Originally Posted by janellesmommy
As long as the parents aren't abusive, they have a right to know. It's not your right to decide that losing priviledges is too harsh a consequence.
You have no way of knowing how other people talk to their kids. My father once called me a trashy whore for coming in late (I hadn't had sex at that point in my life). You have no idea what you could be setting those kids up for. I doubt that any one who knew my family when I was growing up had any idea what complete hell I was living in.
Yeah, I got that black eye playing baseball.
If parents haven't built an open, honest, accepting relationship with their teens, they don't have a right to know anything.
Remember, the parents are the ones who drove the relationship in the first place. What the teens believe about their parents is based on what the parents have said and done their entire lives.
Originally Posted by moondiapers
not their far distant future, not a true understanding, NO
The point of getting into a good college is to have the best options after college, so a 16 year old trying to get into college is planning 6+ years ahead. The seem to understand that it will effect the rest of their lives.
Many adults seem to lack the understanding of how their sexual decisions will affect their futures. I'm in my 40's and can't believe the number of couples we know who've either divorced because of an affair, or tried to rebuild their marriages after an affair. Often humans make decision about sex without thinking it the whole way through because sometimes when our sex drive kicks in it is hard to think straight.
Open, honest communication would seem to be the key to helping our kids make the best choices possible, but their doesn't seem to me to be an age when the sex drive calms down so much that all of us are fully capable of thinking straight when it kicks in.