The March 2008 Infertility ONE Thread - Page 10

[WeasleyMum]

Originally Posted by ItyBty

I'm feeling totally crazy this cycle. I had period cramps Sunday night, and some bright red spotting, but I havent had any spotting since, and 2 BFNs. I'm not getting all excited though because I had weird spotting in Oct too - I had a day of spotting, a day of nothing, a day of spotting, a day of nothing, and then bam! AF was there in force. I keep expecting to wake up to blood, or see blood on the TP.

That sounds totally infuriating. Like, stop being a tease already, right? I know you're coming sooner or later... I've had cycles like that too. :

[ItyBty]

I know! I mean, stop screwing with me and show up already. Unless I am pregnant, and in which case, give me a sign, or I'm going to lose my marbles. :

[hope4light]

Originally Posted by songbird45

I was just talking to dh about other people's pregnancies last night. I was saying that I'm mostly taking other people's pregnancies in stride. But there are definitely people where if they got pregnant it would be really hard on me, because of their specific relationship to me, or details about their personal lives, or whatever. Hopefully that won't happen, and it if does, I hope I have the grace to react well, at least to their face!

I completely understand where you are coming from. And of course it seems like every female in the world except for US, is pg. When my brother in law called to say they were pg, I was just crushed. Let me apologize before I even think this, let alone say it, but in my distraught mind they didn't deserve it. They have taken money from both of their sets of parents because they can't stop spending it and can't keep up with their debt. My MIL is still paying for his car insurance, and they have been married almost 3 years (less than us may I point out). They just were not at the right point in their lives when I looked at it. Then, to make things worse, we found out right after my FIL passed away, and when they were here for the funeral I watched her take her BCP... turns out they got pg on their FIRST TRY!!!! Even after her being on BCP for a number of years.... HELLO! They wanted to tell me themselves, and dh had to let them down and tell them that he would let me know... they didn't know about our IF at that point, so once I calmed down I told dh to call and explain so that I didn't look like a complete lunatic, only a partial one at least.

But, then I have this friend that had an eptopic for her first pg, and when they got pg it just didn't bother me. I truly felt happy, albeit a bit jealous.

But when is it OUR TURN???!!!!

[ItyBty]

: Augh! More spotting today and another BFN. Why can't the hag just SHOW UP and stop torturing me like this? I mean, at this point I'm pretty much assured she is coming, so SHOW UP! Stop screwing with me!!!!! :

[EastbayK]

Well, I'm a latecomer this month, but I feel like this is the place for me to be!

We've been TTC #2 since June 2007. The first was pretty quick and easy to concieve. We've been working with an RE since early Feb and got the "unexplained fertility" diagnosis. We are planning on starting with clomid/IUIs with my next cycle. In Feb my husband was also diagnosed with cancer and we just found out that he will need radiation therapy. We've been told we'll have to take a year off of TTC. As an alternative, we are trying to bank a few samples to use to continue on with our IUI plan before he starts treatment on 4/1.

6 months ago, we never thought we'd be facing an infertility diagnosis, let alone a cancer diagnosis on top. Thanks for letting me in!

Kim

[crazyrunningmama]

Originally Posted by EastbayK

Well, I'm a latecomer this month, but I feel like this is the place for me to be!

We've been TTC #2 since June 2007. The first was pretty quick and easy to concieve. We've been working with an RE since early Feb and got the "unexplained fertility" diagnosis. We are planning on starting with clomid/IUIs with my next cycle. In Feb my husband was also diagnosed with cancer and we just found out that he will need radiation therapy. We've been told we'll have to take a year off of TTC. As an alternative, we are trying to bank a few samples to use to continue on with our IUI plan before he starts treatment on 4/1.

6 months ago, we never thought we'd be facing an infertility diagnosis, let alone a cancer diagnosis on top. Thanks for letting me in!

Kim

: and to you, you've got a lot on your plate. Welcome, hope your stay on this board is short and sweet.

