(X-posted in Nighttime Parenting)
I searched a bit and didn't find anything (obvious) that fell into this niche, so not sure, but I hope this is the right place to start.
Dd is 3 and starts in her own bed every night, rejoining us in the big bed by 3-5 am, every morning.
She is confidently pottying all day, and once in awhile is dry in the mornings. (like once or twice a month, maybe 3 times.)
The smell of her full Pull-Up wakes me before she even gets settled, when she comes to bed.
If she's awake enough, I change her, as much for my own comfort as for hers.
I haven't sought literature on the topic of nighttime potty-learning, yet, but have heard that it's best to wait til they're dry through the night consistently. Here's my issue: I was potty-trained by 18 mo, so says my mother, but was a bed wetter for well into early school years, (possibly due in part to some traumas I experienced), with accidents in school (under the radar, for the most part, thanks to discretion) right up to about the age of 8-9. My mother had no idea how to help me, and behaved about it in a way that left me feeling just awful about myself, til she took me to a ped when I was around 8 yo, to find out "what's wrong with" me. He told her I was probably just a very heavy sleeper, and to wake me at night, each night, to teach me to wake myself up in the night when I needed to go. For obvious reasons (I think?) I don't want to risk that dd might be like I was, and just never hit a point where she's dry through the night.
How do children nighttime potty-learn? Are there techniques and approaches to it? Should I at some point start waking her in the night to go? Sometimes when she does wake up in the night, if she's still dry I take her... it makes her pretty miserable, so I try to be fast and just get her on the pot and right back to bed... should I stop that? Do it more consistently?
Just wondering what you think... looking for input and ideas, suggestions, things that have worked for you, etc. Thank you!
I searched a bit and didn't find anything (obvious) that fell into this niche, so not sure, but I hope this is the right place to start.
Dd is 3 and starts in her own bed every night, rejoining us in the big bed by 3-5 am, every morning.
She is confidently pottying all day, and once in awhile is dry in the mornings. (like once or twice a month, maybe 3 times.)
The smell of her full Pull-Up wakes me before she even gets settled, when she comes to bed.
If she's awake enough, I change her, as much for my own comfort as for hers.
I haven't sought literature on the topic of nighttime potty-learning, yet, but have heard that it's best to wait til they're dry through the night consistently. Here's my issue: I was potty-trained by 18 mo, so says my mother, but was a bed wetter for well into early school years, (possibly due in part to some traumas I experienced), with accidents in school (under the radar, for the most part, thanks to discretion) right up to about the age of 8-9. My mother had no idea how to help me, and behaved about it in a way that left me feeling just awful about myself, til she took me to a ped when I was around 8 yo, to find out "what's wrong with" me. He told her I was probably just a very heavy sleeper, and to wake me at night, each night, to teach me to wake myself up in the night when I needed to go. For obvious reasons (I think?) I don't want to risk that dd might be like I was, and just never hit a point where she's dry through the night.
How do children nighttime potty-learn? Are there techniques and approaches to it? Should I at some point start waking her in the night to go? Sometimes when she does wake up in the night, if she's still dry I take her... it makes her pretty miserable, so I try to be fast and just get her on the pot and right back to bed... should I stop that? Do it more consistently?
Just wondering what you think... looking for input and ideas, suggestions, things that have worked for you, etc. Thank you!
