Only had time to read pages 1, 4 and 8 so far (will be back after I go check on MIL - long story....)
Originally Posted by Jug
he used gay as its a girls toy, not that it will make DS gay.
Anyway, im getting the kitchen to DS from my grandpa(who is a wood toy maker).
Welcome to MDC!
I'm sorry you seem to have gotten into a hot topic here. I once started a thread trying to figure out more about homeschooling - not that I wanted to, but I wanted to better understand and accept that choice in my friends' lives. Some people were super helpful, but some were so mad that my kids' school didn't fit the terrible picture they painted. It got pretty heated. Now I can laugh, but then it got me a little torked.
Anyway, I think it is cool that you are getting a wooden kitchen made by your grampa!
My dad was also a wooden toy maker in his spare time (even taught classes for kids at the Seattle Science Center back in the 70s) and made me a toy kitchen, which my kids use to this day. I repainted it 'cause it was harvest gold and orange. Most played with toy in our house - by boys and girls of all ages.
But I have to agree with a lot of others that your dh using gay as a negative term (regardless of whether he thought it had anything to do with ds's sexuality) is really bad. I think it is the same as using retarded to mean bad. Both are very, very offensive.
Originally Posted by captain optimism
This is slightly off topic, but if you are using the word "gay" to mean "weak, not that great, not cool, yucky"--that's pejorative. When kids these days say "gay" to mean "bad" they are saying that being gay is bad!
I know this is the sort of thing that people find picky and PC or whatever, but we really have to try not to let ourselves be sloppy. About 10% of our children, going by averages, will probably be gay--no matter how macho their toys are--so we have to think about what will be good for them all as a group, and using "gay" to mean "icky" is not going to be good.
Exactly. And I'm not that PC! I think a lot of it is just a little much. But using gay as a negative term isn't ok.