|I have had many people ask me why I quit my job and have been guilty of stating "Because we wanted to raise him ourselves." I had no intention at all of slamming other moms because my thoughts were restricted to our personal situation.
I realize that you do not mean to be offensive, but I hope that you can understand that what some people may believe you are implying by this statement, is that THEY then are NOT raising their own kids. I'm sure you can appreciate why that would be insulting to some parents who do use daycare and who send their kids to school.
Personally, I am in the "it takes a village" camp. I consider my dd's dcp a PARTNER, not a competitor or a replacement to my parenting. She is not raising my dd, but she is certainly participating in raising her. And I'm not threatened by that. She is a wonderful, positive influence in my dd's life and has taught her many things. She truly cares about my dd and dd adores her. She and I communicate daily, often at length, about dd's development, behavior, activities, mood. She is really a wonderful asset and I am so glad she is in dd's (and my) life.
I can honestly say that I AM raising my daughter. As is dh. As is dcp. We are all part of team--and I think it's fabulous that dd has a whole TEAM of people in her corner, cheering her on, and picking her up when she falls. She is a lucky girl to have that much love in her life
I hate the "because we wanted to raise him ourselves" line because it seems to imply that only ONE person can be raising a child at any given time and, by using daycare, I have enturely handed that responsibility over to someone else. Like it is either dcp raising her OR its me raising her and it can't be both ways. Nothing could be further from the truth, imo.
I am raising dd myself, I am just not raising her BY myself.