I just read through the entire thread... and...
.... seriously, is that IT? They were sitting in a car TALKING?
Me doing this with a guy, and the rumors that came out of it, was what convinced my then-partner ( NOW EX ) that I was cheating ~ enough that HE went out and started an affair, including bringing the chica back and screwing her in our bed
. And the rumor mill most definitely got started ~~ one of my neighbors convinced another of my neighbors that my dd wasn't MINE at all, but this other girl's, and that my ex was making me raise the kid because they didn't want it...
Seriously, once people start talking smack you never know WHAT is going to come of it. (Eventually the other neighbor only finally believed my dd was mine
when I showed her the photos from our homebirth ~~ pre-placenta birth, umbilical cord still attaching me to my little one
I think choli. had a good point, also ~ I would seriously doubt the motives of the teller. Especially in this case, where it sounds like this guy is pretty well-off... I mean, if I were the tellee I'd be pretty suspicious of the teller's intentions.
I also stand by my previous statement ~ that it's nobody's business but theirs. And while I see Demeter's point ~~ I just can't get behind it. If they want to screw around, and if someone ends up getting hurt, even physically as a result... well, it's still not my problem. Adults make choices and sometimes their choices are bad ones. I also think that affairs do not immediately equal unsafe sex.