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post #81 of 402
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good morning mamas!

not feeling very well. i think its poverty, the weather, the shoulder.....its all just getting me way down.

how do we do it? how do I do it? jeez, i am totally out of ideas

the subtle ways i am discriminated against grate on my nerves. over and over its still charity. plastering bandaids. and then i get down on myself because i'm dragging edie down with me.

naeva is growing up. i watched her yesterday and she's 'talking'....and not crying as much...and staying awake. she's a lo who loves to be cuddled. and shelby is such a good mommy. its nice to see the kind of woman she is.

i think i just hurt. i'm tempted to leave school and just work. i'll never get anywhere, but this is too tough. (hopefully the feeling will pass)

i've got pt again this morning. i may have to go back on a higher dose of pain pills. it hurts so bad. i can't concentrate on schoolwork or sleep. i had such high hopes for the surgery. and six weeks later i'm still in pain

i've whined enough for this morning........
post #82 of 402
Well I somehow managed to mess up the quote thing! but mama. I'm sorry it's so tough right now.

Have you tried homeopathy? Arnica for sure but there is another one for deep tissue injury - the name escapes me right now but I'll come back with it.

I don't know how you do it, but you DO do it, and Shelby is the living proof. Naeva is a lucky little one to have such a wonderful family around her.

I know it sucks mama, I know it's harder some days than others but we can not only survive but move onward and upward.

Gotta go be a mommy. Back later. Hang in there!
post #83 of 402
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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
good morning mamas!

not feeling very well. i think its poverty, the weather, the shoulder.....its all just getting me way down.

how do we do it? how do I do it? jeez, i am totally out of ideas

the subtle ways i am discriminated against grate on my nerves. over and over its still charity. plastering bandaids. and then i get down on myself because i'm dragging edie down with me.

naeva is growing up. i watched her yesterday and she's 'talking'....and not crying as much...and staying awake. she's a lo who loves to be cuddled. and shelby is such a good mommy. its nice to see the kind of woman she is.

i think i just hurt. i'm tempted to leave school and just work. i'll never get anywhere, but this is too tough. (hopefully the feeling will pass)

i've got pt again this morning. i may have to go back on a higher dose of pain pills. it hurts so bad. i can't concentrate on schoolwork or sleep. i had such high hopes for the surgery. and six weeks later i'm still in pain

i've whined enough for this morning........
Not sure what to say, but I hope the feeling passes soon. I'm sure that Edie would rather be low income with a good mama than rich and surrounded with "things" with a mama who ignores her emotional needs. After high school I got a scholarship to a college where the kids were mostly from very rich families and even though they had pretty much any "thing" they wanted they hated their parents because they were so wrapped up in their own worlds that they ignored their kids.
How much longer do you have left for school? What are you studying?
post #84 of 402
earthymama, I"m sorry abotu Connor's reflux. At least his problem was figured out so you can deal with it and move on. Poor guy!

ediesmom, I"m sorry poverty is getting you down. I know the feeling. I can't seem to shake it. All we can do is stick together and keep trudging through. Easier to walk in mud when someone holds your hand right? I will call you today and we can talk babies while Sara screams at me for a snack.
post #85 of 402
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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
good morning mamas!

not feeling very well. i think its poverty, the weather, the shoulder.....its all just getting me way down.

how do we do it? how do I do it? jeez, i am totally out of ideas

the subtle ways i am discriminated against grate on my nerves. over and over its still charity. plastering bandaids. and then i get down on myself because i'm dragging edie down with me.

naeva is growing up. i watched her yesterday and she's 'talking'....and not crying as much...and staying awake. she's a lo who loves to be cuddled. and shelby is such a good mommy. its nice to see the kind of woman she is.

i think i just hurt. i'm tempted to leave school and just work. i'll never get anywhere, but this is too tough. (hopefully the feeling will pass)

i've got pt again this morning. i may have to go back on a higher dose of pain pills. it hurts so bad. i can't concentrate on schoolwork or sleep. i had such high hopes for the surgery. and six weeks later i'm still in pain

i've whined enough for this morning........
Hang in there. The sub is shining today, try to revel in the sunshine. Everyone has bad days, so try not to let it get you down.

