stupid comments

[the elyse]

i didn't really get any of these the first time around, and the closer i get to 40 weeks the more abundant they seem..


i think i was around 36 weeks and a woman came up and asked me (first thing out of her mouth) "so, when are you getting induced?" :

and the other night a (single, childless) girlfriend of mine text messaged me to tell me that she has a free month membership to her gym to offer to her friends. i responded and said, "well, i'm 38 weeks pregnant..." and she wrote back and said "walking on a treadmill wouldn't kill you!" :

no joke. i couldn't even dignify it with a response. my dh was also speechless.

share yours!

[trizzle]

Originally Posted by the elyse

and the other night a (single, childless) girlfriend of mine text messaged me to tell me that she has a free month membership to her gym to offer to her friends. i responded and said, "well, i'm 38 weeks pregnant..." and she wrote back and said "walking on a treadmill wouldn't kill you!" :

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YOU have got to be kidding me. That is so insensitive that it's funny. You could also burn some calories by repeatedly whacking her over the head, but that too is not the best idea.

My favorite stupid comment is "You're still pregnant?!?"
like it has been 2 years or something. and "What does the doctor say?" like anyone can tell you the exact moment this kid will arrive....

[mosesface]

i stopped going to church two weeks ago because people would not stop saying, "are you sure there's only one in there!?" and rubbing my belly. there was a time when i was surrounded by 8 women, all of them touching me while expressing shock and disbelief that i still have weeks to go. it's not helpful.

my dad sent me an email last night in response to some pictures i sent him that just says, "wow! that's gonna be quite a litter!" :

thanks, dad.

[SamuraiMom]

Originally Posted by mosesface

my dad sent me an email last night in response to some pictures i sent him that just says, "wow! that's gonna be quite a litter!" :

thanks, dad.

Thats funny. I haven't gotten any really bad ones, but someone asked me the other day if "they" would induce me if I went past my due date, first of all who the hell is "they" anyway, I'm having a home birth!!! When I was pregnant with my last dd a friends MIL asked me "so you've scheduled a c/s right?" as if that is now the natural order of things!!!

[Kitten]

My own mother kept making comments about "Why haven't you had the baby yet?!" when I was only 39 weeks. I hadn't even gotten to my due date yet and she was fussing that the baby still hadn't been born!

[Dea]

Originally Posted by trizzle

You could also burn some calories by repeatedly whacking her over the head, but that too is not the best idea.

I think that is a great idea!

[AlwaysByMySide]

Originally Posted by trizzle

My favorite stupid comment is "You're still pregnant?!?" like it has been 2 years or something. and "What does the doctor say?" like anyone can tell you the exact moment this kid will arrive....

See my comment about my grandmother in today's daily thread. I get asked every. single. day. when the doctor says the baby is coming. I started responding with any random date and time, just to annoy her, because it is so annoying to me.

The baby will come when he is damn good and ready!

As for everyone else in my life, I tend to get the opposite...it seems like they all think that I've just recently gotten pregnant and won't be giving birth until the summer. When I say things like, "Any day now," or I mention contractions, they're all like, "REALLY?!?!"

[guestmama9972]

My favorites:

At 40 weeks my friend asked, panicked, "What are they going to do?" just because I was "full term". As if I am going to explode!

"Wow, you're about ready to pop!"

"Haven't you had that baby yet?"--This is perhaps the stupidest question I have ever heard.

The people who don't want to outright ask will call and ask how I am feeling. I want to tell them, "I am totally exhausted, the baby keeps messing with my cervix, I have heartburn, I pee my pants if I bend down, and I am constipated. How are you?"

My dad calls nearly every day to tell me if it would be a good day for me to have the baby in regard to his schedule. This pisses me off more than I can say.

[newcastlemama]

I get so tired of the "are you still pregnant?" question Sounds like it is pretty common.

Also I was due yesterday and even before that people were asking how long until they will want me to be induced!!!! Um..there will not be an induction unless someone is in serious danger and simply going past my due date does not meet that criteria. It just shows how much we want to control birth in our society!

I also tell people the baby will come when it is ready so leave me alone! And I know my belly is huge, thank you!

Jen

[newcastlemama]

Originally Posted by the elyse

and the other night a (single, childless) girlfriend of mine text messaged me to tell me that she has a free month membership to her gym to offer to her friends. i responded and said, "well, i'm 38 weeks pregnant..." and she wrote back and said "walking on a treadmill wouldn't kill you!" :

Oh great idea! All I can think about is going to the gym and working out with a baby's head in my pelvis! See if she is still into it when she is 9 mos pregnant someday

[kathywiehl]

My FIL called me about a month ago to tell wish me a Happy Birthday. When he asked how I felt, I responded with a polite "Oh, I'm doing okay, a little tired and sore but that's normal." and he said "I thought you'd give yourself a birthday present and have the baby early, wouldn't that have been nice?"

Ummm, yeah, if you want the baby in the NICU for a month! No thanks! Duh...there is a reason baby's take 40 weeks and not 34 weeks. Otherwise they would all be born at 34 weeks!