March dating thread!!! - Page 2

[cycle]

Originally Posted by BelovedK

I am about to burst I want to tell you guys SO BAD!!! I will spill it after friday

Have you seem "Over the Hedge"? You know the squirrel, Hammy I think his name is? When they come out of hibernation and Hammy discovers the Hedge he is about to burst because he wants to tell everyone but Vern keeps making him wait to tell....I picture BelovedK jumping around like Hammy.

Please tell us!!!

[Avani]

How cute! I assume it is all about a date on Friday?

So i am kind of venturing in here to get a little advice. I haven't dated anyone yet but i am a year out of my marriage now and i feel ready for something. Not attached to anything in particular though. So i have 5 little kids. I am not sure how that happened but i do. the youngest is 1. There is a man that i mentioned before that i really like. We have a great connection of some sort and we always make eye contact and smile and others time we chit chat. He asked me on a playdate(he has a 2 year old) a few months back but we didn't coordinate it. Then he went out of town for a month and for the last month we have been doing small time flirting. I see him daily cuz he works at my kids school. So a few weeks ago i brought up the play date again and he said he defintely wanted to do it but he needed to wait until march because he coaches basketball and it would be over then. So, this is March. My close friend came to town over the weekend and she knows him really well. She talked with him yesterday and asked him what he thought about me(not my doing!). He told her he was very attracted to me and we had an instant connection. But he was intimidated by the amount of kids i had. My friend told him he should hang out with me and just get to me know me and he said he agreed. So my friend left town this morning and i ran into him today. It was small chit chat and then he had to run for basketball practice( he has another week left). He touched my arm and squeezed it on the way out.

So what do you think? Should i get to know him or not deal with a man who is intimidated by the number of children i have? He is a good quality, amazing man. I'm intimidated by the number of children i have. I guess i am unsure if i should wait for a guy who doesn't care about my kids or if i should pursue things with someone i really like and give him a chance to get to know my kids and see where things go.

[BelovedK]

Originally Posted by cycle

Have you seem "Over the Hedge"? You know the squirrel, Hammy I think his name is? When they come out of hibernation and Hammy discovers the Hedge he is about to burst because he wants to tell everyone but Vern keeps making him wait to tell....I picture BelovedK jumping around like Hammy.

Please tell us!!!

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[cycle]

Originally Posted by BelovedK

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But seriously, spill it.

[cycle]

Avani - yes, give it a chance if you really like him! Worse case you just remain friends. He sounds totally interested in you and if he gets to spend time with you and your kids he will see how wonderful you all are!

Originally Posted by Avani

How cute! I assume it is all about a date on Friday?

So i am kind of venturing in here to get a little advice. I haven't dated anyone yet but i am a year out of my marriage now and i feel ready for something. Not attached to anything in particular though. So i have 5 little kids. I am not sure how that happened but i do. the youngest is 1. There is a man that i mentioned before that i really like. We have a great connection of some sort and we always make eye contact and smile and others time we chit chat. He asked me on a playdate(he has a 2 year old) a few months back but we didn't coordinate it. Then he went out of town for a month and for the last month we have been doing small time flirting. I see him daily cuz he works at my kids school. So a few weeks ago i brought up the play date again and he said he defintely wanted to do it but he needed to wait until march because he coaches basketball and it would be over then. So, this is March. My close friend came to town over the weekend and she knows him really well. She talked with him yesterday and asked him what he thought about me(not my doing!). He told her he was very attracted to me and we had an instant connection. But he was intimidated by the amount of kids i had. My friend told him he should hang out with me and just get to me know me and he said he agreed. So my friend left town this morning and i ran into him today. It was small chit chat and then he had to run for basketball practice( he has another week left). He touched my arm and squeezed it on the way out.

So what do you think? Should i get to know him or not deal with a man who is intimidated by the number of children i have? He is a good quality, amazing man. I'm intimidated by the number of children i have. I guess i am unsure if i should wait for a guy who doesn't care about my kids or if i should pursue things with someone i really like and give him a chance to get to know my kids and see where things go.

