Originally Posted by nancy926
I'm curious what criteria people would use to decide if a child was an "old soul" or not. I've heard this term a ton, and never really seen a good explanation.
Deep in post-partum haze when my daughter was six days old, I placed her in her bassinett so that I could take a shower. At the time, I was living in my parents' home. My mom and I stood for a moment, watching her little body, and I remarked, "It just seems like this girl can take care of herself." "That's ridiculous!" my mom exclaimed. "She's a newborn
." I replied, "I know, but..." Clearly, I didn't really expect her to take care of herself. There was just something
about her. She came into our world so calm and at peace, satisfied, just "knowing." It was instantly apparent she'd been here before...and I don't even really believe in that stuff.
And every step of the way, she's maintained this very special quality. At not yet four years old, she patiently and diplomatically solves problems between her preschool friends. She can walk away from a classmate who's being mean, simply turn her back with a "no time for that" attitude that stops the other child in her tracks. When her brother is wild with anxiety, she makes insightful remarks to help me
cope. She understands social situations so well, she can seemingly predict the outcome of her actions and those of others given certain choices and decisions they make. She seems to be guided by such a solid sense of self and confidence. It's really amazing. I don't even factor in her intellectual gifts to any of this. To me it's separate. Not sure why.
I'm sure that didn't help because the whole thing is pretty nebulous-feeling to me, but it does clarify for myself why I consider her to be an old soul.