Getting past

[~Robin]

How do you get passed a death of a child and welcome a new one? I worry all the time that something that will happen to this little man at anytime. Our DD passed away in 1998 of SIDS and it was such a shock. Then after that we had 2 other children which were both born in quick succession. Then 5 years later we are due with a sweet awesome little boy...that I can't help but living in constant fear for his safety. If he doesn't move then I immediatly panic. I worry that once he is born something will happen to him. We have all the boxes and reciepts for all the things that we have gotten for him...Just in case and I hate it. I hate that I have allowed fear so much control over my life. I am a Christian and believe that fear is a stronghold that shouldn't be in place. What can I do to make this transition easier?

[2Sweeties1Angel]

It's just something that you have to do. My son died April 22, 2001 and left behind a twin brother. I've also had two daughters since then. There are times that I feel the panic trying to set in but I just have to force myself to ignore it. Worrying isn't going to change anything and I don't want to ruin the time that I do have with them, KWIM? We could all go at any time, it's just a fact of life.

[NullSet]

I'm not sure the worry will ever really go away. Mine is there all the time but I have found some wonderful coping mechanisms. Exercise for me really lifts my spirits, also massaging all those tight muscles that clench up from the stress of worrying. Just take each day as it comes. I'm sorry I don't have better advice, but just try really hard to believe in your pregnancy and that this little boy will be just fine.