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post #21 of 59
Welcome to February everyone!

Maya and I are doing well and I had dinner with a great friend tonight who is also in the biMama realm and it was fun to talk about the days of our youth....

We are flying to the Big Island on Saturday to hang with family, my best friend, and an online girlfriend who has a son Maya's age who is on vacation there - poor thing, it's pouring rain/flooding. SO much for Hawaiian paradise. I feel bad telling her that I thought Hawaii in February would be nice - oops. It's nice on MY island

We got a hand-me-down Learning tower and made orange zest sugar cookies and clementine infused frosting. I pipe the design and Maya is in charge of sprinkles - we did it once at Christmas too, this time we sent boxes to her Dad in England and her Grandmother in New York. Suzie freaking homemaker here people
post #22 of 59
Thread Starter 
wow, kmm, enjoy your trip!
I bought plane tickets for me and DD today :
a month in israel, a month in china and a month in thailand.
Woohoo!
and I've already got a date with my ex gf in tel aviv
post #23 of 59
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Originally Posted by majikfaerie View Post
wow, kmm, enjoy your trip!
I bought plane tickets for me and DD today :
a month in israel, a month in china and a month in thailand.
Woohoo!
and I've already got a date with my ex gf in tel aviv
do you blog anywhere, Majik? I have always wanted to be a world traveler, and see no problem with taking 4yoDD with me... but life hasn't quite worked out that way. So I'd love to hear about your journeys.
post #24 of 59
I'm here... cake please!!:

And there is MORE SNOW here!!! yuck..
post #25 of 59
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Originally Posted by happyhippiemama View Post
do you blog anywhere, Majik? I have always wanted to be a world traveler, and see no problem with taking 4yoDD with me... but life hasn't quite worked out that way. So I'd love to hear about your journeys.
I've always wanted to travel too but so far that hasn't worked out for me. I've never left Canada but I have been all over Canada.. so that's kinda like travelling..right???

I'm hoping to go to Las Vegas, Jamaica ( my son's bio-mom is Jamaican so I wanted to take him there ) and Australia some day. It'll probably never happen so I'll have to live vicariously through the rest of you.
post #26 of 59
Thread Starter 
I do blog, its linked in my sig.
Though i only started it just after we arrived to Australia, so there's not so much travel stuff in there yet. (which i regret now, when I think of the last 8 years and 50-something countries I could have trevel-blogged )
post #27 of 59
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Originally Posted by KailuaMamatoMaya View Post
Welcome to February everyone!

Maya and I are doing well and I had dinner with a great friend tonight who is also in the biMama realm and it was fun to talk about the days of our youth....

We are flying to the Big Island on Saturday to hang with family, my best friend, and an online girlfriend who has a son Maya's age who is on vacation there - poor thing, it's pouring rain/flooding. SO much for Hawaiian paradise. I feel bad telling her that I thought Hawaii in February would be nice - oops. It's nice on MY island

We got a hand-me-down Learning tower and made orange zest sugar cookies and clementine infused frosting. I pipe the design and Maya is in charge of sprinkles - we did it once at Christmas too, this time we sent boxes to her Dad in England and her Grandmother in New York. Suzie freaking homemaker here people
Have a great time!

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Originally Posted by majikfaerie View Post
wow, kmm, enjoy your trip!
I bought plane tickets for me and DD today :
a month in israel, a month in china and a month in thailand.
Woohoo!
and I've already got a date with my ex gf in tel aviv
Sounds like fun!

Happy February everyone!
post #28 of 59
Hi all! I introduced myself last mont i think, but haven't really posted yet. Can I join in the fun and brownies??
post #29 of 59
Hey all, subbing a little late.

SMILES!!! I'm full of smiles!!!!

I am thinking I need to connect with a bunch of bi/queer/les/poly mamas. Oh yes, I am.

Abby
post #30 of 59
Okay ladies I've got a question:

DD 4 has lived her life with mommy and daddy and on occasion we've had our "friend" come over. This has always been a casual thing so while they met DD and may have spent some time with her we were never overtly affectionate in front of DD. I have met this wonderful woman fairly recently. She is not at all turned off by me having kids, which is a nice change of pace. She would like to meet my kids which I am all for but I know we'll want to be affectionate(hold hands, kiss)with eachother. How do I do this without alarming DD?

Now DF and I are perfectly open about things in front of/with eachother. We of course have never hid our affections and I don't see any real reason to hide them in this case either. In all honesty she does not understand much at 4 as far as relationship dynamics go. I guess that while this is not new at all to either of us adults(DF and I)this is a tad new for us bringing it in front of our DCs. This woman will not have anything to do with DF of course as she has her own hubby. I feel so silly not knowing the way to go about holding another relationship as far as my children are concerned. Then again I guess I haven't had to since either have been born, at least not on a possible long-term aspect. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Sorry it's so long!
post #31 of 59
Thread Starter 
andmx2, good question. IMO, best plan is just to be open and honest. have the friend over and let your DD see you as you would be. talk to her about it and answer her questions honestly. She might not even be phased about it at all.
My DD had no problems with me having a girlfriend, and actually got on really well with one of my gfs. (well, mostly because she had lipsticks and such, so DD got to indulge in make-up a bit; something I don't have )
post #32 of 59
I am just returning to MDC after a long absence and a separation from my last husband. I am freshly preg with #3 and in love with the most incredible bi/trans man! I am bi too and am looking forward to getting to know you all! (Hi majikfaerie! I remember you!!!!)
post #33 of 59
Thread Starter 
hi animus silvae
congratulations!
post #34 of 59
welcome animus!

