SO she is sweet women but I CAN"T STAND HER for long, or when tired, stressed.. blah blah blah, she drives me batty.
My mom is going to try and come right before the babe and stay MAYBE a week.( she is coming reagrdless just trying to time it so she is her right before so she can help with e during the birth) MY mom, the women who birthed ME, is coming to help ME after MY birth physically and around the house and with e. I want my mama for about a week ( and she feels the same) and then I am going to be ready to really dive into having two, bonding further with MY new family. I am going to be bedding in for as LONG as I can, like a month at least if DH can work that out. I want to adjust and bond and nuture my family.
Well dh told me yesterday that his mom was coming in March for a long weekend with his step dad to see the baby.ummmm HELL NO! then he said it wouldn't be until the middle or end. ( I am DUE the 22 but I am thinking I will go over, reagardless if I go today that is still only a month PP) I don't watn ANYONE around me, this is a very private and special time for me and my children and dh if he so chooses. having his mom's selfish wants put over my maternal needs is NOT the way to go on this. all she wants to do is see the baby because we were in Germany when I had e and she didn't get to see him until he as about 2 monthes, (I still think there is nothing wrong with that.) SHe doesn't want to come and help and bringing her second husband is not helpful either. I was out of commison for almost 6 weeks with e and that was an uncomlicated deleivery, I do not want her here for a while, sorry call me a bitch but my house, my birth, my baby, my family, my call. I then offered ( with eunthisasim that is so fake but to make him beleive it as truth) that she come at the end of Apr for e's third birthday and she could be a part of that and see the baby then and it would be great. he got all pissy and wouldn't talk about it anymore saying it is only becayse it is HIS family and not mine and that if it were my family I would be saying something different but that is not true at all.
Well MIL calls me tonight and brings it up and I staright up told her that March is not going to work for me but E's birthday would be perfect and was KINDLY telling her my reasoning and she was STILL ramroding her way in. Then she was trying to say that just won't work because her husband can only get off in March ( they would take a long weekend, thrus thru monday and she just can't drive by herlsef 7 hours
and I told her nicely then she is going to have to talk to them about trying to make it for April because march is not doable and is out of the question. Dh is going to be sooo pissed at me but I don't care. ughghghgh thanks for reading if you made it though I just had to vent it.
Am I the only one out there feeling this way?
My mom is going to try and come right before the babe and stay MAYBE a week.( she is coming reagrdless just trying to time it so she is her right before so she can help with e during the birth) MY mom, the women who birthed ME, is coming to help ME after MY birth physically and around the house and with e. I want my mama for about a week ( and she feels the same) and then I am going to be ready to really dive into having two, bonding further with MY new family. I am going to be bedding in for as LONG as I can, like a month at least if DH can work that out. I want to adjust and bond and nuture my family.
Well dh told me yesterday that his mom was coming in March for a long weekend with his step dad to see the baby.ummmm HELL NO! then he said it wouldn't be until the middle or end. ( I am DUE the 22 but I am thinking I will go over, reagardless if I go today that is still only a month PP) I don't watn ANYONE around me, this is a very private and special time for me and my children and dh if he so chooses. having his mom's selfish wants put over my maternal needs is NOT the way to go on this. all she wants to do is see the baby because we were in Germany when I had e and she didn't get to see him until he as about 2 monthes, (I still think there is nothing wrong with that.) SHe doesn't want to come and help and bringing her second husband is not helpful either. I was out of commison for almost 6 weeks with e and that was an uncomlicated deleivery, I do not want her here for a while, sorry call me a bitch but my house, my birth, my baby, my family, my call. I then offered ( with eunthisasim that is so fake but to make him beleive it as truth) that she come at the end of Apr for e's third birthday and she could be a part of that and see the baby then and it would be great. he got all pissy and wouldn't talk about it anymore saying it is only becayse it is HIS family and not mine and that if it were my family I would be saying something different but that is not true at all.
Well MIL calls me tonight and brings it up and I staright up told her that March is not going to work for me but E's birthday would be perfect and was KINDLY telling her my reasoning and she was STILL ramroding her way in. Then she was trying to say that just won't work because her husband can only get off in March ( they would take a long weekend, thrus thru monday and she just can't drive by herlsef 7 hours
and I told her nicely then she is going to have to talk to them about trying to make it for April because march is not doable and is out of the question. Dh is going to be sooo pissed at me but I don't care. ughghghgh thanks for reading if you made it though I just had to vent it.Am I the only one out there feeling this way?
She's still a mama; just not your mama. Is there something more to the story that I'm not getting?
It is not like I HATE the women just don't want her around during such a delicate and private tiem, is that to much to ask, oh wait, yeah anything is to much to ask when dh's PRECIOUS mother is involved.
) that she doesn't live closer - if it weren't a 7-hour drive then an afternoon visit would be appropriate. With coming that sort of distance though, it really does call for a weekend.
