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You have no idea...but I feel good now, like I did before. Someone said this AM in th BFing forum somewhere that if you don't feel right about the choice you made it's probably wrong. Smacked myself in the head...well, not really, but I imagined I did.

That's what I've found of difficult decisions - it doesn't sit right, makes me cry and when I finally come around to the right decision it's such a good, right feeling!

Glad to see you doing the "right" thing for you!
post #22 of 54
You know I support you 100%.
post #23 of 54
Great to see you back! And its soon too Im getting all excited for you
post #24 of 54
Welcome home.
post #25 of 54
Thread Starter 
Thanks guys!

I actually had pretty intense contrax. last night, I was up alllllllll night, but slept until 1PM! I am thinking I was dehydrated. But it was cool in a weird way, I was enjoying experiencing not exploding. Everyone should experience not exploding, it's rather cool. But it was pretty painful for a while, just proved I can handle it and survive. But I'd rather the next time be significantly past 34 weeks!

Thanks for the support!
post #26 of 54
Marie, I'm glad to see that you're happy, healthy and content with your decisions. No matter what you chose I'd support your decision, but I'm so happy that you settled on a decision that makes YOU feel confident.

For you, I wish 4-8 weeks of blissful BH contractions, healthy eating and peaceful gestation. Followed by a super-duper-quick-n-easy birth.
post #27 of 54
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For you, I wish 4-8 weeks of blissful BH contractions, healthy eating and peaceful gestation. Followed by a super-duper-quick-n-easy birth.
Sounds good!

Thanks!
post #28 of 54
Great to see you
post #29 of 54
Congrats mama.... you and the baby are going to do great.
post #30 of 54
Thread Starter 
Thank you!!!
post #31 of 54
that is very awesome.
post #32 of 54
Good for you, Marie! I kinda had a feeling you'd be back...
post #33 of 54
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Good for you, Marie! I kinda had a feeling you'd be back...
So did I...
post #34 of 54
I'm so glad you found some peace, no matter which way you decided to go!
post #35 of 54
I hope you have a beautiful, easy, happy birth!

But I just have to say; being born via c-section is not the worst thing in the world. Being born safely is a birthrite too. Have you considered getting a second opinion regarding your scar tissue? Knowing is half the battle, right?

I hope that if you do wind up needing medical care to help your baby into the world, you know that it doesn't make you any less of a woman, or a mom.
post #36 of 54
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I hope you have a beautiful, easy, happy birth!

But I just have to say; being born via c-section is not the worst thing in the world. Being born safely is a birthrite too. Have you considered getting a second opinion regarding your scar tissue? Knowing is half the battle, right?

I hope that if you do wind up needing medical care to help your baby into the world, you know that it doesn't make you any less of a woman, or a mom.
Thank you. I genuinly appreciate the concern. I know what I want but I am not willing to risk anyone to get it, rest assured...if I feel I need help there is a hospital 5 min. away & I have NO trepidition about utilizing it - if I need it.

I've got several other opinons, all conflicting. Ultimately I have to decide what is safer and a 5th cesarean section undeniably comes with risk as well. I think normal needs to be the default & I can't justify surgery. The "risks" I am handed don't seem to have any basis in logic. This was a very (VERY!!) thoughtful decision, I'm not making rash choices, BELIEVE ME...I have agonized for months and been all over the place regarding decisions. But this is the only one that feels good & right.