[Jyotsna]

I agree Avani,

Check it out. If you have chemistry, then the rest may fall into place. i'm in the same situation, but with half the kids. The man that i am interested in (and interested in me) has children, and between the two of us, we would have alot of mouths to feed. it is a big issue, but wow, our chemistry is there, and we agree on the big and small things. he is right up my alley as far as parenting, and he would make a great partner for the rest of my life.
i'm hoping we get it all worked out, cuz my heart is starting to get all funny feeling about him.

[BelovedK]

Originally Posted by cycle

But seriously, spill it.

well, let's say that when you have chemistry with someone, you can look back and realize that you haven't had it in a long time, even though there have been other men. With the last two guys I saw, I was just going through the motions (not dtd, but just dating~there was no excitement or anticipation) With this NEW guy I have met, there is a different feeling. I am actually excited and looking forward to meeting him.

The reason I was waiting to talk (but I have too big a mouth) was that I met him online and we have yet to meet face to face, that is the final determinant.

When we talked, we discvered that there were alot of coincindental (sp?) similaritis and parallels. For instance, I am looking into High schools for DS (we live in a rough area for public schools) I have been seriously considering this school that is out of our district (we can apply, and pay) it is a really good school...anyway B is a teacher there. He teaches gifted as well as special needs children. He loves kids (has two of his own) and knows teenagers (i have one) He also works with my cousin and he gave me a good reference (my cousin)

We talked more and it turns out that he played soccer with my brother and they both had soccer scholarships to college , so he knows my brother He also has the same social background as I do!!!!

he is also very physically active which is important to me.

I am really looking forward to Friday and will update as soon as I am home (I am trying to figure out what to wear)

so, I should go casual, right? I am both nervous and NOT nervous because I feel like we already know each other.

I just have a good feeling about this.

[Avani]

Wow, i hope it is everything you are hoping it is! Sounds like a great connection.

Thanks for the advice. I always get put off by the men who are intimidated by the amount of children i have. I know i should expect it because i get that reaction from everybody. I am young looking ( i am 32 but look 20) and it is a whole lotta kids. I really like him, the connection/attraction is undeniable. Everytime we lock eyes i feel so much energy. And according to my friend he feels the same. The next time i get a chance i will pursue a playdate or something. The one not so great thing is that this man is quite the catch and many single ladies at the school want him too. I have no clue if anyone else is putting the moves on him but i know through the school grapevine that there is lots of interest!

[cycle]

Yay!!! Beloved - I'm really happy for you!!! Do you have to wait until Friday to meet him?? I'm impatient. (this is no longer about you its about us basking in your happiness!)

I could have written your post - I met someone!!! More later.

[BelovedK]

Originally Posted by cycle

Yay!!! Beloved - I'm really happy for you!!! Do you have to wait until Friday to meet him?? I'm impatient. (this is no longer about you its about us basking in your happiness!)

I could have written your post - I met someone!!! More later.

HEY!!! I spilled it, now you need to dish!!!!

[cycle]

Originally Posted by BelovedK

HEY!!! I spilled it, now you need to dish!!!!

OK, I have to tell too. I had been communicating with this guy who I met online for several weeks. The more I talked/communicated the more I was drawn to him. Turns out (much like your situation) we know some of the same people and its all good feedback. I met him on Thursday night for a drink as we had plans on Friday - I wanted to make sure that we clicked before getting together for a longer amount of time. KWIM? Well, yeah, we clicked. I am not a romantic or gushy kind of girl but WOW. I have connected with two other people in my life, this connection is so much more, its bizarre. I feel connected but so peaceful with him (does that make sense?). So, I saw him for the next 5 days...yes you heard me. I am very comfortable with him and know that given our friend connections that even if a relationship doesn't come of this we will stay friends, so he met ds and they hit it off. He is wonderful and calm and at ease and totally comfortable interacting with ds.

