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The sex talk... gifted style... too easy?

post #1 of 11
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We wondered when it might come up. We'd planned to be open, honest and up front with DS. We were just waiting for when the information became well, relevant, as in when he asked. DS already understands the basics. He knows the woman has an egg and that the man has the sperm which fertilizes the egg. He knows the sperm is in the testicles. He just hasn't asked exactly how one gets to the other. He's seen nature programs and he's seen "mating" but to date, hasn't seen more than just two very cuddly dinosaurs, cheetahs, whatever. Ah, mating...

Well, I'm sitting in the den right now hanging out on Mothering. DH and DS are in the bathroom. DS is taking a bath and DH is playing with him, and getting a lesson on what else? Dinosaur life. In the midst of which, DS proceeds to tell DH that when it's time for the dinosaurs to mate, the male dinosaur climbs on the back of the female and fits his penis into her birth canal and ejects the sperm and that how the egg is fertilized. He stated this perfectly, with perfect understanding and terms. Thank you "Walking With Dinosaurs, The Making Of"

My DS just gave himself his own sex talk.

Now that's gifted.

The best,
Em
post #2 of 11
I literally laughed out loud.
post #3 of 11
Me too. That was my giggle for the day.
post #4 of 11
Well.....I guess having a "birds and bees" talk is out of the question, LOL!
I can't wait to share this with my DH.

xoe
post #5 of 11
Oh, this topic is so timely! Our dd, seven, has always been interested in baby animals and having her animals "mate" and have lots and lots of babies. She knew about the biology of it (like your son) sperm, eggs, all that. When she was four she asked again how it happens...and I again told her - and she, exasperated, from the back of the car said "yes, I KNOW that, but HOW." I somewhat successfully avoided the conversation until she started reading. She brought home a human physiology book multiple times. She was not surprisingly interested in the reproduction section, but seemed to be focused on fetal development. Finally, one day, I just sat down with her and we read the book as I asked her which section she wanted me to read with her and finally we came to the description of intercourse. (Of course she'd already read it). She giggled and said "Mama, you've 'made love'" followed by more giggles. Me: "Yes, dear." It was ideal. That being said, we've always been pretty open - just with media being what it is I wanted to give her smaller pieces of information at a time. Of course, now when she wants information, she goes to the library.
post #6 of 11
Thank you for a glimps into the future.
post #7 of 11
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Glad to give a giggle... DH and I are still laughing about it!

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She giggled and said "Mama, you've 'made love'" followed by more giggles. Me: "Yes, dear." It was ideal.
This is too dear.

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That being said, we've always been pretty open - just with media being what it is I wanted to give her smaller pieces of information at a time.
Yes, us as well. With the human body, we just try to answer his questions or give the specific information that he wants rather than feeling the need to elaborate. It's served us well... DH sometimes has a tendency to fall into a lecture but has realized that DS generally closes his ears once the information he's asked for has been received. What's been happily surprising is that DS seems to "get to things" before we feel the need to "address them." It's such a funny thing, the timing. Just about the time I wonder if he'll start asking, or perhaps would be able to use certain information, he happens to come to it on his own. I like that the questions come from the place of true curiosity and his 'need to know' rather than something like my DH's story about his mom sitting him down one day out of the blue for a very formal talk about "reproduction" all the while feeling uncomfortable and wishing he could go back to playing with his train set! And forget my family, we didn't talk of such things! At any rate, we're so open I can't imagine DS ever feeling shy about asking anything and when he does receive the information, he seems to regard it so matter of factly that it clearly hasn't occured to him to feel embarrassed. I can't wait until he finally asks about human reproduction [in particular] and I can simply refer to the fact that he already knows--citing his newly obtained information on the dinosaurs!

The best,
Em
post #8 of 11
My mother loves to tell the story of how she knew that I was availed of the truth...

I was young (probably about 6 or 7, like these guys) and we were watching TV and people were kissing, fade to black, then a baby... I told my mom "I know what sex is. Do YOU?"
post #9 of 11
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My mother loves to tell the story of how she knew that I was availed of the truth...

I was young (probably about 6 or 7, like these guys) and we were watching TV and people were kissing, fade to black, then a baby... I told my mom "I know what sex is. Do YOU?"
:

That is so funny... thanks for sharing it!

I was a seriously clueless kid.

The best,
Em
post #10 of 11
Isn't it so funny when they fit the pieces together! DD is a little more informed because she asked a LOT of questions when I was preg w/ DS2. We were talking about our neighbor's baby growing in her uterus the other day. She knows that the dad has a special sort of seed called a sperm that starts the baby. She gets this very intent look and asks " how does the dad put it there?"
She's four, there's NO keeping secrets from this kid. :LOL
post #11 of 11
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there's NO keeping secrets from this kid. :LOL
Ah yes, I know this one all too well...

Em
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