Thanks for the welcomeI can only offer a to you Papschmitty....your situation with 'that woman' and your Dad sounds just awful...she sounds like a piece of work.
My Dad is getting round to the idea of meeting someone new but claims that he wants a platonic friendship. I think this'll be hard to find. He is so used to female company (2 daughters and Wife, no Sons) and misses that.
His drinking is really affecting his relationship with my Sister though and I feel bad for her. We've both tried talking to him - me diplomatically, her more confrontationally and have realised he's not going to change.
My Mum kept him in line so to speak...she'd be so mad at his behaviour regarding drink but would probably defend him too which is kind of what I do.
Anyway, I'm rambling....