Queer TTC March 2008 - Page 2

[Coco99]

Originally Posted by smartycat

To answer Quasar's question of what part of the TWW is the worst? the 4-7 days before AF is due where anything might be a symptom and you cling to desperate hope with each temp.

Yes I AGREE !!!!!

I had a wierd temp this morning, we went to bed at 3AM yesturday due to going out on the town (winter all nighter museum and lights festival) and this morning I had a very low temp at my regular time... but when I temped again after falling back asleep it was back up high... FF told me to record the low temp with a note, but i dont like it, its ruining my perfect chart (and therefore is sapping up my hopes...) !!!

Originally Posted by smartycat

Coco, your chart is beautiful :

*sigh* I know it was….

Originally Posted by ktcl

Coco-- I am an optimist, but things look good for you!

Thanks ! I love optimists !

Originally Posted by quasar

I had some odd brownish spotting this evening that was more watery than my normal pre-AF spotting.

I say it has more chances of being implantation than anything else ! What day are you on ?
Best of luck !!!!!!!




PS: I found out how to multi post.... through copy pasting in word ! (if this works that is !!

Coco
xxx

[kjm]

can we be moved to waiting to know?

Thanks we did 2 cycles, Friday and Saturday. We might go for a third today? My OPK was positive Fri am and stayed positive through Sat am?? usually I only have 1 day of positives?? do y'all think I should go for another insem? This evening would still be within 36 hours of yesterdays positive OPK??


Friday's insem was a bit *light* as KD had to go get his swimmers counted earlier that day. He had a hard time producing at the clinic in a office full of BAD 70's straight porn!! He put a slip in the suggestion box demanding Gay male porn too!! Poor Guy!!

And then when he got to our house Friday night our internet was down, no porn again! EEeeekkk!! He said "You guys don't even have a picture of a penis do you?" I offered our Grays Anatomy book, but he wasn't impressed

I know it only takes one swimmer...that might be about all we got out of him that night

[quasar]

kjm- You're poor KD! As far as if to inseminate again or not... I don't really think that the fertile period depends too much on how long the positive OPK lasts. With that said, if you have access to your known donor, and he's willing to give agian, I would say go for it!

Coco, I was on day 11 past O when I had the spotting. AF came on day 15 the last cycle and I think 14 the time before. If this is AF stuff, then this would be the shortest cycle I've had since I was about 13 and that would make me really angry. : Not sure what to make of things.

[Coco99]

Originally Posted by quasar

Coco, I was on day 11 past O when I had the spotting. AF came on day 15 the last cycle and I think 14 the time before. If this is AF stuff, then this would be the shortest cycle I've had since I was about 13 and that would make me really angry. : Not sure what to make of things.

Well, since you really cant do much more... try to relax, will your little peanut (thats what we clal ours....) into holding on to you really hard and just hope for the best...

Its hard to have so little power over the process huh ?

Coco
xxx

[quasar]

Well, I couldn't just let my pee sit there in a cup without testing on it... Sigh, BFN for me at 12 DPO today. think my temps are truly going down, which was the trend last time before my period. But I still couldn't resist taking the test today. I was so hopeful for several hours last night after I had that spotting, but now I'm just feeling discouraged again and thinking about next cycle...

[want2bmoms]

Originally Posted by quasar

Well, I couldn't just let my pee sit there in a cup without testing on it... Sigh, BFN for me at 12 DPO today. think my temps are truly going down, which was the trend last time before my period. But I still couldn't resist taking the test today. I was so hopeful for several hours last night after I had that spotting, but now I'm just feeling discouraged again and thinking about next cycle...

it's not over til it's over. (And when its over, it's just a new beging and a fabulous glass of wine?)

[ktcl]

want2bemoms and quasar, I FEEL you today! I am HATING this part of the TWW right now... 11 DPO and feeling so cranky, irritable, and possibly nauseous, though I only feel nauseous when I think about whether or not I'm pregnant. Funny thing!

KJM I didn't realize you guys were back in the game. Yipee! I'll be keeping fingers crossed for your TWW!

[lemurmommies]

Originally Posted by ruvalokiteshvara

jen, not really being a nerdy language mind, the best i can describe is that it is all equally emphasized (basically i added my nickname "ru" as the first syllable of the (i think it might be sanskrit?) word "avalokiteshvara" (who was the boddhisattva of compassion) to make "ruvalokiteshvara." so, if you are familiar with sanskrit yoga terms, i guess you would pronounce it kind of like one of those! HTH!

That's my girl... so... wordy.

As to all of you nearing the end of your TWWs, good luck! I know those last days are the very hardest. I have : for you!!

[Coco99]

Originally Posted by quasar

Well, I couldn't just let my pee sit there in a cup without testing on it... Sigh, BFN for me at 12 DPO today.

The question remains... how did the pee GET in the cup...

Sorry for kidding around such a serious topic... I'm so sorry about the BFN... but you know if you implanted yesturday night, I doubt it would be positive today... give yourself a little bit more time...

But I know its hard.

Coco
xx

[Coco99]

Originally Posted by ktcl

though I only feel nauseous when I think about whether or not I'm pregnant.

LOL I'm the EXACT same way !!!!!!

Coco
xx

[astraphell]

Sucks....

I got an email today from a dear friend who lives out of town. We've been friends for years, even though sometimes we go a while without contact. You know, someone who you can always pick right up with no matter how long it's been since you've talked....

She knew we were TTC and she said a few months ago that she and her husband were about ready to start TTC for their second. Well, I emailed to let her know how things were going with us, and she wrote back and said that she's actually now 16 weeks along and hadn't told me yet.

