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post #21 of 160
Nothing is more sexy to a woman than a man who can cook...
post #22 of 160
I bought my sons a toy kitchen because I would like them to become fully functional human beings who can fend for themselves someday.

I wouldn't marry a man who wouldn't cook and I don't want daughters-in-law who would either.

Plus, it's just fun for the kids.
post #23 of 160
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Originally Posted by Einley View Post
I find it fascinating that a toy can be gay or make a kid gay (a bedazzled tutu couldn't do it either I imagine).
No, of course not. But a father being worried about his son wearing a bedazzled tutu is slightly more understandable then a... kitchen. It's a kitchen! Maybe I just grew up in a gender equal home, actually I know I did because my father is a great cook, but I just can't wrap my head around the idea that a boy should not play with a toy kitchen. It's weird.
post #24 of 160
Two words:

Iron Chef

Plus, my husband learned how to cook because he'd heard a newsradio article that did a survey on single men ... according to the article, the most, ahem, "successful" dates happened as a direct result of going to the girlfriend's apartment to cook her dinner. Before (and, yes, up to) dating me, DH claimed a 100 percent "success" rate with this particular technique.

Needless to say, he is no longer allowed to cook in any household but our own
post #25 of 160
Having a play kitchen is no more 'gay' than EATING is.

(The way I read it, the father hasn't expressed that he thinks having a play kitchen will make his son homosexual. He's using 'gay' as a descriptive term for something that is not desirable. Not that it's any better.)
post #26 of 160
So Jug, what does your dh say to all of this?

BTW, every little preschool aged boy I know has a play kitchen!!
post #27 of 160
Just a thought to add to this - so much math is learned in the kitchen - volume, fractions (1/2 cup), weight, etc. etc. Don't give up a whole range of play that will foster your son's imagination and experience with concrete stuff that will help him succeed later!
post #28 of 160
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Originally Posted by Lady In Red View Post
Nothing is more sexy to a woman than a man who can cook...
post #29 of 160
I think that anyone who can't deal with the possibility of their child being homosexual should do us all a favor and refrain from having children. Along with all the racists, neo-nazis, and other bigots out there. : :
post #30 of 160
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Originally Posted by Ann-Marita View Post
Having a play kitchen is no more 'gay' than EATING is
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post #31 of 160
my parents had a hard time coming to terms with this. I had a play kitchen for my olders and my son loved it, and seeing how gaga he is over girls right now and trying to sneak a peak at the bra section of the sears catalogue being gay is not an issue. THat said, when I got rid of our old kitchen becuase it was breaking, my 4 year old was devestated. He loved his play kitchen, so for xmas I put it on his list. My parents had it in their heads he was too old to be playing with a "girl" toy. My 4 year old is a budding chef and is always in the real kitchen helping out, reciting recipes etc. They finally conceeded that having a play kitchen as a 4 yr old boy was not a bad thing, though it was my brother and his gf that got him a silver and red one, which my parents deemed appropriately "boyish". SO ridiculous

IF I was worried about toys turning my children gay my sons woud have never played with a kitchen, dolls, toy vaccums etc. My daughter would not play with cars, building blocks or other "boy" toys.
post #32 of 160
Cooking is an important life skill.

It is rare for both men and women to go straight from being 'cared for' by parents to being 'cared for' by a spouse. It's important that every child be given the tools for personal success.
post #33 of 160
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Originally Posted by alegna View Post
I have nothing kind to say to a man who:

#1. Has such rigid gender stereotypes.

#2. Thinks that a TOY will make an individual homosexual or not.

and

#3. Is so homophobic as to be afraid of a toy making an individual homosexual.



-Angela
I agree.

Even if it was "gay," who the hell cares?

I think it is so beyond wrong to force our kids into narrow roles.
post #34 of 160
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Originally Posted by the_lissa View Post
I agree.

Even if it was "gay," who the hell cares?

I think it is so beyond wrong to force our kids into narrow roles.
yes that (and alegna's too of course)

i feel bad for your son
post #35 of 160
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Originally Posted by the_lissa View Post
I agree.

Even if it was "gay," who the hell cares?

I think it is so beyond wrong to force our kids into narrow roles.
ITA. What is the big freaking deal with ensuring there is some manly way to do xyz before we let our kids do it? Or worrying about their future sexual orientation? Honest to gawd, it's crazy to police our children's behaviour so rigidly based on this stuff. If we could step back and look at ourselves we would be shocked.
post #36 of 160
OMG! So my DP is like totally gay! I knew that wicked good beef stew was going to be our downfall!
post #37 of 160
I am at a loss for words.
post #38 of 160
I will never understand why people put so much stock in toys. They are just TOYS, for crying out loud....

My boys have had barbies, and cabbage patch dolls. My now 10 year old carried around a Buttercup doll from the power puff girls for several years. Of course he also likes to cook, and has even taken classes and ask for cook books for Christmas and his birthday, so maybe I should be worried....lol. It is all complete rubish. Kids like fun toys and that is it. It is not as deep as some people want to make it.

And while this has probably been said many of the to Chefs are male. Hello Iron Chef anyone.....
post #39 of 160
Play kitchens help kids learn how to be cooks or chefs, roll play cooking for themselves and their familiies, etc. I'll go one step furthur and say that baby dolls can help little boys learn how to be good Daddies. Play sewing machines and irons can help boys learn how to be tailors. Toy cars help kids learn how to be good drivers. Blocks and toy trucks help kids learn how to be city planners and architects.

All of these life skills are important for all children.

All 3 of my children had a variety of toys as preschoolers: dolls, balls, toy cars and trucks, pretend household items, blocks, etc. My girls gravitated towards the dolls more than DS did, and DS gravitated towards the cars more than DDs did, but all 3 kids did play with all of the toys.

If your DH is concerned that a pink plastic kitchen is "too girly" for a boy to play with, then get a nice wooden one instead- or at least a plastic one in bright primary colors. Not that little kids care about colors or gender stereotypes anyway, and I remember reading somewhere that about 200 years ago, pink was considered a "manly color" and women never wore it.
post #40 of 160
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Originally Posted by alegna View Post
I have nothing kind to say to a man who:

#1. Has such rigid gender stereotypes.

#2. Thinks that a TOY will make an individual homosexual or not.

and

#3. Is so homophobic as to be afraid of a toy making an individual homosexual.



-Angela
I could not have said it better myself.
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