I've been following this thread for a while, and at first I disagreed with the people who said she should do her own laundry. I didn't have to do my own laundry as a teenager. But the more I think about it, I think it would have been better if my mom had expected me to do my own laundry. It would have made me a little bit more responsible. I had a lot of bloody underwear problems, too, and I tended to either: 1. attempt to wash them and dry them myself, when my mom wasn't home 2. hide them 3. throw them away.
If I had had to do my own laundry, this wouldn't have been an issue, I could have just taken care of it myself without shame. I was always really embarrassed about my period. I guess that's another issue altogether though.
Also, if I had been expected to do my own laundry, I wouldn't have gone off to the Air Force when I was 18 never having done a load of laundry in my life