I'm just not sure how to feel about this....I mean, I'm so happy for her, but that is definitely tinged with some jealousy. But mostly, I'm really hurt that she didn't tell me about it sooner. I was one of the first ones she called when she found out about being pregnant with her daughter, and I didn't get a call. She said she felt bad about not telling me, but she was worried how I would feel because it's so easy for them.

I'm sitting here trying to write back to her, but I just don't know what to say. I know she was trying to spare my feelings, but this hurts even worse. I don't want to make her feel bad, but I think I need to tell her how I feel....sigh... I'm at a loss....

[quasar]

Originally Posted by Coco99

The question remains... how did the pee GET in the cup...

Sorry for kidding around such a serious topic... I'm so sorry about the BFN... but you know if you implanted yesturday night, I doubt it would be positive today... give yourself a little bit more time...
xx

It's alright, Coco. Humor is always appreciated. Still hanging in there and trying not to give up hope.

astraphell- I'm sorry about your friend not telling you about her pregnancy. I can in some ways understand she didn't want to hurt you by saying things, but all it did is make things harder. Please take care.

[Coco99]

Good morning everyone !

I am procrastinating going to work... sometimes i really wish i had a day off ! When is Easter again ? lol.

Well, my temps jumped back up this morning, confirming that yesturday was either a fluke or an implantation dip... but at 6DPO it would have been a bit early for that I think. I feel hopeful again tho so thats a good thing !

Hope you all have a great day Any positives this morning ??

Coco

Originally Posted by quasar

It's alright, Coco. Humor is always appreciated. Still hanging in there and trying not to give up hope.

Thats the idea !

[JennM1021]

Astraphell...if you think this issue with your friend is just going to eat away at you...then yes, you should probably get your feelings out. I know if it were me...I'd be more easily able to move past it and be happy for her if that hurt feeling were dealt with first. You have to move past it one way or the other if you want to hold onto that friendship. Anyway...tough situation...good luck.

[simcon]

Wow, so many nearing the end of their tww's! I have fingers crossed for all of you...

Just a hopeful point of info about temping (for those whose emotions are hanging on their thermometers....), I don't think either implantation dips or triphasic patterns are "typical" for pregnancy, so if they don't show up, try not to worry too much.... with my daughter, my temp bounced around all over the place during the luteal phase, including 2-3 times below cover line, and not even around implantation time, and sure enough, I was pregnant (including following a drop at what would have been the very end of the luteal phase if I wasn't pg).

I'm here at 3 dpi (4 days post-trigger..). The crazy thing about the drugs is that they make me feel pregnant (for good reason--the same hormones!), so I try to ignore the symptoms. At the same time, I'm glad I'm feeling them--it makes me hopeful that the drugs will work!

[frog]

Astraphell, that's just hard all the way around. I suspect that her heart was in the right place--I've had a few friends get pregnant while we've been trying and they've reacted in various ways. Now that I've been at this for a while and different friends are gearing up to try, I've just told them outright that I'm not so fragile that I don't want to hear every freaking detail from them. And that's solved it, I think.

[frog]

Originally Posted by simcon

Just a hopeful point of info about temping (for those whose emotions are hanging on their thermometers....), I don't think either implantation dips or triphasic patterns are "typical" for pregnancy, so if they don't show up, try not to worry too much....

And a less hopeful point (some of us would call this "a realistic point" or "a gentle reminder")...I've had triphasic charts, temp drops around when implantation would happen and midcycle spotting, but still no solid BFP or baby.

So, there you go. :

[knit_grrly]

hi all -

Simplelah - hugs to you- and I hope everything is okay.

Quasar - I'm holding out hope for you two...

pranava- I hope you hear from your potential kd soon. I can imagine the waiting and suspence must be really difficult....

atrasphell - sorry to hear you are hurt by your friend's actions (well, more like inaction, I guess). I can understand both of your perspectives - and know that it is hard to have friends getting pg easily when it didn't come easily for me. But I would also be hurt if a close friend didn't tell me they were pg. Hugs to you - I hope you can clear the air with your friend...

ktcl - hang in there.... hoping the rest of the agonizing wait speed up for you.


I'm hanging in - waiting to O - and obsessing that I won't O.... should findout soon, either way.

tash

[lemurmommies]

Originally Posted by pranava

So, we sent a letter to a potential known donor a week and a half ago. No response. Rumor has it he's out of town until April. Arghhh!!!!! Too much waiting

I know how you feel! This should be the cycle that we're back to TTC, but something came up at work for our KD (involving a default on a $500 million dollar loan...) and now he's not coming. This is the morning I should have been asking quasar to move me to "waiting to O." Bah.

I'm right there with you thinking it's TOO MUCH WAITING! We might not get a chance to try until August. August!!

So hugs to you. I know how crappy all this waiting feels.

[JenInMpls]

astraphell, I've been thinking and thinking, because honestly, I've been in your friend's shoes. Friends of ours (a straight couple) tried for 5 years to get pregnant, and I got pregnant after 7 months of trying, and it just seemed so cruel to them to tell them that here I was, pregnant with no sperm-provider in our relationship, and they, the 'breeder' couple, couldn't seem to get pregnant despite years of trying and lots of drugs and interference. Turns out that the moment of bitterness (that the wife of the couple admitted to crossing her mind like a little black cloud) passed quickly and then their happiness for us outweighed the bitterness. We breathed a sigh of relief.

I think frog put it well. In addition to you pointing out to your friend that you're strong enough to hear all of their news, you can also tell her that you want every opportunity to be happy for them regardless of how your road to pregnancy is going, and that your happiness for them certainly outweighs any disappointment she might induce by talking about her pregnancy.

And reassure her that if it gets to be too much, you'll tell her, and in the meanwhile, she should blab away about every ache and pain and twinge and kick.

hth... jen