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post #81 of 176
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I am stupid.

Jo wants to take T to a baseball game this evening, free tickets for the home opener, and it starts at 6:05, so my task today was to get him to take a nap.

This kid doesn't nap anymore very much (now and then, if he's had a lousy night's sleep), so this is proving to be an effort in futility. The big problem is that (1) *I* need the nap, and (2) I told him he can't go to the baseball game if he hasn't had a nap. I figured this might be a very big motivator, because there are a lot of special things that go along with baseball games, including a lollipop on the train ride there and a hot dog during the game. (Go, nitrates. bleah) Well, I guess I figured totally incorrectly, because he is nowhere near sleeping. Usually I can rock him for a while and he dozes off in my arms, but today he was just one big wiggling worm, and I could actually feel (!!!) my uterus when he would sit on it. I tried to adjust him so that he wasn't putting weight on it but of course then he immediately said that HUUUUUUUUUURT! so we tried moving over to the bed and falling asleep there but that turned into "how much can I bug mom before she cracks?" - poking at my face, kicking me, covering my face with blankets. I did crack.

Being laden with hormones and sleep-deprived doesn't help.

And just now I went into the bedroom and found that he had shaken baby powder all over the place which means I'm going to have to change the g-d sheets before bed tonight because Jo will b* + moan otherwise.

Telling him that he can't go if he doesn't sleep was quite obviously the absolute dumbest thing I could ever have said to him because I more than want the two of them to go, I feel like I *need* them to go.

Shall we add insult to injury? It's supposed to snow 8 inches before this storm quits tomorrow.

Someone find me a rock to crawl under.

And I wanted TWO children?! Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...
post #82 of 176
Jen!
post #83 of 176
Jen=
During the first trimester I was pregnant with Gingy (and Lulu was about 1 year old), I was a horrendous mother. I was SO tired. One day I volunteered to let my husband go away for a morning to the zendo (sunday morning). It meant four hours alone with Lulu (which I did every week day). But sunday was My rest day! Anyway.... my husband came home to find us both crying...I was so exhausted and frazzled. I had actually thrown a plastic toy across the room I had gotten so upset. We had both fallen apart after that...

chin up

liz
post #84 of 176
hello just wanted to sub to the thread. I have two boys one is five born in 02 and the other is Jacob born in september of 04. would love to know other moms with children Jacobs age. Thanks
post #85 of 176
Krystal!
post #86 of 176
Hi Krystal - welcome!! jump on in!

Jen - hugs! Yeah, we don't share with moms of 1 how terribly miserable it is to parent while pregnant. It spoils our recruiting plans to let the word out. Lemme just say that I regularly turned on the TV to PBS, put out a bowl of dry cereal and crawled back to bed during my pg with Eli. Not my proudest moments...but mama needed some s-l-e-e-p! (that was when clint was commuting m-f). I've found that using the words "You need to X if you want to Y" instead of "you have to X if you want to Y" gives me an out clause, and also reminds me to explain why it's important (not that reason works in every case, but it's a nice idea)

Gotta run - getting ready for parent-teacher conferences tomorrow night. My 6 students take a lot of time to prepare for!

RObin and Clint get back from their fishing trip tonight. They've been gone since Thursday, and I miss them so!
post #87 of 176
Oh boy jen, I hear ya! My emotions are running rampant, too. And the nonstop winter just makes it worse...

Hi Krystal! Welcome and jump on in!
post #88 of 176
Hey ya'll!!! You are keeping it happenin' around here! Congrats Jen! Ceci will pick some smilies for you now...

Becca; so sorry to hear about Clint's job! Bummer. I hope that it works out okay... although you two seem pretty resourceful.

Anna; nursing wha...?!! I hate stressful jobs. Not worth it! Tell us all!

Augs; congrats and you'll love three. It's got to be better than going from 1 to 2.

Snow- yep, we got it. 3 or 4 or 5 inches or something. Will spring never come?!! We took the one, and I mean only one, nice day we had to pick up sticks and dog doo from the yard. Carl is Mr. Explorer and I had to get it all cleaned up for him. Now we just need the snow to melt... again!

Well, Ceci has some sort of crazy virus going through her; so she's spent the morning napping on the couch. Carl woke at 9 and by 11:30 he wanted to go back to bed... so I'd better take advantage of this and get something done.
post #89 of 176
I can't believe y'all are still dealing with snow. Here I am resenting having to wear long sleeves again. It was getting pretty and spring-like, but everytime I think I can put away the kids long sleeves, it cools off again. I know mid summer i'll be whining about the heat, but I am itching for spring.

I have to figure out preschool stuff for Robin, like, now. for next year I mean. Where I am, everything fills up by april. I have a spot for her at the school where I teach (which is a crunchy coop), but it's nearly twice the cost of the UU church preschool (also crunchy, it's called Atlanta Progressive preschool, but not coop - and that's where Eli is in PMO on the days I work). And the public pre-K is apparently great in my district (and free). And she likes her current school, and I like that they have heavy emphasis on music. Pretty much we're picking between my school (www.oakhurstcoop.com) and eli's school (www.atlantaprogressivepreschool.org) because we can't handle juggling 3 schools again. It just seems too early to be making these decisions. But when i tried to enroll her last summer, every program I was interested in was on waitlist only.
post #90 of 176
Hang in there Jen! It does eventually get better, but first it gets alot worse... sorry. you will make it through this, don't beat yourself up to much. It sounds like T is really challenging right now, remember, It is just a phase, things WILL change. They always change.

gotta scoot...
post #91 of 176
How does one keep a 3.5 year old out of the refrigerator??? Last night I found DD : bacon (cooked, thankfully).

