the 3 day vs 5 day is very interesting to me, but that's the 1st i've heard about childhood cancers. jeez louise. like anyone needs that to factor into all the decisions you have to consider... we were not given a choice and 5-day's never came up as an option. i think our clinic feels like they do best with 3-day's so that's what they do. the embryologist probably doesn't have the skills/equiptment needed to do 5-days, but that's alright with me.
for all the ivf-ers... i am curious to know if your r.e.'s ever brought up this notion that it takes an average of 3 cycles to get pregnant? is this an age-related thing? and, going into your first cycle, are/were you thinking that the first one would work? i don't know how to feel about this. it is a terrible thing either way!! if you get your hopes up for success at try #1, and it fails, it totally sucks. but to go into it thinking it is going to fail, well, then, why bother at all? also, this 'average of 3 cycles' thing, well, that's not a somewhat fathomable cost of maybe $15000 for a cycle. that's close to $50000!! holy huge amount of money!! sigh. i am trying to find some place of peace about this. i cannot stand the disappointment. makes me pine for the days of ttc-au natural and testing with a $1 stick.
also, the whole entire stat thing is ridiculous. knowing that each woman is completely different going into the cycle, how can you compare yourself to everyone else and whether or not it is going to work for you? how can a woman, who, say, has no fallopian tubes think that her success can be compared to say, someone with unexplained IF? but they are all grouped together inn the stat-taking.
i think the way to view it is on a more singular level... 'will ivf work for ME?' not 'will i be one of the lucky 30/40/50 whatever % of women who will get pregnant this time?'
i have a friend who did ivf. she was in her late 20's, and they had male factor IF. she got pregnant on the first try with twins and she is trying to tell me this is what is going to happen to me. but, i try to explain to her that i am 38, and we have unexplained IF, and so on and so on... but no, she says 'everyone i know got pregnant with twins on the first try'. to her, ivf has a 100% success rate, with twins, nonetheless! so it is all relative.
i think i will give it a few tries. and then, move away from it. (sounds easy now, but the tricky part is the 'moving on') i am tired of grieving losses! my friends are busy raising their new families, and we have been busy grieving losses. when i was growing up, my mom had a friend who was suffering through IF. they tried and tried, like 7 or 8 ivf's and nothing. they switched clinic's, tried new technologies, etc. she was always so sad. 15 years of sadness, and i never could understand, because all the while they were adding to their family through adoption. they have 3 kids! but she couldn't give the dream of a pregnancy up. i could never understand it. well, haha, now i am walking in her footsteps. i've had 'only' 3 years of sadness, and it's almost finished me off. and i havn't even had a full ivf cycle yet!!
well, anyway... just some thoughts.
i tried to post the other day and it got eaten.
i wanted to say to jamie how sad i was to hear her news. i wanted to give her a hug... (((jamie))). i wonder how you are doing?
one last thing. are any of the ivf'ers using tcm herbs?
did your r.e. have any views on herbs while cycling? i have heard some don't want you to take them, esp. during stimming. my acupuncturist told me this is probably due to the r.e.'s not knowing what the herbs are or what they are doing... i have decided to take them through my bcp's, and then stop at my suppression check. i don't even know what are in them- it is a blend of 15 or so tcm herbs, called 'warm the menses'. i think i am going to stop my western herbs during stims, too.
best wishes to you all... its been nice to have a home to check into...