Originally Posted by zoebird
i would go totally stir crazy hanging around in a hospital for my labor. i'd rather just do my own thing at home. comfy.
I'm happy that GooeyRN found a middle ground she was comfortable with, and I do advise doula clients to wait quite a bit before heading to the hospital...but truly, in my opinion, I find the whole thing very odd.
(and this digresses from anything related to UC, as I am discussing regular old hospital birth and midwife attended homebirth)
To me, the idea of having a midwife attended homebirth is a lot safer than showing up at the hospital to push. Unless you are checking hearttones yourself, there's no monitoring, there's no experienced attendant watching for signs that things have gone astray from normal. I guess I just don't get why people feel like it's "safer" to go to the hospital for the last hour. Things can go wrong at any
point in labor, and the beauty of midwifery care is that they usually can catch it LONG before it's an emergency. I guess I just feel like if I was going to wander the halls until transition, I'd rather wander my own halls at home and then give birth there too.
I also think it's very, very telling about our society and sad when the best way to have a hospital birth is to spend as little time there as possible. Again...I agree with this practice, and I help people to do it, but I always find myself wondering why exactly people won't even consider homebirth when they really don't want to be in the hospital hardly at all!
Now, I understand that UC'ers don't feel like monitoring OR an attendant make a difference in safety, and I would agree for those truly espousing the UC mindset. I feel like that faith in the process and intuitive depth more than likely eliminates a lot of risk in and of itself. Unfortunately, I just don't have that faith or mindset, and probably never will because of the culture I've been raised in. Plus, I just don't have any desire to give birth with anything less than a posse. Just how I am.
For the OP, I agree with whoever posted about nailing down your specific fears. My first thoughts reading your last post mirrored Romana9's. I think it will be great for you to meet with the CPM and find out exactly how skilled they are in both detecting potential emergency situations (and thus getting you to the hospital when you need to) and treating a wide variety of birth emergencies.
Birth has risks, plain and simple, no matter who you are and where you do it. There's no such thing as a risk-free birth. That's what makes these decisions so hard. You have to look at each plate full of risks and benefits and see which one you want to pick.