As for me...... I finally got a call back from the clinic today, they are sending me the recs for bloodwork etc. My dh is going to be soooooo unhappy that he has to go for all the tests again too. I just weaned March 5 and they want you to be not breastfeeding for at least a month, but there are some tests you have to take on specific days of your cycle, which is due, oh, around the exact one month mark. Having started this ball rolling, I hope the stars align and I don't have a to wait an extra month! Exciting, scary and I just don't know!

[mischievium]

Originally Posted by ItyBty

: Augh! More spotting today and another BFN. Why can't the hag just SHOW UP and stop torturing me like this? I mean, at this point I'm pretty much assured she is coming, so SHOW UP! Stop screwing with me!!!!! :

Oh, ItyBty, that is just not fair or nice.

Originally Posted by EastbayK

Well, I'm a latecomer this month, but I feel like this is the place for me to be!

We've been TTC #2 since June 2007. The first was pretty quick and easy to concieve. We've been working with an RE since early Feb and got the "unexplained fertility" diagnosis. We are planning on starting with clomid/IUIs with my next cycle. In Feb my husband was also diagnosed with cancer and we just found out that he will need radiation therapy. We've been told we'll have to take a year off of TTC. As an alternative, we are trying to bank a few samples to use to continue on with our IUI plan before he starts treatment on 4/1.

6 months ago, we never thought we'd be facing an infertility diagnosis, let alone a cancer diagnosis on top. Thanks for letting me in!

Kim

Kim, welcome to the thread and I am so sorry to hear about your DH .

Originally Posted by crazyrunningmama

As for me...... I finally got a call back from the clinic today, they are sending me the recs for bloodwork etc. My dh is going to be soooooo unhappy that he has to go for all the tests again too. I just weaned March 5 and they want you to be not breastfeeding for at least a month, but there are some tests you have to take on specific days of your cycle, which is due, oh, around the exact one month mark. Having started this ball rolling, I hope the stars align and I don't have a to wait an extra month! Exciting, scary and I just don't know!

Timing-- that's one of the hardest parts of dealing with infertility, if things are so much as a day off, you have to wait another whole month. I hope the timing works out for you :.

[Seedlings]

Originally Posted by songbird45

I went to visit my MIL yesterday and borrowed a big stack of Harlequin romances. I'm really hoping this helps put me in the mood for the "duty sex" this cycle. Dh was really surprised. He couldn't fathom my sudden interest in this genre.

omg that is so funny !

[Seedlings]

Originally Posted by ItyBty

: Augh! More spotting today and another BFN. Why can't the hag just SHOW UP and stop torturing me like this? I mean, at this point I'm pretty much assured she is coming, so SHOW UP! Stop screwing with me!!!!! :

Wow that is really crazy. What cd are you on?

Do you think the injectables are effecting your cycle? With Follistim I start spotting a few days before I have full flow. Maybe if you just put on cute white pants and walked around a public place she would show (she's a bad one like that to me)

[Seedlings]

Originally Posted by EastbayK

Well, I'm a latecomer this month, but I feel like this is the place for me to be!

We've been TTC #2 since June 2007. The first was pretty quick and easy to concieve. We've been working with an RE since early Feb and got the "unexplained fertility" diagnosis. We are planning on starting with clomid/IUIs with my next cycle. In Feb my husband was also diagnosed with cancer and we just found out that he will need radiation therapy. We've been told we'll have to take a year off of TTC. As an alternative, we are trying to bank a few samples to use to continue on with our IUI plan before he starts treatment on 4/1.

6 months ago, we never thought we'd be facing an infertility diagnosis, let alone a cancer diagnosis on top. Thanks for letting me in!

Kim

, I am so sorry to hear about your infertility and dh's cancer. Welcome and we're here for you both.

