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post #21 of 34
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Originally Posted by Jude Rose View Post
tip 1-Get an experienced doula that will advocate for your vaginal birth and help you weigh the truly valid concerns with the hospital’s myriad of CTA (cover their a$$) ones.
I totally agree with this. My doula is so well known/respected by the nurses, that we were left alone during my labour while the nurse went on her coffee break. Afterwards my doula explained that that *never* happens.

After pushing for well over an hour with no progress the OB started talking about vacuum and my doula had me change position again and lo and behold Natasha started to descend.
post #22 of 34
I haven't made it through all the responses yet, but right now I'm crying too hard to go on. Okay, I'm preggers, so I'm a bit emotional. But I second everything that's been said. When I found out about my twins at 30 wks I SO did not want to change my birth plan, switch providers, and deal with all the medical people. In fact, I SO did not want to have twins at all! I remember saying things like: This isn't what I wanted. Why me? This isn't how it's supposed to be. For the last weeks of my pg and the delivery, I consented to a minimal number of things. Like Jude, my MW became my over-qualified doula, and I hired a doula as well. The birth was much better than my first (singleton) birth. And now, with my boys about to turn 2, I can say without hesitation that I LOVE having twins. This is exactly how our family is supposed to be. And I guess that's why it was me.

Leslie: I had pit during my first birth (pressured by scare tactics) and I consented to it between baby A and baby B (for a few minutes & continued afterwards for bleeding). I did not have pain meds either time. I don't remember the pit causing any more pain than without, although I have heard that. You may want to be open to taking it as it comes and if YOU feel the need for pain meds, then listen to that. No need to decide before you are there, though, IMO.

I believe there is a thread (or sticky?) of multiples birth stories in this forum that is a great read as well.

All my best to those of you who are expecting. Every one of you absolutely CAN do this. And I bet one of these days you'll even be glad you did.
post #23 of 34
I was just re-reading this thread, and have to thank Jude again for starting it!

post #24 of 34
bumping for newcomers
post #25 of 34
Thank you for posting this thread. I am 28 weeks pregnant with 2 girls and i am a nervous wreck about my upcoming hospital birth. My CNM is a bit more medically minded than i wish she were, but her back-up doc who will be in the OR when i give birth is the only doc i want in my corner. So, i will have to fight a little bit to get the birth that i feel is safest for me and my babies. I did find a doula who is a training to take me on for free, so that is a blessing for us!
It is good to know that hospital birth does not always equal trauma, fear based medicine and c-section. I will hold your words close to my heart as my birth grows near.
post #26 of 34
I love the range of experiences and empowerment represented in this thread.

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post #27 of 34
I am 13 weeks and had a prenatal exam last week where I tried to give my OB my birth plan and she said that I was jumping the gun and that I also have to keep in mind that with twins I might not get all that I want. That really scared me but then I thought about it and I will be birthing at a Kaiser which means that it isn't very likely that she will be delivering me anyways. I just know that towards the end I will have to coach my DH about how I want things to go down because I know he will be a great advocate for me, he can be a real asshole if he has to be I love him so much! I also will be looking into a doula. Thank you all for the pep talk!
post #28 of 34
Jude, I think moms of twins born on January 25th are EXTRA tough broads

Great post, nothing to add :
post #29 of 34
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I just know that towards the end I will have to coach my DH about how I want things to go down because I know he will be a great advocate for me, he can be a real asshole if he has to be I love him so much! I also will be looking into a doula. Thank you all for the pep talk!
Nice! My DH is the same way.

I just want to thank the OP for this post. I wish I'd seen it before I gave birth! My birth went well b/c I seeked out a like minded MD, although as you can see it came a bit earlier than we would have wanted.

We ARE tough broads! That made me really proud of myself.

xoxo
post #30 of 34
Thread Starter 
It was neat and surprising for me to see this thread back at the top during my visit to MDC today. You seem I love MDC and gave a huge part of my strength and knowledge during my pregnancy and my first months of new momhood.
BUT......I haven't been here lately.

The multiples board especially for a time seemed to be veering waaay too far into doctor worship mode. I am not your typical so crunchy I U/C my twins person. I chose a hospital birth. But that didn't mean I was giving my birth up and allowing the doctors to become benevolent dictators. And when I saw for a time around here many of my fellow multiple moms completely turning their power over to their OB's. I had to write this thread.
Those women have all had their births and are full into the unique world of being a MoM so now i can feel safe to express my disillusionment over the mainstream nature MDC was taking. Hopefully that was just an exception and won't become the norm. MDC is where women come to take their power back. There are plenty of places elsewhere to give it away.

I am grateful when it was my turn to come to the multiples board for the first time, I was encouraged to get educated, start eating for a healthy placenta, and take charge!
post #31 of 34
Thank you for this post...and for bumping this post!
post #32 of 34
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Originally Posted by Jude Rose View Post
And when I saw for a time around here many of my fellow multiple moms completely turning their power over to their OB's. I had to write this thread.
Those women have all had their births and are full into the unique world of being a MoM so now i can feel safe to express my disillusionment over the mainstream nature MDC was taking. Hopefully that was just an exception and won't become the norm. MDC is where women come to take their power back. There are plenty of places elsewhere to give it away.
Funny. Around the time you wrote this post, I was impressed with how many of us expectant MoMs were planning home births and trying our best to make well-informed decisions for us and our bebes.
post #33 of 34
Thanks so much for this post. I'm being induced tomorrow at 37 weeks and after a natural childbirth with my first I'm fearful of induction and what other interventions it might lead to. However, I feel after weighing IUGR and my high blood pressure that this is the right thing to do. It's been a lot of back and forth with my OB and I know how hard it can be to stand up for what you believe is the right thing for you, your body, and your babies. At this point I feel as though I've been successful in communicating my desires to her and am ready to trust my body in getting me through labor tomorrow with the least amount of further intervention possible.
Anyways, I just wanted to say thanks for your advice and the comments of other posters as well. I feel empowered and prepared!
post #34 of 34
Deanna's recent posts about hospital birth made me think of this thread and dig it up for her and any other moms planning hospital births around right now. Remember, just because you set foot in the hospital doesn't mean you completely give up your parental obligations and rights over your body! You can still have a wonderful, empowering, positive, safe birth experience, and Jude is a rock star for starting this thread. If you haven't checked out her birth story yet, you should (I think it's in here somewhere).
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