Originally Posted by annakiss
I don't know. I just sorta talked about it and my feelings about circ around him and he wanted to see the info himself. I think when I read the 10 ways that circ hurts women site, I mentioned that and how I was feeling about it (it really got me upset). Then I thought that he had too tight a circ for restoration, which I'd told him as well. Then yesterday I said, "hey, I guess I was wrong - your circ isn't too tight." So he wanted to see the websites and I showed him. I didn't look at them with him. I just let him read them on his own. I didn't put any pressure on him at all.
What she said!
If it were me, this would work well I believe. Just discuss what YOU find and feel and wonder about. Let him take it at his pace.
As was said, this is a long process. I have been at it for 7 years, and have longer to go. so it takes some dedication and persistence.
The good thing is you will likely improve sex in the first month or so. At least that is how it worked for me and my doubting DW. After 3 or 4 weeks, one time in bed she just suddelny shared that intercourse was feeling a whole lot better, but could not put her finger on it. I too was realizing things were somehow feeling a lot better.
As time went on we both found that that early improvement was actually just a small improvement. And then, when I reached a threshold of skin length that allowed my skin to cover my glans without using a lot of tension, things really took off in the improved feelings department. At that point I was getting new and completely different feelings fo sexual pleasure, apparently from the movement of the skin, not any increase in sensitivity. And lubricant was no longer needed.
And it keeps getting better!
And one last point I will offer. Although it sounds extremely tedious and like it will be forever, it is not something you have to do without ever stopping. You can take a break whenever you wish. You can change methods whenever you want. You can fit it into your lifestyle however works best for you. And you are the one to decide how long you need to do this to achieve what you wish.
As an example, I only tape up on the weekdays. I take the weekends and any out of town trips that come up as rest periods form restoring. In addition, I take May and June, sometimes into August off. No problem.