[Seedlings]

Originally Posted by crazyrunningmama

As for me...... I finally got a call back from the clinic today, they are sending me the recs for bloodwork etc. My dh is going to be soooooo unhappy that he has to go for all the tests again too. I just weaned March 5 and they want you to be not breastfeeding for at least a month, but there are some tests you have to take on specific days of your cycle, which is due, oh, around the exact one month mark. Having started this ball rolling, I hope the stars align and I don't have a to wait an extra month! Exciting, scary and I just don't know!

I hope it all works for you this month. Will your doctor start with a month of monitoring and then proceed to ivf? : all goes well.

[crazyrunningmama]

Not sure, the last time I did it was such a blur. I would guess that if AF shows up April 4 or so I can get all my blood work done and meet with them in April, probably have to wait for AF again and do BCP for a month to get on "their" cycle, then suppression for ? no idea how long. So I guess I am looking at cycling in June? Is that right? Errrr.

[Aly22681]

Well I am finishing my last clomid pill today (hopefully forever) I LOVE when i finish taking the meds, I dont know why, but to me its like those 2 days after marathon bding during "O" week, where you just get to take a big breath and know you have done all you can do for the month. Well thats how I feel today.

[songbird45]

*nods* Aly, I totally identify with the post-O no-more-bd feeling. And for me, ovulation seems like a huge accomplishment, since I do it so rarely.

I'm having such a hard time this week. I wish I knew for sure that I'd ovulate on the Clomid. Last cycle I O'd on CD 21. I had a super long LP, so I do think the Clomid had an effect, but CD 21 is pretty late to O on Clomid, even if it's early for me. I'm trying not to worry, but I do. I worry that I won't ovulate at all this cycle, or I'll run out of OPK's and miss ovulation. I have enough OPK's to last until CD 23 - should I order more? Or will I see a positive by then and I shouldn't waste my money? This is so awful. And it sounds so trivial when I write it out like this - why am I agonizing like this about $15? But so much hope rides on those little sticks...

I'm losing my mind.

[hope4light]

Originally Posted by EastbayK

We've been TTC #2 since June 2007. The first was pretty quick and easy to concieve. We've been working with an RE since early Feb and got the "unexplained fertility" diagnosis. We are planning on starting with clomid/IUIs with my next cycle. In Feb my husband was also diagnosed with cancer and we just found out that he will need radiation therapy. We've been told we'll have to take a year off of TTC. As an alternative, we are trying to bank a few samples to use to continue on with our IUI plan before he starts treatment on 4/1.

Kim

Welcome! I'm so sorry to hear about everything going on. This is a good place, everyone here is so supportive, I have been very lucky since I found the site. Big Good luck on his sometimes heart renching, sometimes heart warming journey!

[laralee16]

Ok, I figured I should ask on here. Does anyone eles get really umm...in the mood right our oing? Like three or four day after i get a +opk, but after my eggwhite type mucus is over im like all for it, and that is NOT normal for me.

And also, what does everyone think about exersizing while ttc? Im scared to do so, but im also scared to stop cuz I really injoy it and I am feeling better then I have in years.

[laralee16]

Originally Posted by hope4light

I completely understand where you are coming from. And of course it seems like every female in the world except for US, is pg. When my brother in law called to say they were pg, I was just crushed. Let me apologize before I even think this, let alone say it, but in my distraught mind they didn't deserve it. They have taken money from both of their sets of parents because they can't stop spending it and can't keep up with their debt. My MIL is still paying for his car insurance, and they have been married almost 3 years (less than us may I point out). They just were not at the right point in their lives when I looked at it. Then, to make things worse, we found out right after my FIL passed away, and when they were here for the funeral I watched her take her BCP... turns out they got pg on their FIRST TRY!!!! Even after her being on BCP for a number of years.... HELLO! They wanted to tell me themselves, and dh had to let them down and tell them that he would let me know... they didn't know about our IF at that point, so once I calmed down I told dh to call and explain so that I didn't look like a complete lunatic, only a partial one at least.