We are back from our wonderful trip and I'm ready to move - I always am ready to head off to the next place on our journey so it's no surprise. Maya loved it - she got to help feed the compost to the chickens, collect eggs from the hen house, feed the horses from a bucket (too scared to hand feed with her, she won't hold her fingers flat!) and watch a Mama nurse her baby lamb twins - so cute. She loved the "volcano! with snow! it's good for hiking!" and watching the whales "spit" but darn them if they would not "jump" (breech) on command - my little dictator was quite upset that they did not "listen to my words."

I did have a mama Meetup with one girlfriend that went horrible - Maya pooped in her panties (common these days, no big deal but kind of a early mood killer) then we went to the coffee shop and her son puked on my daughter - within an hour. We laughed and went on our way but darn if it was not a comedy of errors!
post #35 of 59

Almost cetain that I am bisexual

So my husband and I are expecting our first in April and I have felt strong lesbian tendencies for last 2 years. They've always been there but I never had the confidence to act upon it. My husband and I are open about these feelings but I don't engage in much conversation beyond that. I don't want an open marriage, I value monogamy but I need an outlet for these feelings. Anyone have insight or experienced similar feelings?

Thanks
post #36 of 59
Thread Starter 
sorry your meeting didn;t go too well, kmm. it is funny though

raspberry swirl, you've come to the right place. if you read back through the thread (and previous months incarnations of it) many of us are in very similar situations.
post #37 of 59
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Originally Posted by raspberry.swirl View Post
So my husband and I are expecting our first in April and I have felt strong lesbian tendencies for last 2 years. They've always been there but I never had the confidence to act upon it. My husband and I are open about these feelings but I don't engage in much conversation beyond that. I don't want an open marriage, I value monogamy but I need an outlet for these feelings. Anyone have insight or experienced similar feelings?

Thanks
I totally relate. I am married to a man I very much love, problem is it tends to be more of a platonic love. He is a wonderful man, my best friend. He is very attractive too. but i find my self attracted to women. I NEVER notice attractive men when i am out, only women. I don't think poly would work for dh and I, but the more I try to suppress my bi-sexual feelings, the more I feel like i am going to explode. Seriously, this is stressing me out. I am constantly developing girl crushes against my will. I have developed a serious infatuation with a certain girl I know, and I find my self spacing out staring at her....totally in a trance. and i think I have made her uncomfortable. Yes, I am sexually attracted to women but its much more than that. Its more like I find myself thinking "wow, she so smart and amazing, I love the way her hair lays on her neck, wow, shes just so beautiful" I seriously just want to be with a woman emotionally more than anything. I just don't know what to do! I fell like a pressure cooker ready to explode : I just don't know how long I can suppress this! I might develop involuntary twitches if something doesn't change!!
post #38 of 59
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Originally Posted by indigo515 View Post
I totally relate. I am married to a man I very much love, problem is it tends to be more of a platonic love. He is a wonderful man, my best friend. He is very attractive too. but i find my self attracted to women. I NEVER notice attractive men when i am out, only women. I don't think poly would work for dh and I, but the more I try to suppress my bi-sexual feelings, the more I feel like i am going to explode. Seriously, this is stressing me out. I am constantly developing girl crushes against my will. I have developed a serious infatuation with a certain girl I know, and I find my self spacing out staring at her....totally in a trance. and i think I have made her uncomfortable. Yes, I am sexually attracted to women but its much more than that. Its more like I find myself thinking "wow, she so smart and amazing, I love the way her hair lays on her neck, wow, shes just so beautiful" I seriously just want to be with a woman emotionally more than anything. I just don't know what to do! I fell like a pressure cooker ready to explode : I just don't know how long I can suppress this! I might develop involuntary twitches if something doesn't change!!
I've been lurking in this thread a lot... and I don't think I could have written my feelings any better...
post #39 of 59
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Been there, done that, figured out how to suppress it for now. I guess? I mean, what other choice do I have? I guess I didn't figure anything out so much as accepted that a part of me is going to be miserable in order for a part of me to be happy.
The problem is, I really do love my DP a great deal. We've been through a lot, some really deep bad sh*t, and came out of it stronger and more in love than ever before. I don't want to hurt him, and I REALLY don't want to mess things up. I love my family very much.

But I can't just turn the rest of me off. It doesn't work that way.

The best thing I have figured out to do about this is just work on your own self as a person. I mean, really concentrate and actively work on becoming healthy both inside and out, and then I think the rest will eventually fall into place. I hope. I know it doesn't really explain anything, or sound like an applicable solution, but it's something that I'm starting to believe in. But damn if it isn't the longest process ever... many days I still just feel like crawling in a hole...

post #40 of 59
oops, double post.
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