How much did you hold your kids as babies? - Page 3

[4evermom]

Originally Posted by nicole lisa

About the same as you. It was really hard to function when DS was a baby. Even now he requires a high level of touch as we go about our days. He's 7.5 and is always on my lap or cuddle in on the couch or needing hugs if we're out walking. Of course he has no problem being without me but if I'm around he does physically touch base with me every 15-20 minutes or so and more if he's not playing with friends. He's 7.5.

Same here, except my ds is 6 1/2. Though my ds does not generally like being without me. He's Ok if he is one on one with someone really paying attention to him.

[RubyWild]

24 hours a day/night.

[lemurmommies]

I held DS pretty much all the time until he could sit unassisted (which he did at about 4.5 months.) At that point I still held him a whole lot, but he also liked to sit on the floor and play with me and some toys.

He napped in my arms until he was about 7 months old or so, then started napping alone on our bed. And then he started crawling and I held him less and less.

Now he's walking all over the place and it seems like I am rarely holding him unless we're reading books together. Luckily we still cosleep so I get my snuggles.

[MelissaAHM]

DS is now 5.5 months old and I still hold him alot. For the first several months I held him 23 1/2 hours a day. The only time I didn't hold him was when he was in DH's arms as I got a shower.
Now I hold him about 22 hours a day. He has times when I can put him on the floor and he plays toys but it doesnt' last long. He lives in his Maya wrap.
Sometimes I feel unproductive around the house because it's hard to get things done. I also realize that once he starts moving around he may want to be held less and less - so I'm enjoying every minute of it.

[snuffles]

I can't put newborn babies down. They are so sweet! I just can't bring myself to put them down. So, I hold my babies pretty much 24-7 from the beginning.

[2Sweeties1Angel]

Do people seriously keep track of how much they're holding their babies? I don't have time for that. The twins never really liked to be held and preferred their swings--meaning they would cry if they were held "too long". India and Saffron were worn a lot until they became mobile and no longer wanted to be confined. They'd rather explore than sit on my lap or be tied to my body.

[DevaMajka]

I didn't keep track- I just know that I held ds all the frickin time. lol. Like, most days I couldn't even put him down long enough to pee, let alone cook mac n cheese for dinner! lol.

[WonderWild]

I held him a lot. He hates to be alone. Anytime I left the room I had to take him with me.

[Hoopin' Mama]

It felt like all the time. I guess I could put him down asleep by 4 months though. For short naps at least, not at night.
I think once he got to the stage of reaching out for things it was less and less. He started to like blanket play by 4 months. Short windows of time though.

[MummaLitt]

I seem to hold my DS all the time. He doesn't like being put down for any length of time. I just tried to put him down to type this, thinking he was out cold and he's already starting to make "I'm going to wake up" sounds. Everyone thinks I'm going to "spoil" him by holding him so much but I just can't stand to hear him cry, even for a minute. The only time he isn't being held by me or DH for more then a few minutes is when he's in the car seat or in the pram for fresh air walks. He does like tummy time for a few minutes when he's in the mood, so I'll try to use those moments to run in to brush my teeth. lol

[2Sweeties1Angel]

I actually feel sort of bad for those of you who have babies that like to be held ALL the time. How do you find time to shower, cook, clean, or anything else when you're holding the baby? Sure, you can babywear in the shower I guess and of course while cleaning, but not while cooking. Do you have your SO hold the baby so you can get things done or do you just not do them?

I'm so glad my kids aren't clingy. I don't mean clingy in an insulting way, I just can't think of the word I want to use. I'm glad my kids are naturally more independent, I guess.

[OakBerry]

With my ds it went in stages. I remember times when he was content to just be near me but other times I felt like I was holding him all day long.

[DevaMajka]

Originally Posted by 2Sweeties1Angel

I actually feel sort of bad for those of you who have babies that like to be held ALL the time. How do you find time to shower, cook, clean, or anything else when you're holding the baby? Sure, you can babywear in the shower I guess and of course while cleaning, but not while cooking. Do you have your SO hold the baby so you can get things done or do you just not do them?

I didn't do anything until dp or someone else was around to hold ds. I didn't ever get the hang of the sling, and it was HOT when he was really little (Ohio in August). So I sat and held him, or nursed him. We also had family come over occasionally, so that helped.
I forgot that he was almost always happy in the stroller (he could face me). That was the only reliable way to be able to put him down! Interestingly, I could pretty easily GO anywhere, and he was happy. He could sit for 30 minutes while a friend and I had lunch.
When he was 4 months old, a friend gave me an excersaucer, and that thing was fabulous! He liked it. I had a little more time after that.

I felt quite lucky to have a dp who also felt that holding ds when he wanted held, was vastly more important than a clean house. Actually, dp would often remind me that this stage was so short, and that I should just forget about cleaning and enjoy holding him.

But so far he's been a relatively easy toddler/preschooler, so I'm happy with that trade off