Hi, I'd love to join this thread of supportive women...
I am 38 and could say been ttc #1 for 6 or 7 years??? But not all of that continuous and the early part of that with ex-H who was never fully interested or committed (in more ways than one!) Started charting ~2001 or 02, and shortly after that, I underwent a sudden weight loss via protein diet, subsequently LOSING my period for almost 2 years. (no T rise in all that time, so no O.) Saw RE on 2 occasions in those early days: 1st got some tests and they said all hormones were OK, but I can't remember if they tested everything-- I do recall my boobs got squeezed, and that I went in more than once. Gave me progesterone Rx, and AF barely returned for one cycle only. 2nd RE, had an U/S; tech told me my endometrium was thin, tho official report was "fine." (Wasn't menstruating during this time.) Lots of brown rice, and oh yeah acupuncture, began to normalize my cycles, and within that healing time (before AF came back regularly), split with XH. Whew!
Been with man of my dreams 3 years, TTC almost 2. Acupuncture & herbs from TCM who, in my limited-availability small town in the beautiful boonies, admits doesn't know Jack (OR Jill) about fertility. She was adjusting herbs based on my T-charts from a textbook, but I had little faith in my T-data because I'd wake up frequently in the night... After 10 mos I left her and stopped T-charting, just observing my cervix instead (very little CM to chart). Have to say I gained health and personal awareness w/ TCM, but no pg.
So that's me. Thanks for listening
Been away from TCM for 4-5 mos. I watch my diet carefully, watch my pollutants and stress level too; started vitex 2 cycles ago (in 2ww now but DH and I missed our best O-day due to travel -- vitex has made my O earlier and my LP longer); just learned about full-fat dairy and so have cut out all reduced-fat AND pasteurized (I'll be getting a friend's fresh goat milk in another week when the (goat) kids are weaned); am considering evening primrose oil for my CM; currently use Pre-Seed each DTD at O-time, and take mucinex pills during follicular phase (instead of Robitussin, which has H-F corn syrup and artificial colors); use progesterone cream during LP; have wicked awful cramps during AF but am cutting out the drugs cuz of bad reps w/ NSAIDs & IF; do yoga poses to increase circulation to ab/pelvic organs; and give my DH herbs & vities (his SA was good but on the lower end of good-- Saw Palmetto w/ Pygeum, Korean ginseng, zinc [not too much], vit C, good-Omega oils & a great multivit) & try to keep him out of the hot tub. Thought I'd pick up T-charting again but on 2nd thru 4th nights of it, woke up alot!
(Was sleeping great til that.)
DH and I are giving ourselves several more months of chillin' and tryin', without clinical input. There is no RE less than 4 hours' drive away from us, and I wonder what I could get the OB/GYN to do, in terms of analyses.
I too have many friends w/ kids, & friends who are PG, and in all of their own excitement we get asked all the time by them & by neighbors when we're going to have kids. A few friends know we're trying, and they hold back from asking if I'm pg yet, but I can see them holding back (they used to not). Some even then ask how how old I am (38) and then (seems to me) have some sort of judgment for not "going to a dr & getting it taken care of" yet. I love the previous discussions about perceptions of normalcy. We are all making a loving effort, and it requires that we pay attention to details. That's a normal part of the process, and the inevitable self-awareness that comes from it is an unexpected gift.