She also emptied an entire bottle of Prossage Heat on my desk last night while she should have been asleep. Thank goodness the keyboard was put away! It was everywhere: on money, on the floor, on papers, on the chair -- I walked in to the smell of menthol goodness. Boy, was my nose burning about 15 minutes later!
post #92 of 176
It's funny you should mention the fridge... I've been encouraging mielle to open the fridge herself and look for food instead of whining to me about how she's thirsty. she hasn't been messing with food yet, maybe i should rethink this....

My MIL was here this last weekend and I was amazed at all the things she had Mielle doing for herself, and I thought it was pretty cool. Granted, Mielle is very careful and doesn't ususally break stuff. If she was a rough and tumble boy i might be more concerned. She dropped and broke her snow globe from christmas the other day and was so sad that it was broken, poor thing!

Well i finally went to the doctor about my cough, had it for over 3 months... he was pretty horrified by the sound of my lungs and has me taking prednizone in addition to 2 inhalers, but i'm feeling way better already! Hate the nervous energy the prednazone gives me though... urgh. At least it's only for a week!

Love to all
post #93 of 176
Opps double entry, pushed the button twice!

It's funny you should mention the fridge... I've been encouraging mielle to open the fridge herself and look for food instead of whining to me about how she's thirsty. she hasn't been messing with food yet, maybe i should rethink this....

My MIL was here this last weekend and I was amazed at all the things she had Mielle doing for herself, and I thought it was pretty cool. Granted, Mielle is very careful and doesn't ususally break stuff. If she was a rough and tumble boy i might be more concerned. She dropped and broke her snow globe from christmas the other day and was so sad that it was broken, poor thing!

Well i finally went to the doctor about my cough, had it for over 3 months... he was pretty horrified by the sound of my lungs and has me taking prednizone in addition to 2 inhalers, but i'm feeling way better already! Hate the nervous energy the prednazone gives me though... urgh. At least it's only for a week!

Love to all
post #94 of 176
Anna - I was diagnosed with asthma after Robin's birth. I may have had it before, but never knew/had any attacks. I've wondered if there was any relation, but never heard of a connection. I was on a daily inhaler, but let my prescription run out. Now I have more asthma attacks and my lung capacity is terribly low. I just *hate* being on a daily medicine
post #95 of 176
Thread Starter 
becca - homeopathy is very effective against asthma... if you can afford to pay the homeopath
post #96 of 176
Lobelia is supposed to be really effective, too. It's an anti-spasmodic herb.
post #97 of 176
And the hits just keep on coming... My grandmother is dying. She took a sudden very downward turn and went to the hospital tuesday night, and has since been in ICU. She has a DNR, etc. so they moved her to a regular room so she can have visitors while her systems shut down. It's sad, but she's 88 so it's not really unexpected (although she's been in good health and it all happened very quickly). But once again having to explain and sort out death with the little girl is just no fun. ANd my brother, though on the path to recovery, is still struggling with mental health issues, so he doesn't fully understand what is going on - enough to know she's dying, not enough to sort out how he feels about that. And my aunt lost her child care. so my 11 year old cousin is also in the mix (from the other side of the family, no relation to my grandmother - but another person trying to sort it all out). My folks are watching him this week (my aunt is a long-haul trucker and single parent and the worst excuse for a parent I know).
post #98 of 176
Becca, that sounds so hard. I haven't yet had to deal with grandparents dying (except for my grandfather when I was very young) but I often think about how difficult it will be.

I am so depressed. Ever since Feb I have been struggling with living here in Homer, and fighting off feelings of hating it and depression. We just went down to Seattle for a week and I felt like a different person there. I was such a better mother... it was 70 degrees. We got back and we still have two feet of snow in our yard, it's 30 degrees and windy. I don't know how to make myself like it here, how to make myself happy. Tony doesn't want to move but he said if I feel like "slashing my wrists" that he will move. Um, how can I drag him back? Anyway, I just don't know what to do. Even when I think about summer I just think about how I want to go to seattle and spend it there, since Tony will be fishing all summer anyway.

Sigh. There's my dilemma!!
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post #100 of 176
sorry to sub and run just wondering is this for moms that are pregnant know or for sept of 04 just wondering cause i dont want to be on the wrong thread. My youngest and last child was born september of 04(not by choice was he my last ) I had to have a emergency hysterectomy. So that is why i am asking if i am on the wrong thread. I would love to talk to moms of with kids born then and see how their 3.5 year olds are doing. Mine is : but usually he is jumpers: So any help bieng better at GD would be helpful. I have a problem yelling and i know that is just me. I hated it that my mother yelled all the time and know i do what is wrong with me.
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