I wrote a reply to this hours ago and the computer ate it. I'll try again:
Originally Posted by Sierra
I have just begun working in a new church, and two of the staff smoke several times each day outside the entry way upstairs from my office. There is a huge, heavy steel "fire door" between my office and that staircase. Yet, there are times when I am in a meeting in my office, with both the door to my office and the door to the stairway completely closed, and all of the sudden, everyone starts to smell smoke. Why should we be subjected to that? It gives me a headache, and when my ds is with me, if it lingers too long the wheezing starts and this can be a prelude to an outright awful asthma attack.
Have you talked to the staff members? Approached them nicely and explain that the cig smoke is bugging you? They probably have no idea that it reaches your office. I've personally found that smokers are pretty amenable to moving or putting out a cig. if they know i'm bothered, and esp if i ask politely and dont try to make it into a moral issue. Your experience may vary of course. I think a big reason why there are always crowds of smokers around doors outside is that there is no place to smoke *inside* (due to anti-smoking regulations), and these people can't stray far because they have to get back to work. Dont know what the solution to that is, other than forcing everyone to quit.
|Peanut allergies are awful, but most folks do not suffer ill effects from being exposed to peanut oils. In fact, peanuts can be a wonderful, nutritious part of a healthy diet for lots of folks. However, cig smoke is never nutritious, and is harmful to all people whether or not you are like my child for whom it can be deadly.
My point about peanuts was not how dangerous it is or isnt for your child. My point was that as soon as you leave your house, you are no longer in control of what other people do. Its a risk. It sucks, but thats reality. And if smoking in a certain place is NOT illegal (some places it is, some it isnt), then you risk being around smoke. You can choose to ask the person to put it out, they can comply or not. You can choose to move to a different area of the park. But the smoker doesnt *have* to comply just because you want them to. I think they should, and most smokers i've ever been in contact with would be happy to move away from your child, or sit in a way that smoke isnt going right to your child....but if they choose not to, unfortunately, thats an issue you'd have to deal with at the time and decide whether you need to leave or stay and expose your child.
Its not like the OP was in a crowded elevator with a smoker, or in a place she "had" to be, like work. She was in an open air park. Is it "unfair" that her child would have to move to a different piece of equiptment because of a smoker, yeah i guess so. But its not really an issue *I* would choose to get into a confrontation w/ a stranger over.
I guess the thing that bothers me (i'm a nonsmoker btw), is the overall tone conversations about smoking take...like its a moral issue, those horrible smokers who dont care if they are killing those around them. My sister smokes. I hate that she smokes, because i know it is destroying her health, doesnt help her kid's breathing issues any, she spends TONS of money on cigs., and i end up smelling like smoke if i spend even a few minutes in her car or home (she only smokes in the enclosed sunroom, not her main house anymore, now that she has moved to a newer house)....but i *know* that it is an ADDICTION, one that is VERY VERY difficult to kick. She smoked for like 30 years, then had a health scare and was able to quit (was in the hosp. for several days which helped)...she quit for a whole YEAR....then the addiction sucked her back in and she smokes more than ever before. Its sad. But it doesnt make her a bad person.