still pregnant... 2 weeks more pregnant, to be exact, than I have ever been before!!!!
Congrats on that.
And on becoming a SAHM

It's so hard to hear how miserably pg you 36 & 37 wkers are... I'm miserable already. I had a mw apt today and everything is fine. Baby has got some weird shoulder/elbow jab thing going on with my uterosacral ligament that has me jumping in pain every so often. S/he is burrowed down into my pelvis already and my pubic bone is so sore. I've officially got a vulval varicosity but it's under control. We (mw and I) watched Gabriel's birth video and talked about how unprepared I feel and how it's okay.

I cleaned the house like a madwoman today and it's back to looking shabby again.

I cooked lunch and dinner (well, dinner was a variation on lunch's leftovers) AND washed the dishes. I guess my energy levels are increasing again.

And so is my weight!!! I gained 10 pounds in 2 1/2 weeks!!!! Sheesh. I haven't changed a thing as far as food intake/quality is concerned. Oh well
post #54 of 213
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So, yeah. I'm here and still pregnant... 2 weeks more pregnant, to be exact, than I have ever been before!!!!
Congrats on that.
And on becoming a SAHM

It's so hard to hear how miserably pg you 36 & 37 wkers are... I'm miserable already. I had a mw apt today and everything is fine. Baby has got some weird shoulder/elbow jab thing going on with my uterosacral ligament that has me jumping in pain every so often. S/he is burrowed down into my pelvis already and my pubic bone is so sore. I've officially got a vulval varicosity but it's under control. We (mw and I) watched Gabriel's birth video and talked about how unprepared I feel and how it's okay. And how my mom's view of birthing etc (and the fact she is scheduled for yet another surgery to repair the breech birth and prolapsing damage from 29 years ago down there) is irritating me and how I'm trying to not let it affect my birthing psyche.

I cleaned the house like a madwoman today and it's back to looking shabby again. My parents will just have to deal with it tomorrow.

I cooked lunch and dinner (well, dinner was a variation on lunch's leftovers) AND washed the dishes. I guess my energy levels are increasing again.

And so is my weight!!! I gained 10 pounds in 2 1/2 weeks!!!! Sheesh. I haven't changed a thing as far as food intake/quality is concerned. Oh well
post #55 of 213
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So, yeah. I'm here and still pregnant... 2 weeks more pregnant, to be exact, than I have ever been before!!!!
Congrats on that.
And on becoming a SAHM

It's so hard to hear how miserably pg you 36 & 37 wkers are... I'm miserable already. I had a mw apt today and everything is fine. Baby has got some weird shoulder/elbow jab thing going on with my uterosacral ligament that has me jumping in pain every so often. S/he is burrowed down into my pelvis already and my pubic bone is so sore. I've officially got a vulval varicosity but it's under control. We (mw and I) watched Gabriel's birth video and talked about how unprepared I feel and how it's okay. And how my mom's view of birthing etc (and the fact she is scheduled for yet another surgery 2 weeks before my due date to repair the breech birth and prolapsing damage from 29 years of not having it fixed down there) is irritating me and how I'm trying to not let it affect my birthing psyche.

I cleaned the house like a madwoman today and it's back to looking shabby again. My parents will just have to deal with it tomorrow.

I cooked lunch and dinner (well, dinner was a variation on lunch's leftovers) AND washed the dishes. I guess my energy levels are increasing again.

And so is my weight!!! I gained 10 pounds in 2 1/2 weeks!!!! Sheesh. I haven't changed a thing as far as food intake/quality is concerned. Oh well
post #56 of 213
Hello hello everyone! I guess we've got a new batch o' babies coming soon! Exciting!

Not much new in our neck of the woods. Rowan had a bit of a rough week - she overindulged in some elk heart and it was too rich in iron for her, and it bunged her up quite badly. Poor little monkey. She finally pushed a big poop out the other night and felt better right away, but she had a bad couple of days.

