Originally Posted by namellea
I think back to when I was first returning to work when my dd was only 11 weeks old. I was devastated and it did feel "wrong" to me in some sense ...... But now I am loving my role as WOHM, and that guilt has mostly faded.
That's been my experience, too. I was terrified of putting DS2 in dcp at 7 mos after wahm'ing since his birth. Even though I'd already been through it with DS1, I still had those "omg, this is the end of the world" kind of thoughts. Then, as he got older, those feelings subsided and I started to realize that my kids are still wonderful, happily attached little poeple who love me and depend on me. It wasn't the end of the world at all.
But, I think women who have stayed home their entire mothering life don't really understand that, for the most part.
Sometimes it's mean spirited, sometimes it's just honestly not knowing how you go about raising a child and having a career.
It's like moms whose oldest kids are going into kindergarden for the first time. I cried my eyes out on DS1's first day of school, bawled all the way home.
It honestly felt like he was all grown up, but fast forward 5 years and that just seems silly in retrospect. He was still just a baby
I'm sure I'll cry when he goes off to college... and then when he's 30, I'll look back and laugh at myself for it.