What would you make of this? u/s question

[healthnutmama]

Up until being in the hospital over the weekend, I had been able to avoid having an u/s this pregnancy. Obviously, the sex of the baby has been unknown.

Before my gall bladder u/s, I told the tech that I did not know the sex, that I did NOT want to know the sex, and that I wasn't really even going to be looking at the screen if she peeked at the baby. I just wasn't interested since DH couldn't be there to share the moment with me.

Near the end of the u/s, she did scroll over my uterus to find the placenta to make sure my pain wasn't caused from abruption. Then (to my horror) she says, "She's really practicing her breathing". I totally freaked on the inside. I wanted to ask her if she just gave the sex away, but I didn't because either way I would've known by her reaction. I just turned my head, shut my eyes, and pretended that I didn't hear a thing. I'm totally bummed.

So, do you think she gave it away or do you think I'm over analyzing in my overly emotional pregnant state?

[CherryBomb]

I think she was probably just using it generically. I remember when dd2 was born the anesthiaslogist (which I never spell right) kept referring to her as "he" and I totally thought I had a boy since we didn't know the sex beforehand! I was like "it's a boy" and he said "oh, no,it's a girl, sorry!"

[akwifeandmomma]

I wouldn't put too much stock into her comment.

I had a fluid check/NST at 41+ weeks with my youngest DC and the tech had me close my eyes while she looked for the gender, knowing that I did NOT want to know and not wanting to show me inadvertently.

After the scan was all over and done, she was making small talk and said, "So, how old are your other boys?" while taking my BP.

I was horrified and crushed, totally thinking she gave away the gender and that it was another boy. I actually cried later, retelling it all to DH. So sad that the surprise I waited so long for was totally spoiled.

My little girl is a month old today.

[jillybeans]

The nurses at our ob's office always use "she" regardless of the sex, unless the parents know it's a boy. And even then they are so used to using "she" that they slip up. I wouldn't think too much of it!

[gretasmommy]

I wouldn't read into it at all!!! They always use "she" in the office where i get my u/s's done unless the parents know it is a boy.

Nah . ... . you still have a 50/50 chance of having a girl! No more than that!

[anj7]

I wouldn't put stock in it either. A tech did that to me once, but she uses the 'he' and I asked if she ment that the baby was a boy and she clarified that she calls all babies 'he', she prefered it to 'it'. FWIW, that baby became my first DD, so 'it' definitely was not a 'he'.

[~Katrinka~]

Originally Posted by healthnutmama

So, do you think she gave it away or do you think I'm over analyzing in my overly emotional pregnant state?

Yep, one of those two alternatives, for sure. And since you don't know which one -- it's still a surprise.

I agree that many people would use either one gender or the other in preference to saying "it". Just like if you were writing a book about pregnancy, you would probably alternate chapters where the baby was referred to as "he" and "she".

[DBZ]

Maybe the tech has girls. She might not have even looked at the sex of the baby. It certainly wouldn't effect your u/s one way or another.

[mommycakes]

She may not have given it away. My mw and one of her assistants have been referring to my babe as a "he" quite often. I asked about that today b/c, though we have an inkling, we want a surprise too. She admitted that she didn't like using the word "it" when referring to babies so randomly threw out different pronouns. She was apologetic and then showed me my chart which actually read "secret genitalia" --she really doesn't know. That came from the clinic that did the u/s which is not affiliated with the birth center.

It could have been a slip but I'm willing to bet that the u/s tech would be sensitive to your wishes.

[~ani~]

I'd bet she didn't even look and "she" is what she generically calls the unknowns! If she was just looking at your placenta and not doing a regular prenatal u/s for other fetal stuff she would have no reason to look besides her own personal curiosity.

[1Plus2]

Hmmm....I can see why you would be mixed up about this. With my first dd I didn't want to know what she was. The tech said "he" a couple of times and then said "Oh, by the way...I know you don't want to know the gender. I use "he" for all of the babies I scan." I didn't 100% believe her though. Personally - and this is because I am obsessive over things like this! - I would think she had revealed the gender.

Originally Posted by gretasmommy

Nah . ... . you still have a 50/50 chance of having a girl! No more than that!

I had heard that if you have at least two of the same gender in a row that the chance of you having that gender again is higher then 50%. Not so?

[avasmomleigh]

I bet the US tech just didn't want to use 'it' (if anyone called MY baby IT, I would be COMPLETELY freaked out) but, like the other PP's mentioned their other techs clarified-the tech should have said something so you wouldn't worry! Finding the sex has never been easy for either of my kids-there wasn't a 'whoops-penis!' moment or anything, we really had to work at it and couldn't see at all in the late US I had for dd at 35 or so weeks.

[avasmomleigh]

mis post, don't know how, but this went in as a reply!

[RosemaryS-F]

I had a tech say "he" during my ultrasound last week, and I was like, "great, thanks." But I think now that it was just a manner of speaking.

[healthnutmama]

Thanks for all of the great input. I'm still not sure what to think. I know the baby's bum was right where she was b/c she made a comment about it. It doesn't really matter now, it's done. Plus, I don't know for sure so it's still a surprise. I was just a little disheartened by the comment.

Originally Posted by 1Plus2

.I had heard that if you have at least two of the same gender in a row that the chance of you having that gender again is higher then 50%. Not so?

I have heard this is true for the 3rd child. I don't know if the trend continues after the 3rd or not.