He knows and respects my boundaries about my time with ds so most of the time it has been the three of us and will continue to be. Luckily this weekend is "date night" at ds's school so we will go out. He also totally respects my physical boundaries (not getting busy any time soon).

I know it seems quick but I just feel so much like this is a good thing for me and for ds, even if we just end up friends. So I am shocked and surprised and thrilled - I didn't really realize how much I wanted to have a relationship until I met him.

[Still_Snarky]

Originally Posted by BelovedK

I am really looking forward to Friday and will update as soon as I am home (I am trying to figure out what to wear) so, I should go casual, right? I am both nervous and NOT nervous because I feel like we already know each other.

it appears that standard date clothes nowadays are: a cute pair of dressy-ish jeans, flattering top (varies depending on weather, we can already get away with short-sleeves here in california and either heels or boots. maybe an interesting piece of jewelry that can serve as a conversation piece too?

[cycle]

Originally Posted by Still_Snarky

it appears that standard date clothes nowadays are: a cute pair of dressy-ish jeans, flattering top (varies depending on weather, we can already get away with short-sleeves here in california and either heels or boots. maybe an interesting piece of jewelry that can serve as a conversation piece too?

I agree, nice darker jeans with a cute top and kinda sexy shoes.

Where I am we cannot get away with short sleeves yet. Celeste...

[BelovedK]

Originally Posted by cycle

OK, I have to tell too. I had been communicating with this guy who I met online for several weeks. The more I talked/communicated the more I was drawn to him. Turns out (much like your situation) we know some of the same people and its all good feedback. I met him on Thursday night for a drink as we had plans on Friday - I wanted to make sure that we clicked before getting together for a longer amount of time. KWIM? Well, yeah, we clicked. I am not a romantic or gushy kind of girl but WOW. I have connected with two other people in my life, this connection is so much more, its bizarre. I feel connected but so peaceful with him (does that make sense?). So, I saw him for the next 5 days...yes you heard me. I am very comfortable with him and know that given our friend connections that even if a relationship doesn't come of this we will stay friends, so he met ds and they hit it off. He is wonderful and calm and at ease and totally comfortable interacting with ds.

He knows and respects my boundaries about my time with ds so most of the time it has been the three of us and will continue to be. Luckily this weekend is "date night" at ds's school so we will go out. He also totally respects my physical boundaries (not getting busy any time soon).

I know it seems quick but I just feel so much like this is a good thing for me and for ds, even if we just end up friends. So I am shocked and surprised and thrilled - I didn't really realize how much I wanted to have a relationship until I met him.

That sounds really promising I love it when they come with references

I am not wanting to get my hopes too high, I just have a good feeling, that's all Even if no love connection, definitely a friendship. I do feel chemistry though.

[Holland73]

Kelly: That is awesome...chemisty is a great thing! Looking forward to hearing about this new journey.

Still Snarky: I am also in California...Oakland, to be exact. Totally short-sleevin' nowadays! It is absolutely wonderful for this Oregon transplant.

Cycle: Good luck. I am also not a gushy, romantic type...but the click and numerous connections I have felt with S are really strong and pretty darn amazing.

So, it will be exactly 4 weeks since my first date with S. We see each other probably 5-6 times a week and he calls every night.

He has met ds. The three of us went to the beach, hung out in San Francisco, ate pizza and watched movies on Saturday. It felt so easy and 'natural.' He just fits in with ds and I so easily.

We talked tonight and he told me that he considered us a "couple." It is funny how one silly word can just make your heart skip a few beats and your smile seem just a bit brighter and bigger.

This is good stuff!

[BelovedK]

Originally Posted by Holland73

So, it will be exactly 4 weeks since my first date with S. We see each other probably 5-6 times a week and he calls every night.

He has met ds. The three of us went to the beach, hung out in San Francisco, ate pizza and watched movies on Saturday. It felt so easy and 'natural.' He just fits in with ds and I so easily.

