frustrated

[Onemagicmummy]

my friend is expecting her 3rd baby in a few months and wants to try BF, she FF her other 2 and wants to "give it a try" fiar enough i showed her a proper latch with Evie and talked to her abotu all teh benefits etc but she told me her OH "wont let me becasue his ex wife BF her kids and they all turned agressive, i think that cos the mum drank adn took drugs" i gave him all teh info i could about how its perfect food, better for baby and mum etc but he is not swayed at all. i can not bear the thought that my friend wants to do somethign so much yet is not being "allowed" to because of her OH.
what else can i do?
because there other two kids "are just fine" the OH doesnt see a reason to change things.
my friend says that she has seen how easy it is for me and wants to do it too but cant get it throught to OH that she can BF and express so he can give a bottle of BM but he is having non of it.
its so frustrating

on a more positive note i met a mum at the school who has one son a day younger than my olderst and a alsmot 1yr old, she is a Extended BF mum. her eldest got 2yrs and she planning the same for her youngest.
yey

Kiz

[mama24-7]

Well, she may not get support from her dh & bf anyway. My dh was on board when I was pregnant & after dd was born, but when we started having many problems that were more related to the reality of becoming parents than actually breastfeeding, he said that we would FF the next one. I decided then that there would be no next one if that were the case. Everything has turned around for us now, so there is hope.

What kind of health care provider does this mom-to-be have? Is the hcp supportive of BF'ing? Perhaps she should start taking her dh w/ her to appts to have the hcp talk about the importance of BF'ing.

Oh, & I don't talk about the benefits - I talk about the risks of not BF'ing.

HTH,
Sus