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post #21 of 25
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Originally Posted by freestyler View Post
It's often just attention seeking/thinking out loud/etc. I do NOT believe every question requires an answer. Most do, but not all. When I get the sense my kids are just asking questions to fill the air with noise, I generally will say that I'd like to stop playing Q & A for a while. Or I'll just think my own thoughts and not answer. When the questions are "fake," the kids literally do not even notice if I do not answer. Generally, I start wondering, "Is this a legitimate request for information?" If the answer is NO, then I will try not to fill the air with more excess noise, i.e. excessive unnecessary answers.

But then, I'm a linguist, so I analyze words to death!
I think the main thing to remember is that children have a different conciousness than we do. They are very dreamy. Sometimes no answer is fine.
Other times I just reply with "I wonder, I wonder........" and leave them in their cloud.
post #22 of 25
My 6 yr old is guilty of both asking obvious questions and asking questions over and over and over again. I think part of it is just not knowing how to carry on a conversation yet. She knows asking questions is part of conversing but can't always think of "new" ones so she falls back on the old standbys.
post #23 of 25
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Originally Posted by jillkuster View Post
When my kids are asking questions that seem obvious, they are usually wanting more information. It's like their world has more depth than the adult world so sometimes my answers are too surface for what they want out of me. They don't know HOW to ask the question, so it comes out like they are asking something obvious.
Yes, I think this is very true of our son. He wants a deeper understanding than our answers give him, but he can't formulate his thoughts into a question that makes sense to us.

We've had tons of questions that go something like:

"What's that over there?"
"That's a river."
"Why?"
"Um...."

What I think he wants to know is: What makes it a river (and not, say a lake or a puddle)? Or why is there a river there (and not say in our backyard)? Or even "How did it get to be a river?" But "Why?" is his catch-all question.

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Originally Posted by freestyler View Post
. When the questions are "fake," the kids literally do not even notice if I do not answer. Generally, I start wondering, "Is this a legitimate request for information?" If the answer is NO, then I will try not to fill the air with more excess noise, i.e. excessive unnecessary answers.
You know, our son has done this about 3 times that I can remember. When I don't answer, he will keep badgering me until he gets one. When he was 3-4 and I responded "why do you think?" or something similar, he'd get furious. Now that he's older and can reason his way through problems a bit better, he will sometimes respond that.

I do sometimes call a halt to Q & A sessions if I'm getting weary. But if it's a legitimate request for info, it's hard for me to do that.
post #24 of 25

I found a solution to this problem.  I just answer with something silly like..."because the moon is blue in China."  or "because three legged dogs can't dance" or "red pigs like mud too".  We both laugh and she realizes that she knows the answer.  Now she asks those questions because she wants to hear my responses.  Keeps me on my toes trying to think of different things.  MOST IMPORTANT....REMEMBER!!!! You can NEVER get these days back!  ENJOY THEM!!!!!  They will only be little until they grow up!!!

post #25 of 25

Oh this is my 5 year old to a tee...I am so glad it is normal..I was pulling my hair out there for a bit...I think I will go with the give a silly answer back... :)

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