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post #1 of 8
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and exhausted??

and where is all the help? and free meals?

I'm going crazy - trying to have 'fun' with the girls while I have one eye barely open... trying to keep DS (16m) safe and out of the knife drawer or toilet, and trying to keep the new DS safe in the sling while my back is killing, and I'm afraid I'm going to whack his head on the granite island when I turn around to wipe up spilled pineapple juice on the floor.

my house is a complete disaster - I'm embarrassed to pay the mortgage every month - it's borderline disgusting in here (partly because we lost our dear dog, clara, last month, who was our expert floor cleaner...)

Is it me? or my age (I'm pushing **), or is it #4 and people are afraid to help? or is everyone else out there sick with a lousy cold and can't help us? or are they all afraid to help since we're also sick?

And if I make one more pot of pasta, I'm going to puke. What else can we make for dinner in a flash, with a sling, that's yummy for all ages, inc. DH?

Between making breakfast, all the way through getting everyone's teeth SAFELY brushed without someone falling in the toilet, and tucking everyone under the covers, I turn into a monster. DH keeps up with the dishes and the trash, but I'm still going crazy nonetheless... He's gone from 6am until 6:30pm. That's already way past my bedtime... and he's type 1 diabetic, so if he doesn't eat, he turns into a puddle, and I need to 'rescue' him with food, or a shot of meds to 'wake' him back up... so he has to eat as soon as he comes home, which is right smack in the middle of the witching hour (my witching hour, to be certain!). So by the time he's ready to help, re-runs of the sopranos or star wars are on, and I'm already under the covers. And I've usually forgotten to get myself a drink or tylenol before bedtime... grrrrr.

and that's my rant for the day. maybe tomorrow I'll be a bit more chipper.
post #2 of 8
oh mama. I am feeling much the same. You are not alone....I wish I could bring you some meals. Any chance you live in Oregon?

Yesterday my friend offerred to take my kids for the afternoon. The effort it took to get everyone's hair brushed, into clean clothes, shoes, socks, something into their tummies, into the car, buckled, and then my newborn screamed red-faced awful the whole 6 minute drive.
When I got there, and got my sweet baby from her carseat, all I could do was bawl.
BUT, it was very nice to come back home and have a few hours with just the baby. I took my glasses off so I wouldn't be able to see how messy the house was, though.
LIFE IS SO INTENSE right now. Let's remind ourselves, it is temporary, right?

Our house is in chaos, everyone is out of clean clothes, and sometimes we're eating.

But it's all going to be worth it. I LOVE holding our newborn. The kids are trying to be helpful, their efforts are so sweet.

So, hang in there. You're doing great!!!!

Quincy
(I don't have a sig line, but I've got a ds-7, dd-5, dd-almost 3, dd-2 weeks
and we homeschool (not at the moment though. School consists of housework right now.) and I have a HUGE list of things I have to consiously and try very hard to NOT feel guilty about.
post #3 of 8
((((((HUGS))))))) I know what you're going through!
post #4 of 8
you are not alone!

i set up a food list for people to bring us food each and every day for the first month. we did it with ezra and it was fabulous! and, i have a cleaning service coming next tuesday whether we need it post partum or if i am still preggo. plus, dh works from home 3 days a week now so that life remains sane. there are just so many things i can handle on my own. and, i have gotten over trying to do it all on my own in the past 2 years.
post #5 of 8
Me too. My husband ent back to work on Tuesday after being home for three weeks. Make matters worse it was the day after a holiday so mail volume was through the roof and crappy weather, he didn't get home until 6:30. I missed having someone home with me all day. I should feel ungrateful but I know my mom did way more for my sister after she had a baby as far as meals, etc... Just to get a shower and breakfast before 10 am is a major accomplishment. I tired of being stuck in the house too, but it's been below zero with wind chill and I don't want to take Eli out. Aaahhhhhh, I'm going crazy. Tomorrow it's supposed to be a little warm so I think Eli and I are going to go to Target to return a gift after meeting with a potential daycare person. The nearest Target is an hour away so it'll be a nice trip out of the house.
post #6 of 8
Spu - I feel you, I had a terrible day too but things are already looking up (for me). Remember, it's the bad days that make the good days feel good, you can't have one without the other - just give it time. *hugs*
post #7 of 8
*hugs*

I've cried more since baby has been here than I can remember every crying for any reason. What crazy times and emotions! I can only imagine juggling 4 little ones! I hope to get the opportunity someday and then I'll be posting the same.

I just keep looking at my little one and remembering that every day is another day that I've "done this." More experience means we can handle more, or at least that we can trust that we were capable yesterday. lol
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DH and I just sat down and had a fraction of the talk about whether I'm depressed, or just overwhelmed. It's not just you, I think it's everyone.
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