We talked tonight and he told me that he considered us a "couple." It is funny how one silly word can just make your heart skip a few beats and your smile seem just a bit brighter and bigger.

This is good stuff!

That is awesome You are now part of a couple I love that he addressed it so openly, sounds good

[cycle]

BelovedK - Its Friday.:

[BelovedK]

I know, I am SO waiting to go, it's another hour before the time



I am wearing the kind of clothing I usually wear, a short black fitted dress (not tight or slutty) and black patent leather knee high boots, I am understated in my makeup and My hair is, well, uh...it's raining really hard

I don't like my jeans They are too low cut and I feel like my crack shows so I decided to go with the dress.

I have been practicing my dance for the last hour waiting to go, I'd better not get too sweaty, well, pheremones (sp?) may be a good thing

[Avani]

Have an amazing time Beloved! You sound like you look like one hot mama!

So, the guy i am liking has been out sick for the last few days so i haven't seen him. I really wanted to instigate a conversation to see if we could maybe take things further but i couldn't. So do you think it would be cool to call him? Or is that creepy? I feel like i am in high school.My friend gave me his number and said i should call him and see how he was. I don't want to come across as weird. But maybe it would be flattering. What is protocol for adults? Is that cool to get someone's number from someone else and then call? I have been out of this game for too long!

And on another note, i was talking to my neighbor this morning and he is so insightful. He is in his 50's and he was asking me if i ever get to go out and have fun. He knows i am home alot with my 5 kids. I am only 32 so i'm still young. So i told him no and that i feel frustrated in meeting guys because they all seem intimidated by the amount of kids i have. He said that would be expected by the guys my age and that i would have to engage them in friendship first to see if things could progress. He told me i was very attractive and so friendly and a good mama and that any guy would be attracted to that. He is very nice and very unthreatening so it was nice to hear. I realize though that i have alot of rejection issues and this is holding me back from calling the above guy that i dig. This is so hard!

[BelovedK]

Originally Posted by Avani

Have an amazing time Beloved! You sound like you look like one hot mama!

So, the guy i am liking has been out sick for the last few days so i haven't seen him. I really wanted to instigate a conversation to see if we could maybe take things further but i couldn't. So do you think it would be cool to call him? Or is that creepy? I feel like i am in high school.My friend gave me his number and said i should call him and see how he was. I don't want to come across as weird. But maybe it would be flattering. What is protocol for adults? Is that cool to get someone's number from someone else and then call? I have been out of this game for too long!

And on another note, i was talking to my neighbor this morning and he is so insightful. He is in his 50's and he was asking me if i ever get to go out and have fun. He knows i am home alot with my 5 kids. I am only 32 so i'm still young. So i told him no and that i feel frustrated in meeting guys because they all seem intimidated by the amount of kids i have. He said that would be expected by the guys my age and that i would have to engage them in friendship first to see if things could progress. He told me i was very attractive and so friendly and a good mama and that any guy would be attracted to that. He is very nice and very unthreatening so it was nice to hear. I realize though that i have alot of rejection issues and this is holding me back from calling the above guy that i dig. This is so hard!

How well do you know this guy? If you have friends in common and know each other well, then I would feel comfortable calling to see if there was anything I could do (if he is sick) well, I would be specific as in "I just made lasagne and I heard you were under the weather. I made extra and wondered if you would like for me to bring you some " That is just a silly example.

I just reread your post and everything in me wants to tell you to wait. Sometimes it is better to allow them to come to you, or like you said, initiate a conversation in person. I think if you called at this point, it may be offputting (it could be flattering, but if in the long term you want to possibly date this guy, I wouldn't take the chance) If he is out sick, he will be back, and he is not going anywhere (we hope) I would let him come to you somehow. Sure, be friendly and initiate a conversation, just don't call.....not yet. Remember that all I knw is what you've written.

hth