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post #41 of 54
1/18/04 at 7:16pm
How exciting!!!! Congratulations!!! Let us know more when you can!
post #42 of 54
1/19/04 at 12:10am
Can't wait to hear from you, L!
post #43 of 54
1/23/04 at 2:43am
Thread Starter 
Hey,

Thanks for all of your messages. We have had our daughter with us for a week as of today, and have been home since Sunday. We are really enjoying her, and are thankful that we have had such a positive experience with adoption thus far.

L.
post #44 of 54
1/23/04 at 10:06am
WOO HOO!!!!


Congratulations Leatherette. i can't wait to hear more of the details about your new arrival. !'m so very happy for you .
post #45 of 54
1/23/04 at 2:16pm
Congratulations, Leatherette! You have reminded me that I'm overdue to post an update. Our daughter was born 12/9 and we took her home (well, to a hotel) from the hospital the following day. We were out of town just over two weeks, returning a few days before xmas.

We were extremely blessed to be able to spend time with the birthmother, who was awesome -- beautiful, generous, courageous, and funny, though also stressed and emotional, but not surprisingly. Encountered a few minor glitches with logistics, but overall it has been an incredibly positive experience.

Baby and big brother are both healthy and well and everyone is adjusting (the sibling stuff has presented some challenges, but overall has been much easier than we expected). I have been trying to do adoptive breastfeeding, and that has had its ups and downs so far. We seem to be settling into a breast/bottle combined approach that is working okay for all concerned, although I know some purists would advise against this arrangement. After beating myself up over it for a time I just decided that I need to be open to the experience, take it a day at a time (actually, a feeding at a time) and just not stress.
post #46 of 54
1/23/04 at 3:22pm
Congratulations to all the new moms and babies! It brings back so many wonderful memories!

T. Elena, I think your adoptive bf'ing arrangment is just fine. I think some of these purists have NO concept of just how stressful adoptive nursing can be--in my case, I was dealing with problems that would have challenged any normal nursing mom to the n-th degree, then added all the stress of using a supplementer on top of it all. I found I had to define my own success. Adoptive nursing is not exactly the same as regular nursing and should not be expected to be the same. You are doing great!

I haven't posted an update in a very long time either. A few months ago I wrote here about ds's birthmom choosing to end contact. It appears that she is going to stick to that, though for awhile she wavered in her decision and actually wrote to us once. But, we are now having contact w/ both birthgrandmothers, which wasn't happening at all! We got a letter from his birthdad's mom out of the blue in November. We have never met or had any contact w/ this family, though we had written a letter over a year ago offering to exchange letters and pictures. We are now going to exchange occasional updates w/ her. A few weeks after that, we got a letter from his birthmom's mother asking if we could write to her since her daughter didn't want contact. We are going to do that pending approval by ds's birthmom. I am so excited that we can still have this contact, even if it's more indirect! I am feeling so much more comfortable about the future!
post #47 of 54
1/23/04 at 3:48pm
How wonderful for all three of you! I wish you both all the best. And T. Elena I agree with Laurel completely, ABF is not the same and I think that you are suceeding magnificiently!

I hope that I too will be able to post soon about a new arrival...we are still patiently waiting.
post #48 of 54
1/28/04 at 2:18pm

It's a girl....

I would like to announce the newest addition to our family...

Miranda Ruth
Born: September 4, 2003
4 lb 1oz, 17” long
Placed in our arms: January 27, 2004
10 lb 3 oz, 20” long

She is so beautiful and so tiny! And her sister, Isabella, can not get enough of her!


We feel forever blessed by God!!

Love,
Sophia, Laura and Isabella
post #49 of 54
1/28/04 at 3:08pm
Woohoo! Congratulations and enjoy your babymoon...that's like a honeymoon, but with the new baby.

Welcome Miranda!
post #50 of 54
1/28/04 at 3:20pm
Congratulations Sophia, Laura, Isabella, and Miranda! From now on I will think of you as the 'house of beautiful names.'

Please share more details about this happy family-making experience when you are able. I'm so thrilled for you all!
post #51 of 54
2/4/04 at 8:06pm

Sad New...

I wanted to let you know that today we had to give up our baby girl. They have given her back to her old foster family. They have told us that there is a chance that we may get her back, but I am leery to hold on to that hope.
post #52 of 54
2/4/04 at 8:10pm
I'm so sorry to hear of this disruption. Know that lots of people are thinking of you.
post #53 of 54
2/4/04 at 9:05pm
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Originally posted by Laurel
Well, I guess my update is that I'm in the process of trying to write my last letter to ds's birthmother. A few months ago, she requested that we end contact as she felt she needed to "move on" (her words, not mine). She got married in April and feels like that continuing to get letters and pics is making it harder to get through the grief, rather than easier. I can understand where she is coming from, and we have chosen to respect her desires of course, but it has still been a sad thing for me. We have discussed this quite a bit with her through our letters, and she is firm that this is what she wants. I have been putting off having to write this letter, because I know it is the last one. We have always had a really good relationship with her. She wrote us a beautiful letter for ds's first birthday telling us that we had helped to make her experience so positive and that she didn't have any regrets--she knows ds is loved and well cared for. That letter eased my feelings about ending contact, but it is still bittersweet. I hope that perhaps in a few years she will change her mind, and hopefully the pain won't be so fresh, but who knows?
{{{LaurelLLL

This has happened with our sons birthmother as well. In fact more than once in the last 3.5 years. She yoyos back and forth. It is very hard. Unfortunately this last time is it for us. She admitted before cutting out contact that she lied during the adoption process about some very key issues. And refuses to resolve one of them. I am sending positive vibes your way!

Kim
post #54 of 54
2/4/04 at 9:26pm
Amazlilith, I'm so sorry for you and your family. This must be a difficult time. I hope the little one finds some permanent situation soon.
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