I'm in the midst of preparation for a big dinner I'm cooking tomorrow night - I was the raffle prize for a foodbank fundraiser at my old office. I didn't have any jams or anything to donate so I just offered me, and a good meal. So I get to cook a delicious 3-course meal of all yummy stuff for a (hopefully) appreciative audience tomorrow night... and write all the expenses off as a charitable donation. I'm doing giant ravioli stuffed with hubbard squash, goat cheese and free-range bacon served with a light rosemary bechamel, then a classic but upscale oxtail stew with a potato-celeriac puree and mead-braised greens, then I invented a dessert (which Bobby Flay TOTALLY ripped off : I hate telepathic tv chefs.) - a cheesecake tarte tatin. It's going to be sooooo good. And, except the flour, salt and sugar, it's a 100% local meal. And there's not much flour, sugar or salt in it, so, it's like a 95% local meal . Good enough.

My mom's coming to visit in a month, yay! And we get to go over to Vanc next weekend to meet up with both my sisters, who are both passing through Vancouver at the same time (different destinations) and it'll be nice to see them. But it means an early morning to catch the ferry, ugh!
post #57 of 213
Spughy, your local meal has me drooling even more for the farmer's market re-opening. I nearly had a meltdown at all the little pre-packaged vegetables at Trader Joe's this morning.

Gunter and Kaspirant~ Congrats to both of you on making and passing pregnancy milestones! And enjoy your SAHM-hood, Kaspirant.

Teresa, I'm glad you had the talk with your DH and have some happy random screwing in your future (and I'm glad that you weren't offended by my advice, either) And I hope that it results in a random pregnancy and baby for you, too

Kavita, enjoy your much needed date. And I hope that your re-organization is fruitful.

My car seems officially fixed, and I'm just waiting for the next major rainstorm to confirm it. I'm resisting the temptation to run the garden hose over it to check.

Neela seems to have made another leap towards kid-ness lately. She's really funny, and makes up jokes just to see my reaction. Between that and the constant pretending we have a lot of fun together.

Does everyone feel like there's a momentum shift with so many of the Nov 05 mamas right now? Between the recent and impending births, career considerations, etc. it seems like a lot of us are having major transitions. I've been browsing job boards and getting ready to move back to Canada, and feel transition and change so strongly right now. I'm excited but also a bit intimidated to be making long-term/future plans for how and where we want to live. Anyone else?
post #58 of 213
Yup- kind of "age of aquarian" ish. You know the really cool thing though? It's actionary- not reactionary We're evolving because we want to, not because we have to/ are skint/ whatever. There's a lot of conscious thought towards moving our families in the direction we choose, and I : that.
post #59 of 213
Ok, Sarah, put me down for some of those raffle tickets - I am drooling on my keyboard here!! : Glad poor Rowan is feeling better - it is so hard to have them go through rough things, isn't it?

Kavita, I have no trouble imagining you all organized and happy and getting the time you need. I am sure you will make it happen, and you shouldn't feel any guilt about getting that time you need. I am exploring my options for that too, and feeling like the bad mama for wanting some "me time" but we are better mamas for it.

Kaspirant, congrats on getting further along in your pg, and on being a SAHM! Sending sticky vibes to all these precious babes (Gunter's too!!) to cook til they are truly ready!

Monique, it's wonderful to hear that you are regaining some energy - and the weight gain is good, too - your babe is growing strong and healthy in there. I just hope with you that you can be a bit more comfortable! Move, baby!

Helen, I love what you said, am going to meditate on it and post it on my 'frig! I am choosing to evolve. Our family is moving in the direction we choose. You are our wise woman, you know. Your son is beautiful, btw! I hope Skye is coping a bit better for you. How are the boys doing with the change in your family?

We are changing here, too, good things like Ella being so verbal and playful and just a joy to be with, and iffy things like my DH facing travelling for work again, which I just really do not want.....
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Your son is beautiful, btw!
Wait! What? Helen's posted pictures of the wee one? Where!?!?!
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