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post #1 of 65
2/27/08 at 11:31am
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Just wondering if you've told people about your pregnancy yet! We've told one of my best friends, but that's it. Last time we waited until I was almost 8 weeks along (after the first ultrasound) to tell, but this time my ultrasound isn't scheduled until 9w1d, and I don't know if I can hold out that long!
post #2 of 65
2/27/08 at 11:51am
We have started telling family and friends.

Last time I was pregnant I waited to tell people until like 6 weeks, and then the very next day I started to m/c. So there were still people I hadn't told and then I had to tell them, hey - I was pregnant and now I'm losing the baby. It totally sucked. I decided this time we would tell right away so we all get to enjoy the happy time longer.
post #3 of 65
2/27/08 at 12:37pm
Last time I told everyone around 5w. This time I think we are going to wait a little longer and just enjoy knowing ourselves. I'm waiting for a t-shirt that says "I'm the big sister". My dd is either going to wear it for the announcement or I'm going to take a picture of her in it and hand it around.

There are 1 or 2 people that know other than my DH and DD. But, none of our family.
post #4 of 65
2/27/08 at 2:48pm
Dh really doesn't like to tell people early because it takes it a while for it to "sink in" with him. I have told a good friend of mine and that's it. I am going to ask DH if he doesn't mind if I tell my mom, who I'm close to and she lives in a different state. I expect we won't tell other people until I start to show. This is our third baby too, so things are a little different.
post #5 of 65
2/27/08 at 3:10pm
Yes, we told people right away. I'd rather have their support should something happen.
post #6 of 65
2/27/08 at 5:45pm
We finally announced it around 8 weeks last time and then we lost the baby at nearly 10 weeks, so this time DH won't let us tell anyone except our family until 13 weeks. It was hard going around "un-telling" people and I still don't think everyone knows yet.

I told my mum when she called the other day, because she asked me and said she'd had a vision of me surrounded by baby bottles and pacifiers or something. And all my online friends know, as well as my best friend who lives in Detroit - we are due 1 week apart which is awesome
post #7 of 65
2/28/08 at 9:32am
I told someone about three seconds after I found out! LOL
post #8 of 65
2/28/08 at 10:48am
Yes, and so far everyone wants me to have an abortion (except DH I think). This is a very hard time for me and its going tto be a very difficult pregnancy.......... Gah........
post #9 of 65
2/28/08 at 10:59am
I have told my mom, and my two best friends. I think everybody who I know in real life from MDC probably knows too, since it's in my siggy . DH also told his best friend.

I think we'll tell everybody else pretty soon.

If something happens I need the support of those I love. I can't imagine the pain of going through another loss, especially without the support of my friends and family.

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Yes, and so far everyone wants me to have an abortion (except DH I think). This is a very hard time for me and its going tto be a very difficult pregnancy.......... Gah........
Oh no! I am so sorry those around you are not supportive Please take care of yourself, and do the best you can to just ignore their "advice"
post #10 of 65
2/28/08 at 11:03am
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Originally Posted by tireesix View Post
Yes, and so far everyone wants me to have an abortion (except DH I think). This is a very hard time for me and its going tto be a very difficult pregnancy.......... Gah........
I'm sorry that you are not getting the support you need. I don't know your situation, but try to ignore the negativity and focus on the miracle of life inside you.
post #11 of 65
2/28/08 at 11:06am
I'm not sure when we will tell people. so far only me and DH know. we haven't told anyone else yet. I'd like to tell our boys first, but I know that when we do they will tell everyone at their schools, so we're waiting to tell them until we are ready for EVERYONE to know.
post #12 of 65
2/28/08 at 1:27pm
well DH knows, then my mom flat out asked, and i couldn't lie to her. then a few days later MIL and 2 SIL were up and they asked, so now they all know. a few acquaintances know because i asked for MW recommendations.

i am really not ready to tell people, and would prefer those that do know didn't. especially with the spotting i started having yesterday.
post #13 of 65
3/4/08 at 12:02am
My husband and I each told our best friends, but we aren't telling family until 8 weeks.
post #14 of 65
3/4/08 at 12:51am
We told everyone right away!

Last year I had two m/c's The first one, we told everyone when we got the positive test, and it was very hard when we had to tell everyone about the loss. With the second positive test, we only told a couple close people and when we lost that one, it was very awkward. Other people didn't know what was wrong, and the people that did know didn't feel comfortable telling the ones who didn't.

This time, I refuse to let fear or doubt enter my mind or heart. Not telling everyone, for me, would be like admitting that there's a chance it could happen again. And I'm not going to admit that, I'm staying positive & full of faith.

I guess this was a long winded way of saying that I'd rather have everyone's prayers & support either way. And sharing the joy makes me feel like everything will be fine.
post #15 of 65
3/4/08 at 1:12am
I have told quickly - with my son - and not until 13 weeks or later - with my daughter. We'll probably go somewhere in between in terms of most RL people, family, and so on. Many people were happy for us with my second, but some people are not so keen on us having a third. So I'd like to keep my private joy for a little while.
post #16 of 65
3/5/08 at 3:10pm
We were going to wait to tell people, but we're going on a 5 day vacation with my in-laws (included some extended family), leaving next Friday (9 days from now). I'm already feeling queasy and they'll definitely notice that I'm not drinking alcohol, so I'm not sure that we have a choice in the matter.

I'm angsty about this. My husband would rather keep it to ourselves for a little bit, and even I would like to wait a little bit longer so that we can have this incredibly exciting little secret between us and so that things have more time to feel *real*. I've only known less than 24 hours. But I'm not otherwise sure how I can manage to have a Puerto Rican vacation with my in-laws (and to make certain choices about food/drinks/activities) without telling.

We haven't told anybody yet.
post #17 of 65
3/6/08 at 10:17am
I started telling people right after I told DH...but my family and close friends know we've been struggling with infertility, as well, so maybe that's a different issue...?

I feel like most of my family and friends are so close to me that I would tell them if I had a mc, so why not tell them the good news of being pg...finally
post #18 of 65
3/6/08 at 4:43pm
We told immediate family right away. We've been telling friends little by little. I just can't keep something this awesome to myself!
post #19 of 65
3/6/08 at 4:56pm
I just now got busted at work, so I guess I just officially told the first person.
post #20 of 65
3/6/08 at 5:08pm
I can't keep a secret to save my life. I told my immediate family, and some close friends. We're due November 5th
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