from one babe to two

[Gunter]

mamas to two or more,

bonding with my feb babe is awesome. nursing a newborn is so fun, her head so precious and sweet. i love to look at every part of her wee body and just soak her up. it's hitting me how FAST the next two years will fly by and i want to savor every moment of her life. having a 27 month old love, i have been hit by how quickly she grew up. and, it's really hit me hard!

what is so hard for me these days is the loss of my only child family. i just miss ezra so much. i am sobbing about it throughout the days. just how quickly she grew up and now it's forever gone and our family is forever changed. she seems so tall and independent. i even thought she would want to nurse, again but she's not interested. i want to hold her and snuggle her into bed with me, again. i feel this ache in my heart about our relationship growing apart. and, reflecting back on how tough it was for me to nurse her while i was preggo...wondering if she weaned before she was ready...though at the time she acted so ready. just thinking about did i lose out on her ever since i was pregnant? she taught me to be a mom, to really love like a mama bear does, she makes me laugh all day. she is so generous and giving and compassionate. she's just so grown up and i am missing her so deeply.

anyone else understand or go through this? help me not to be ripped apart by it, please.

[Jezzy]

I understand what you are feeling. My dd and ds are 15 and almost 13. I really know how fast they grow up. I really miss them being babies too but I also enjoy the new stages that they go though. I love how independent that they are and am thankful for that. It gives me lots of time with Ashlee. I also love how they love her! And I was afraid that they wouldn't like her!

[Mommy2Austin]

I'm right there with you....I still don't know what to do with him. I feel like he has changed so much overnight that I can't keep up! Now with Steven in the picture I'm trying my darndest to pay as much attention to Austin as well and to let him join in with holding and helping with the baby so far I'm doing pretty good, but that means my house is a t-total disaster area. My house has never been soooo messy in my life (we're getting it all cleaned today Thank Goodness!) I just hope I can be a great mommy to both of them equally!

[sunkist33]

It is bittersweet I find that I love certain things about every age, but I'm especially fond of the first year
My dd #1 is five and a half and I still think of her as my "baby." She seems sooo big next to my Feb. babe! But I'm loving her age~ she is actually helpful with the new baby & I genuinely enjoy hanging out with her I love that she's old enough to go for long walks/ hikes, play board games, help Daddy cook, etc. Your little one is only 2...I think you'll find there are lots of fun aspects about 3, 4, 5 & so on I'm sure you have lots of fond memories of the first 27 months as well. There's nothing we can really do except try to savor each & every moment (and take lots of pictures!).


Stacy

[lovetobemama]

I was actually having the opposite problem till last night. I was so deep in my babymoon (and still am) and in love with my newborn, that I was crying for her that she has a brother and I can only give her part of the attention that I was able to give DS.
Then, last night, I put DS to bed (which I haven't done for months, he got too heavy when I was big and pregnant) and just held him in my arms as I sang him his lullaby, and half way through, I burst into tears, realizing how AMAZING he has been at sharing me, and realizing how much I miss loving on him!!!

[milky_mama]

Thank you for posting this ... I have been feeling the exact same way your are feeling since our sweet little one entered the world. It is such a mix of emotions and it is nice to hear that I'm not the only one having these feelings. Thank you for your strength in sharing mama.

[Gracecody]

i am feeling the same, tho its gotten a little better in time (dd is 5 wks). i felt that the transition was much easier this time EXCEPT for my feelings toward ds, who is 29 mos. he's always been mama's boy but we were totally inseperable during my pregnancy. he was my little buddy then and we had so many fun outings, etc. now of course he's still my little buddy but our bond is somehow a little looser. i remember the babymoon was so hard for him...one time he came into the room and said, 'mommy you are my friend' and i just started to cry. anyway, yes i am also acutely aware of how fast this precious time goes so i am savoring it as much as i can and it's helped me to be more positive and patient.

[CalebsMama05]

Originally Posted by lovetobemama

I was actually having the opposite problem till last night. I was so deep in my babymoon (and still am) and in love with my newborn, that I was crying for her that she has a brother and I can only give her part of the attention that I was able to give DS.
Then, last night, I put DS to bed (which I haven't done for months, he got too heavy when I was big and pregnant) and just held him in my arms as I sang him his lullaby, and half way through, I burst into tears, realizing how AMAZING he has been at sharing me, and realizing how much I miss loving on him!!!

this...exactly this.

I feel bad for Jacob and now Katie that they will never have the same time (even though it was only 16 months) that Caleb had with just mommy and daddy.

and with three...wow it's so amazing how much I feel for my boys...they are such amazing toddlers and they are growing so much and so fast!

[CalebsMama05]

Originally Posted by Gracecody

i am feeling the same, tho its gotten a little better in time (dd is 5 wks). i felt that the transition was much easier this time EXCEPT for my feelings toward ds, who is 29 mos. he's always been mama's boy but we were totally inseperable during my pregnancy. he was my little buddy then and we had so many fun outings, etc. now of course he's still my little buddy but our bond is somehow a little looser. i remember the babymoon was so hard for him...one time he came into the room and said, 'mommy you are my friend' and i just started to cry. anyway, yes i am also acutely aware of how fast this precious time goes so i am savoring it as much as i can and it's helped me to be more positive and patient.