I've never posted in this forum but I have read a bit. I've been wanting to a homebirth with this pregnancy for a while but dh was very nervous about it. As of yesterday I was seeing the same doc that I had with my older child. I had a c/s with him after a failed induction. Knowing what I know now I would have never been induced back then. But I told doc before I even got pregnant with this child that I wanted a vbac and she seemed very supportive.
Problem #1: They won't go by my conception date. They want to use my lmp but I ovulate late so we're talking a whole week off here on my due date.
Problem # 2: She wanted to do a c/s on their due date. I was able to push her back until tomorrow but she won't budge after that. She told me yesterday that she doens't let ANY of her patients go past 41 weeks. Previous c/s or not! She said its because of the risk of meconium aspiration.
My pre-op was scheduled for this morning. I didn't go.
For the last month I've been seeing a midwife too. I was going to use her as a doula. I saw her yesterday afternoon and she spent a while on the phone trying to find someone who would take me. No luck. She asked dh what he thought we should do and he said "At this point I'm fine with a homebirth" and the midwife and I nearly fell over. She knew how he felt about them. She still spent a while talking to people for me but while she was on the phone dh and I agreed to just use her here at home. We really like her. And she's delivered 6 of dh's cousins (we just found this out yesterday lol) and my cousin's sister in law's 2 youngest kids. Cousin's sister in law reccommended her to me.
So I tried to call last night and this morning and left a message with the hospital that I wanted to cancel my pre-op and c/s. They never called back. Finally the doc's office called me and I missed the call. When I saw they had called I went ahead and tried the hospital one more time and they said I could not cancel the operation. I had to have the doc's office do that. So I called the doc's office and told them I wanted to cancel. I told the receptionist I was switching my care and she told me to hold for a second. The doctor answered about 10 seconds later and was very pleasant. We have maybe a 20 second conversation where she said she would be "praying for me" and to let her know if I was able to deliver vaginally. That praying for me line makes me so angry. Just another scare tactic on her part. She actually told me my baby's head was probably too big yesterday.
I guess I just needed to get that off my chest. Everybody's going to think I'm crazy but I have to do this. I will not have another c/s unless its necessary and it is not necessary.
I'm doing this kind of late in the game so does anybody have any homebirth tips? Things I need? Tips on what works for a good birthing pool thats affordable? I'm all ears.
Problem #1: They won't go by my conception date. They want to use my lmp but I ovulate late so we're talking a whole week off here on my due date.
Problem # 2: She wanted to do a c/s on their due date. I was able to push her back until tomorrow but she won't budge after that. She told me yesterday that she doens't let ANY of her patients go past 41 weeks. Previous c/s or not! She said its because of the risk of meconium aspiration.
My pre-op was scheduled for this morning. I didn't go.
For the last month I've been seeing a midwife too. I was going to use her as a doula. I saw her yesterday afternoon and she spent a while on the phone trying to find someone who would take me. No luck. She asked dh what he thought we should do and he said "At this point I'm fine with a homebirth" and the midwife and I nearly fell over. She knew how he felt about them. She still spent a while talking to people for me but while she was on the phone dh and I agreed to just use her here at home. We really like her. And she's delivered 6 of dh's cousins (we just found this out yesterday lol) and my cousin's sister in law's 2 youngest kids. Cousin's sister in law reccommended her to me.
So I tried to call last night and this morning and left a message with the hospital that I wanted to cancel my pre-op and c/s. They never called back. Finally the doc's office called me and I missed the call. When I saw they had called I went ahead and tried the hospital one more time and they said I could not cancel the operation. I had to have the doc's office do that. So I called the doc's office and told them I wanted to cancel. I told the receptionist I was switching my care and she told me to hold for a second. The doctor answered about 10 seconds later and was very pleasant. We have maybe a 20 second conversation where she said she would be "praying for me" and to let her know if I was able to deliver vaginally. That praying for me line makes me so angry. Just another scare tactic on her part. She actually told me my baby's head was probably too big yesterday.
I guess I just needed to get that off my chest. Everybody's going to think I'm crazy but I have to do this. I will not have another c/s unless its necessary and it is not necessary.
I'm doing this kind of late in the game so does anybody have any homebirth tips? Things I need? Tips on what works for a good birthing pool thats affordable? I'm all ears.
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) It made the contractions so much easier to handle. But they still hurt. The midwife arrived after that and they were both so great. I was a big wimp and they were so supportive. Dh was great too. They all said the right things and helped me get through something that I didn't think I could do at the time. I think mentally I didn't really think I could give birth to her.
