- sorry to hear about the daycare. Our home daycare was essentially a nanny-share, and when she only had 2 other kids, I felt really comfortable with her ability to respond to L's needs quickly. VA allows in-home DCP's to have 5 kids at a time, which happened right before we left- I was less comfy at that point, especially because 4 of the 5 were mobile.
CJ and Natalia
, I am also sorry about your fathers.
Labor- I'm not a good example, but the worst things about my labor were (a) it was too early, and (b) my cervix had to be manually dilated. I had cervial cancer 15 years ago or so, and 2 surgeries for it, so it was covered in scar tissue. I effaced almost completely by 26 weeks (and was in an irregular labor pattern from then until I delivered at 33 weeks), but only naturally dilated to a 3 or so after my water broke.
Not advocating it for people with normal, uncomplicated pregnancies (of course), but I had a very interventional labor
and *asked* for a c-section; I'd had hip surgery 6 weeks before getting pregnant, and my ortho was afraid my hip would dislocate during a vaginal delivery (apparently this has happened to women who have this type of procedure close to childbirth). I got an epi pretty early because of spinal anomalies (yes, I'm an orthopedic wreck), but it didn't do much because scar tissue blocked it from numbing my right side. My OB convinced me to try a vaginal delivery because L was so early and probably small. He had some late decels just before and during pushing, and it turned out the cord was wrapped around his neck tightly- twice. Had he been a bigger babe, I probably would have ended up in an emeregency c-section. DH's job during pushing was to hold my bad leg stationary so it did NOT get pulled back and out of the socket. Elizabeth
, my eyes also felt like they were going to shoot out of my skull when I pushed! My water broke at 6 pm, and L was born at 5:55. I think I only had to push 4 times? I got pitocin at 4:30 and went from 4 cm to 10 in an hour. Ouch. My problem with the prospect of subsequent pregnancies is that I have a lot of scar tissue from endometriosis as well. I can feel, when I get my period, where some has grown back since I had L. That's why I had contractions for so long (only my scarred cervix prevented me from having him at 26 weeks). *IF* we ever have another (which we aren't planning), I will need a cerclage in the 1st trimester, and may need to be on bedrest for most of the pregnancy. Right- with a little one in the house this time. I am terrified of a much earlier babe if we attempt this again. I was told I couldn't conceive naturally, (TRIGGER ALERT) lost a twin early in the 2nd trimester, and was told until around 24 weeks that I probably didn't have a viable pregnancy. I am not a religious person, but L seems like a miracle to me...don't know if I want to chance it again.
Had L's EI evaluation yesterday- he qualifies for PT. Will do a separate post.
Saw a bobcat sitting on our deck this AM, looking in our front door. Ack!