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Mama41 and Crazydiamond

Your postings are very interesting, and remind me of what learning should all be about. Thanks!
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Originally Posted by eggplant View Post

Frankly, I find the sense of entitlement that comes through all of your posts really off-putting, and I'm guessing that if comes through to your instructor as well. Perhaps the ones you have better relationships with are the ones you don't obviously disrespect, or from whom you actually feel you might learn something, those whom you feel have "earned" your best work. I don't know. I do know, though, that it's hard to feel a lot of sympathy for someone who complains about her grade, and her teacher's feedback, while she consistently says that she doesn't turn in her best work, doesn't question her writing ability at all, and clearly doesn't think her instructor has much of value to offer her.
Thank you for correcting my posts!

It would be hard for me to disrespect a professor when I have never had any personal correspondence with her, other than submitting my paper. Without any text in the body of the email it would be hard to convey any emotion or behaviors to her. When did I ever state that I complained about my grade? Perhaps you have read the wrong posts. If it weren't for my having submitted 3 assignments she would not know that I exist. Maybe you missed my previous post where I stated that I try to avoid my instructors. When the inital post was made the paper had not even been graded? I have not even received a final final grade. I never asked for sympathy, and I never expected it. I was shocked at the instructors tone that was made in an announcement to the entire class. Shocked, but not completely disturbed. More wowed than anything.


Maybe next time, instead of taking the time to make corrections that I could use spell check to make or do myself if I had the inkinling, you should read all the posts rather than jump to fabricated conclusions. Obviously you have chosen to jump on Mama 41's band wagon. At least she had the decency to read what I wrote and not make up words or phrases that I never typed. I actuallly respect her thoughtful responses, even if I do not agree with them all. Don't judge my capacity for learning and my desire to do well in all that I do. If more people in this word actually set their goals high and worked their hardest to meet and exceed goals that they had set into place our world would be a much better place. I don't understand why you have chosen to pigenhole me with others that you have met. Perhaps I would have to be an academic instructor who comes across students who set lofty goals but become angerd, bitter, aggressive or whiny when they goals are not materialized. Who knows?

Just because an instructor has the final say so as to grades and style of insrtuction does not mean that they should have the ability to belittle anyone's idea. Yes, they should be able to critique and tell a student flat out that I do not like your work, or tell a student point blank that their writing is subpar. But NO professor, instructor or teaching assistant shoudl ever tell women students that all birth stories are the same and they are boring, or comparable to baseball tales. There is a line between critiquing/grading a students work and insulting one of the greatest things that a woman is able to do. A male student could have very well taken offense to her words in regard to sports and how she sterotyped the types of papers that students of certain demographics write.

Yes, I do have a sense of entitlement. I am entitled to set my goals, and work hard and (oh my God you say it is not possible) actually learn while reaching them.



I hope that you finding errors in my writing but I am going to bed. I have a 5 page History paper that is due on Sunday and I will definetly ensure that it is gramatically correct. If I need a real time spell check, I will pm you. Have a wonderful night!!!
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I am done with this post. It has gone on for far too long. I am tired of defending my quest for excellence. I made my initial post because I thought that someone would agree or even disagree that her words were not professional. My husband and my childless friends would not even begin to get it so I never even shared with them. I would have never thought that mine or anyone's desire to be the best that they know that they can be would be belittled and trivialized. You all have the right to do that, but I have never encountered such attitudes.

I am familiar with standardized testing and they do not count for much in the public school setting.

However, they do matter in private school settings if a student is applying to admission to a school wtih a great scholastic reputation or for entry into an accelerated summer program. In college excellent test scores and excellent grades mean the difference between a scholarship and paying tuition. Great grades coupled with work experience and other activites amount for more when compared to a student with a similar background and okay grades.


Thank you for all the feedback and advice.
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I am tired of defending my quest for excellence.
I'm not expecting an answer to this, but for me, if you are not turning in you best work for every single draft, that's not a quest for excellence. That's a quest for... I don't know what.

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It would be hard for me to disrespect a professor when I have never had any personal correspondence with her, other than submitting my paper.
There's a problem right there. Why not go in during her office hours? You talk about a quest for excellence but if you haven't been into her office hours this late in the quarter or semester, that tells me you are missing a key part of the academic experience.

I'm not going to highlight all of your grammar and spelling errors, but I can tell you that you do not have superb grammar and spelling. You make a lot of elementary errors. If you are depending on spell check to get you through, again, I would hardly say that is a quest for excellence.

My profs used to tell us to write the whole paper without spell or grammar check, then to turn it on. It would help us learn spelling and grammar better. You ought to try it- you would see how well you really do.
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