Originally Posted by jillkuster
When my kids are asking questions that seem obvious, they are usually wanting more information. It's like their world has more depth than the adult world so sometimes my answers are too surface for what they want out of me. They don't know HOW to ask the question, so it comes out like they are asking something obvious.
Yes, I think this is very true of our son. He wants a deeper understanding than our answers give him, but he can't formulate his thoughts into a question that makes sense to us.
We've had tons of questions that go something like:
"What's that over there?"
"That's a river."
What I think he wants to know is: What makes it a river (and not, say a lake or a puddle)? Or why is there a river there (and not say in our backyard)? Or even "How did it get to be a river?" But "Why?" is his catch-all question.
Originally Posted by freestyler
. When the questions are "fake," the kids literally do not even notice if I do not answer. Generally, I start wondering, "Is this a legitimate request for information?" If the answer is NO, then I will try not to fill the air with more excess noise, i.e. excessive unnecessary answers.
You know, our son has done this about 3 times that I can remember. When I don't answer, he will keep badgering me until he gets one. When he was 3-4 and I responded "why do you think?" or something similar, he'd get furious. Now that he's older and can reason his way through problems a bit better, he will sometimes respond that.
I do sometimes call a halt to Q & A sessions if I'm getting weary. But if it's a legitimate request for info, it's hard for me to do that.