And, no, I don't feel like "less" of anything having had 4 already. I'm a realist & it is what it is. Of course, it IS wrong too. Can't overlook the glaringly obvious because then there is no chance to learn and grow, and isn't that what life's all about?
post #37 of 54
Hi Marie!
A fellow 4 c-section mommy here jumping on in. I think I can relate somewhat to the want for a "normal" birth. When my best friend had her wonderful daughter with a midwife, I was amazed at how peaceful it was. The clinical feeling wasn't there but the amazing moment of birth was there with the baby on her mommy's tummy nursing within seconds. A huge change from how my births were!
This being said though, I remember how sore my body was in the weeks leading up to the birth of my 4th My body was completely rejecting stretching the scar tissue and the lower part of my uterus was thinning rapidly.
I know you want the unassisted birth experience but please remember the result is what we treasure, the experience of uassisted would be intense and wonderful if all went well but after much reading in my last trimester (I was on bed rest to help out my uterus) I am convinced that trying for a vbac after so much surgery and scarring would be too much of a risk. The chances of something going very wrong are so there A complete rupture would not necessarily give you the 5 minutes to get to the hospital let alone getting prepped for emergency surgery and getting your precious baby where he or she belongs, safely in your arms.
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I think a normal birth is as much a birthright as breastmilk...and as hard as I tried I CANNOT justify surgery
Your darling baby has a right to be born safely and I'm sure you will find that while a 5th c-section has significant risks, birthing him or her at home with no medical help has much more risks than I think could ever be accepted.
If you are 100% committed to a vbac, could you not do that in a hospital with your OB? When I originally asked my OB about a vbac after 3, he said that he wasn't comfortable doing that but if I felt that I really wanted to do that, we could go to a bigger center (Vancouver Women's hospital in BC) where there were more OB's with more experience in that. That way if you needed to have an emergency section, you would be in the hospital already with the help you would need.
My thoughts are with you and your little one while you explore your options.
post #38 of 54
Hi, everyone Sorry to intrude, but let's please remember that the UC forum is set up primarily for UC support and information.

The UC Forum Guidelines can be read here

Thanks!
post #39 of 54
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Originally Posted by mom2fourgirls View Post
Hi Marie!
A fellow 4 c-section mommy here jumping on in. I think I can relate somewhat to the want for a "normal" birth. When my best friend had her wonderful daughter with a midwife, I was amazed at how peaceful it was. The clinical feeling wasn't there but the amazing moment of birth was there with the baby on her mommy's tummy nursing within seconds. A huge change from how my births were!
This being said though, I remember how sore my body was in the weeks leading up to the birth of my 4th My body was completely rejecting stretching the scar tissue and the lower part of my uterus was thinning rapidly.
I know you want the unassisted birth experience but please remember the result is what we treasure, the experience of uassisted would be intense and wonderful if all went well but after much reading in my last trimester (I was on bed rest to help out my uterus) I am convinced that trying for a vbac after so much surgery and scarring would be too much of a risk. The chances of something going very wrong are so there A complete rupture would not necessarily give you the 5 minutes to get to the hospital let alone getting prepped for emergency surgery and getting your precious baby where he or she belongs, safely in your arms.

Your darling baby has a right to be born safely and I'm sure you will find that while a 5th c-section has significant risks, birthing him or her at home with no medical help has much more risks than I think could ever be accepted.
If you are 100% committed to a vbac, could you not do that in a hospital with your OB? When I originally asked my OB about a vbac after 3, he said that he wasn't comfortable doing that but if I felt that I really wanted to do that, we could go to a bigger center (Vancouver Women's hospital in BC) where there were more OB's with more experience in that. That way if you needed to have an emergency section, you would be in the hospital already with the help you would need.
My thoughts are with you and your little one while you explore your options.
Thanks so much, I appreciate it! I see you are in Canada. Here in the US it is impossible - IMPOSSIBLE - for me to have a hospital VBAC. Firstly NOONE would consider it. No OB and I called at LEAST a dozen midwives and found ONE willing to even follow me to a hospital in a real emergency, and as my "mother" not as my mw. The liability is too great. That said, OFF the record, I had many wish me well & not seem too concerned. Figures, hu? The risk of rupture is so small it's honestly not even on my radar. If for ANY reason I feel a transfer is needed I am consenting to surgery upon admission, unless she's basically on her way out, it is inevitable so it would have to be a REAL emergency for me to go. It's not so much a need to "UC" as much as I just really am a private birther. The thought of people around me makes me very uncomfortable & that can hinder progress, of course.

Again, thanks though - I really do like hearing all opinions. And rest assured I am not unwilling to go in if I need to. Not at all.
post #40 of 54
i think that the real "need" here is to birth as you see fit without people pleading with you to do otherwise based on their own fears, or assessment of their own lives or experiences or facts, or any other factors from any sources.

i truly believe that you know what is right, and that you are choosing what is right for you. To me, that could be any choice that you made--c-section, giving birth with live sharks, or upside down while howling at the moon with 33 midwives in attendance as "mothers."

but you're making this choice to UC, and because you're making it, it's a good one.
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