Anyone else planning to keep it a surprise?

[lorelei]

Who is (planning to!) wait until the baby's born to find out the sex?

[delightedbutterfly]

I don't know?!?!?! I have a week! I'd like to have it be a surprise... but last time it was a huge adjustment for me as I had thought I was having a boy (we didn't find out) and I delievered my daughter. It took a lot of getting used to.

I don't want to set myself up for any of the same having to get used to it ideas... I wasn't upset last time just shocked. It's not what I thought... and I did want a healthy baby I had always just wanted a boy first. I kind of want another DD now but I also kind of want a DS...

So I'm leaning towards finding out more than not.

[Ligeia]

I really would love to keep it a surprise but dh is insisting we find out. He says he will need a few months to get used to the idea of another girl or even having a boy. I guess I get it. He also wants to be able to prepare really well and as everyone knows, it is appallingly difficult to find gender neutral clothes so knowing the sex is handy in that way. Anyway, if it were up to me we would keep it a surprise but I'm sure we will be finding out for dh's sake.

[LoobyLoo]

I want to know. I realise it's different for everybody and that a lot of mamas find it really special to wait, but that just doesn't click with me at all and I honestly don't see the difference between knowing now and knowing later. And I always did hate surprises - I like to know the ending of every movie I watch and simply don't 'get' the concept of surprise parties - if someone's throwing me a frickin party, I wanna know so I can get my outfit right! Some people love surprises but I'm simply not one of those people. I even have moviespoiler.com bookmarked so I can read the entire plot of every movie I'm going to see.

So yep, I'd like to know next week if poss. DH feels the same way. Our u/s is done by one of our regular MWs in a comfy room decorated with kids' paintings, and DH will be next to me as we both watch the screen. It' a nice, comfortable setting and a good one for being introduced to our son or daughter, I think.

[yvonnemlv]

MEMEMEME I LOVE pushing baby out and finding out if baby has a vagina or penis within those first magical moments of birth. :heart

We all feel that this baby is a girl, so it'll be interesting to find out if that is so!

[veganf]

Since I don't have non-medical ultrasounds during pregnancy I have no opportunity to find out. I wouldn't want to anyways.

[KrisM]

While we will have an u/s this time, due ot suspected previa and possibly accreta, we won't find out.

We have a boy and a girl. The boy is late April and the girl is early June. So, with a mid-July baby, we're likely just fine for clothes for a few months anyway. Plus, I wouldn't get rid of anything, so I'm not sure I'd gain anything by finding out early.

[pazerific]

we had a surprise with dd, and it was so awesome. the only part i didn't like was that she was originally going to be a HB, but we had to transfer. the doctor totally stole our moment when dd came out with a big "IT'S A GIRL!"

so this time, i want dh and i to be the ones to announce. heaven forbid we end up having to transfer again, but if we do, the first thing i'm telling them is NOT to announce the sex of the baby.

[Tiffanoodle]

We are thinking we'll keep it a surprise this time. We found out with dd. Then with ds, we weren't going to, but dh's grandpa was very sick and we wanted to tell him if he was having a great grandson. This time, we have 1 of each, so we're not really pulling for 1 or the other. I wouldn't have an u/s just to see the gender, but my OB really would like me to have a 20 week u/s to check organ formation. So we're doing that on February 27. I keep thinking *maybe* I'd find out and just not tell anyone we found out. I don't know. Dh is pretty adament about not finding out. But he hates it when I refer to the baby as "she" and wants me to stop doing that, too.

[yamilee21]

I am not planning any more sonograms for this pregnancy (I wasn't planning the first, but I thought I was miscarrying); hopefully nothing will come up so that I would "need" another one that could inadvertently result in our knowing. Everyone I know who is pregnant has/will found out the gender; and I don't get why it is so important to them.

[quarteralien]

I don't plan to have any ultrasounds, so no, we won't be finding out. I did with my other 2, but I think the surprise will be nice this time.

[Sunshine4004]

I want to find out but DH doesn't. We haven't come to a decision yet.

[lotusblossom9]

Originally Posted by Sunshine4004

I want to find out but DH doesn't. We haven't come to a decision yet.

Same here!

[AKA_PI]

Jumping over from August

I might be able to find out next week at my 16 wk appt but my boyfriend doesn't want to know and I'm a bit curious now. We both wanted to be surprised but our families and friends want to know so they'll know what to buy us. I think I might find out and then not tell anyone until month 7. LOL.

[sunnymw]

I'm conflicted on this, but the decision has already been to find out. However, I've also heard from a friend who found out she was having a 2nd boy and spent the rest of her pregnancy upset and mourning because she so badly wanted a girl, but when he was born she fell in love with him right away. I'm scared that I'd be HER, if it's a boy.

Then again since I make 99.9% of the decisions, I'm letting DH make this one, and he wants to find out so we will...

However we are not sharing the news

[HidaShara]

I was going to leave it as a surprise, but if they can tell from a routine ultrasound, I'm not exactly going to turn my head, plug my ears and hum "la la la I can't hear you." Seems kinda silly. If it's there, and evident, why ignore it?

If they can tell from a routine ultrasound, then yes, I will know.

If not, I am not going to go to any extra lengths to find out.

So we'll see!

Charlotte

[Red Sonja]

Right now we are planning on having it be a surprise.

If it turns out that DH will not be here for the birth (he's military) then I'll have the ultrasound tech write the gender on a piece of paper and seal it in an envelope, then send it with him so he can open it. If he's gone then it could potentially be several days after the birth before a message gets to him (there are no phone calls) so in that case I wouldn't want him to be the last one to know.

[LoobyLoo]

Originally Posted by Red Sonja

If he's gone then it could potentially be several days after the birth before a message gets to him (there are no phone calls) so in that case I wouldn't want him to be the last one to know.

Aww. That's a really sweet thing to do for your dh.

[imsubrosa]

If I can find out at the routine ultrasound then I will. I have enough stress in my life without obsessing over whether the baby is a boy or a girl.

[4Marmalade]

Not sure yet. We were surprised with both ds and dd. I liked the surprise then. This time, we're having twins and I would kind of like to know. I mean, they've already surprised us way more just by being twins than finding out the gender at birth. Plus, even being a bit more mentally prepared might help at this point . I will be having numerous ultrasounds so might have the opportunity to find out. I'm just not sure if the lab/hospital where I will be getting my care will disclose the information. Many hospitals where I live have rules about the technicians disclosing the information. You have to go to specific hospitals in order to find out the gender. I won't make special arrangements to find out.