But, then I have this friend that had an eptopic for her first pg, and when they got pg it just didn't bother me. I truly felt happy, albeit a bit jealous.

But when is it OUR TURN???!!!!

Yeah, I know this feeling. Right around out 3rd year of trying my 17 year old druggy cousin got preg. And within the 1st year o our trying my druggy stepbrother and his gf got preg also.

Originally Posted by ItyBty

: Augh! More spotting today and another BFN. Why can't the hag just SHOW UP and stop torturing me like this? I mean, at this point I'm pretty much assured she is coming, so SHOW UP! Stop screwing with me!!!!! :

Im so sorry

Originally Posted by EastbayK

Well, I'm a latecomer this month, but I feel like this is the place for me to be!

We've been TTC #2 since June 2007. The first was pretty quick and easy to concieve. We've been working with an RE since early Feb and got the "unexplained fertility" diagnosis. We are planning on starting with clomid/IUIs with my next cycle. In Feb my husband was also diagnosed with cancer and we just found out that he will need radiation therapy. We've been told we'll have to take a year off of TTC. As an alternative, we are trying to bank a few samples to use to continue on with our IUI plan before he starts treatment on 4/1.

6 months ago, we never thought we'd be facing an infertility diagnosis, let alone a cancer diagnosis on top. Thanks for letting me in!

Kim

Welcome to the club nobody wants to be in. I hope everything goes well with you hubbys treatment

[songbird45]

Originally Posted by laralee16

Ok, I figured I should ask on here. Does anyone eles get really umm...in the mood right our oing? Like three or four day after i get a +opk, but after my eggwhite type mucus is over im like all for it, and that is NOT normal for me.

And also, what does everyone think about exersizing while ttc? Im scared to do so, but im also scared to stop cuz I really injoy it and I am feeling better then I have in years.

I say just go with it - extra bd'ing is good for your relationship even if it's not useful for making babies.

Exercising is a good idea if your body is already used to it. If it isn't, ramp up slowly and don't overdo it.

[Aly22681]

Originally Posted by songbird45

*nods* Aly, I totally identify with the post-O no-more-bd feeling. And for me, ovulation seems like a huge accomplishment, since I do it so rarely.

I'm having such a hard time this week. I wish I knew for sure that I'd ovulate on the Clomid. Last cycle I O'd on CD 21. I had a super long LP, so I do think the Clomid had an effect, but CD 21 is pretty late to O on Clomid, even if it's early for me. I'm trying not to worry, but I do. I worry that I won't ovulate at all this cycle, or I'll run out of OPK's and miss ovulation. I have enough OPK's to last until CD 23 - should I order more? Or will I see a positive by then and I shouldn't waste my money? This is so awful. And it sounds so trivial when I write it out like this - why am I agonizing like this about $15? But so much hope rides on those little sticks...

I'm losing my mind.

Have you asked for a trigger to make you ovulate?? Is your dr monitoring you via u/s to make sure you are producing mature follicles? I used to O on my own around cd 18 but only have an 10-11 day LP. So on 50mg of clomid my follicles are mature on cd 12, and they give me a trigger, and I O between 12-36 hours later, so I dont even bother with OPK's anymore. I don't have PCOS, so this might be why its different.

[Julia'sMom]

Originally Posted by Aly22681

Have you asked for a trigger to make you ovulate?? Is your dr monitoring you via u/s to make sure you are producing mature follicles? I used to O on my own around cd 18 but only have an 10-11 day LP. So on 50mg of clomid my follicles are mature on cd 12, and they give me a trigger, and I O between 12-36 hours later, so I dont even bother with OPK's anymore. I don't have PCOS, so this might be why its different.

I do have PCOS, but also use a trigger. I am instructed to use the OPK's, so I do like a good patient. However I would be shocked if I ever saw one that was positive, even with clomid. Thus, I go for an ultrasound on CD16 and then they decide if I'm ready for the trigger or if I should wait longer.