Age gaps - Page 3

[Chiroalltheway]

DS1 and DS2 are 19 months apart, DS2 and D?3 will be 20/21 months apart. i LOVED having the first 2 so close together. i think it did wonders to prevent jealousy issues. i promise, it was like DS1 never even remembered NOT having his baby brother around. Honestly, with DS1 at 2.5 yrs old right now, i think there would be huge jealousy issues, and i'm really fearing jealousy from him with the new babe more than from DS2. Anyway, the bottom line, though (IMO) is that you give them each your time, include them in things, and constantly tell them how much love is in your family. we always (still) will tell DS1, "DS2 loves you so much! see how he's following you around and watching you? you're his big brother!!" and vice-versa to DS2. kids adapt rather well, and if yours don't, i'm sure there are mamas who have advice

[MommyinMN]

DD and DS are 22 months apart. That was the perfect age gap for me and we were shooting for somewhere close to that this time around but had trouble TTC. There will be a 36 month gap between #2 and #3. It isn't our ideal, but I think it will work out well anyway.

[clavicula]

Originally Posted by Chiroalltheway

DS1 and DS2 are 19 months apart, DS2 and D?3 will be 20/21 months apart. i LOVED having the first 2 so close together. i think it did wonders to prevent jealousy issues. i promise, it was like DS1 never even remembered NOT having his baby brother around.

: So true. DD1 and DD2 were 20 months apart and it worked perfectly for us. We had no jealousy problem at all.

[railyuh]

DS will be about 3 months shy of being 3 years old when this baby is born. We actually thought we would have our children closer together but it didn't quite work out that way.

[Faith33]

My oldest will be 6.5 years older than the baby. My middle dd will be 3.5 years older than the baby.

[Sage_SS]

I'm a bit bummed about the time between this one and my youngest. There's two years between all my girls, but there'll be five years between my youngest and this one. My oldest will be 9!

Illness was a major roadblock for us.. Grrr...

[catballou24]

Originally Posted by Sage_SS

I'm a bit bummed about the time between this one and my youngest. There's two years between all my girls, but there'll be five years between my youngest and this one. My oldest will be 9!

9 years is nothing...try 16!! they will adjust just fine..

[hattifattener]

I go back and forth on the age gap thing. They'll be four years apart, which is a bigger gap than I had planned, due to surprises with DH's grad school and a miscarriage and stuff. But now that they baby's actually on it's way, Lord willing, I keep thinking, "I couldn't be doing this if DD1 was littler!" There's just so much about life that she really GETS now; I think it'll help smooth the way. Anyway, that's how I make myself feel better.

[E's Mama]

7 1/2 years between #1 and #2. I always wanted to have kids close in age, because I am considerably older than my sibs, but I will take what I can get!

[bemommy]

There is a 4 year 3 month age gap between my dd and my ds. There will be a 20 month age gap between my ds and this little one. I'm freaked. I can not get over the feeling that my ds is too young for me to be pregnant

Also bummed that ALL of my kids have/will have winter birthdays. We have a big beautiful yard and a pool and NO SUMMER BIRTHDAYS! Blah!

[CheriK]

Originally Posted by bemommy

Also bummed that ALL of my kids have/will have winter birthdays. We have a big beautiful yard and a pool and NO SUMMER BIRTHDAYS! Blah!

Tell me about it. This baby is due at around the same time as ds/dd's bday. And this year, THanksgiving is also that last week in November. The holiday season is insane around here already, now we're adding yet another bday. My kids are the only grandkids for 3/4 of the grandparents, and are therefore overly gifted for both bdays and Christmas. It's totally overwhelming! I want to celebrate half-bdays instead!

[KindRedSpirit]

For sure, consider the 1/2 birthdays.Or,do all the birthdays together and go out of town for the holidays!This is what we are considering.We will have 3 birthdays in 4-5 weeks, depending on this babe's birth day!I'm considering going out of town for the holidays anyway,though a newborn does throw a stick in the wheel.
As far as spacing goes here,ds and dd are 21 mo.apart great spacing!dd and dd are 26 mo apart, and tandem nursed until 1/2 thru ds pregnancy.dd and ds are 31 mo. apart,and ds and this one will be 30 mo. apart. I am worried about the spacing verging on too close to ds being 3 yrs old,but our last baby miscarried, so,waddaya do?
I was 18 mo. older than my brother and he was 18 mo. older than our sister-we are like triplets pretty much.with the rest of the siblings averaging 3 years apart. (2 older than me and 2 younger than mentioned sister.)

[two bricks shy]

Aleah will be 28 months older than her sibling.

I think it will be good.

[atjmom]

My oldest is 10 and my second is 9. There is a 20 month difference between them. My third is 15 months old so there is a 9 year difference between the 2nd and 3rd. I am expecting a 4th in November so there will be a 23 month age gap between the 3rd and 4th. My dh says that we have two sets of kids the older ones and the babies!

[mommy&gigi]

My daughter will have just turned 3 when the baby is born. I always wanted my kids 3 years apart...I guess I was just afraid of having a 2-year-old and a newborn. She is still breastfeeding, so I wasn't sure if I would be able to get pregnant.
I am feeling like 3 years apart is sort of the natural spacing. I think that in cultures where extended breastfeeding is the norm, 3 years is probably the average.