Update on me (Gingerbane)

[gingerbane]

Hey everyone - I just got back from the hospital and I had no internet while there. The connection here is lousy so I'm going to keep this short.

Baby (we haven't picked out a name yet)

Born on Monday Feb 25
86 hour labor followed by emergency un-anesthetized cesarean (luckily they gave me drugs afterward - Har)

8.5 lbs
20 inches long

Hopefully my connection will be up and running soon. Right now I am just working on healing up and establishing a BF relationship with the baby. I have super flat nipples and she refuses to suck on them but I'm doing everything possible (nipple shield, nipple shell, pumping to keep up supply, etc.) to get this to work. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Hope you are all doing well

Gingerbane

[flapjack]

Hey, I've been stalking you like a madwoman all week I'm so sorry it ended up like that, but so glad she's here safely. With the flat nipples, I'd try different positions to nurse in (particularly lying down...)- the rugby hold I see so many mums using after a c-section was always the one that I found hardest, and I have fairly flat nipples.

[Teenytoona]

Oh my gingerbane, I'm so happy to hear from you. Sorry you had such a rough go at it. We're sending healing thoughts your way, hope your little one is a sweet dear. :::

[steph117]

Congrats on your little one's arrival - and some serious : for your quick healing!

[sarahn4639]

Oh I've been wondering about you too! I hope you are able to heal physically and emotionally, what a trying experience for you all!!

About the breastfeeding, after you pump, do your nipples pull out some or do they stay flat? Is she nursing on the nipple shield okay? If your nipples come out with pumping I'd pump a little and then try to get her latched. I'd also stay with the nipple shield for a bit of that's working for you. For my first DD, we were able to wean off the nipple shield after about a week or two. It was enough time for her to kind of figure out nursing and for my nipples to come out some.

I would also have a talk with your DD about your shared birth experience. I'm sure it was pretty taumatic for both of you and it could be healing for you both to talk it out. I'd also consider getting her to a chiroprator, that can help nursing too. I'm pretty sure you're in Asia, if I'm remebering correctly so I don't know how available chiropractors are there.

[nolonger]

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My goodness--I don't know what to say except that you are an amazingly strong mama and please take good care of yourself. ITA with sarahn4639 as far as connecting with dd about your experience--comfort her but give her the power to comfort you as well.

One of my saddest childhood memories is sitting on the outside of a locked door listening to my mother cry and wondering why she turned to her pets instead of me during her divorce.

My children may not always understand why I'm upset, but I've made darned sure that they know they have the power to cheer me up, even the littlest bittiest newborns and older fetuses.

[SamuraiMom]

Oh mama, what a trial to go through!!! : Sending you healing vibes all the way around.

[Angierae]

Oh my! What a brave woman you are. Hoping you find peace and healing. And Congratulations on your sweet new miracle.

[lovetobemama]

First of all, congrats on your beautiful baby!

Then, keeping you in my thoughts from your labor and section! Be gentle with yourself, and give yourself TONS of time to come to peace with everything and heal!!

[lincap]

You are an amazing mother.

[LoveChild421]

Congrats on your baby girl. I can only imagine how hard that must have been physically and emotionally. You are so strong.

[Nan'sMom]

Wow, what a difficult way for you to give birth, I can't even imagine. I hope you are healing well.

Congratulations on your baby!