I'm ok, just minor issues, my lovely percolator died on me and I am a huge coffee person, so i had to dig up the old drip make :. Biggest annoyance of the morning is that my wireless connection on my laptop is gone, both dh & I have looked up at it but cannot figure out what the hell is going on. Due to the fact that dh works from home, we have a spare desktop but it sucks and more impoartantly all my stuff is on my relatively new laptop. :: Some days technology sucks.

Hope today is a good day for all, I suspect I will be online a lot less until I fix the issue with my laptop.

Shay
post #86 of 402
Hi mamas!

I never feel like I have anything to post lately, so I just come and lurk. I've been living off financial aid disbursement checks (I got two). I am taking online classes so that I don't have to pay for child care, but finally couldn't take never having a break and enrolled dd in a two morning a week preschool program. Also, she needs to interact with other kids.

Constant papers to write, a cold that dd and I keep trading back and forth, and trying to have a relationship with someone is keeping me busy. Really busy. Never mind trying to coerce her father into actually co-parenting with me. Oh boy.

I'm sorry so many of you are having more serious things to deal with and I just don't even have advice. I offer hugs to all and will think happy thoughts for all of you.
post #87 of 402
ediesmom I'm at that point myself ~ thinking "should I just drop out and work?" But.... that's not the road to success and we know that. I feel you. And I am so, so behind on my coursework rightnow.

Everyone else ~~ did I mention I built the bunk beds?? They are all assembled and my kids are thrilled but my dd still won't sleep in her own bed. d'oh!


I'm feeling pretty down... my apartment manager was at the store selling girl scout cookies and when I walked by her she grabbed me and let me know I was $20 short on my rent, because SHE had quoted me the wrong figure but of course she didn't admit that. So everyone around heard that I had to make up rent and also that my rent is so low. Grr. You know little things like that remind me that there is very little dignity afforded you if you're poor.

Also I am very tired. My dd had the Cystic Fibrosis test yesterday, I won't know how it came out for awhile. (How much of this have I already posted?? : )

And I've been trying to eat right and I don't think I can do it.


Where is the Laying Around Feeling Fat and Miserable emoticon?
post #88 of 402
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Originally Posted by asianyoushi View Post
my greatfuls--
i found a doctor! wohoo!!!!!!! i have my first appointment on the 25th. and they are gonna give me an u/s there before the "actual" appointment. so thats a relief. the best part is she delivers at a hopsital close to me!!!!!

dh's second job mailed out checkes early- so hopefully its in our mail box today!-it came and he got an extra 5.5 hours. woohoo he doesnt understand y but he aint questioning it.

i made chicken salad last night that totally hit the spot.:
Yay!

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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
good morning mamas!

not feeling very well. i think its poverty, the weather, the shoulder.....its all just getting me way down.

how do we do it? how do I do it? jeez, i am totally out of ideas

the subtle ways i am discriminated against grate on my nerves. over and over its still charity. plastering bandaids. and then i get down on myself because i'm dragging edie down with me.

naeva is growing up. i watched her yesterday and she's 'talking'....and not crying as much...and staying awake. she's a lo who loves to be cuddled. and shelby is such a good mommy. its nice to see the kind of woman she is.

i think i just hurt. i'm tempted to leave school and just work. i'll never get anywhere, but this is too tough. (hopefully the feeling will pass)

i've got pt again this morning. i may have to go back on a higher dose of pain pills. it hurts so bad. i can't concentrate on schoolwork or sleep. i had such high hopes for the surgery. and six weeks later i'm still in pain

i've whined enough for this morning........
I am so sorry. Hang in there.
post #89 of 402
Thread Starter 
blah, still

the pain at pt made me faint...literally. maybe i'm a bit too eager to move? a signifier that i may be a bit freakin hard on myself?

i'm going to go 'sneak peek' at the flower show before a 'save our building' meeting tonight. neither of which i want to go to, but both will be good for me.

thanks for the support, mamas. i'm gonna start charting my crashes cuz they seem often and cyclical...although it would be midcycle?
post #90 of 402
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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
blah, still

the pain at pt made me faint...literally. maybe i'm a bit too eager to move? a signifier that i may be a bit freakin hard on myself?

i'm going to go 'sneak peek' at the flower show before a 'save our building' meeting tonight. neither of which i want to go to, but both will be good for me.

thanks for the support, mamas. i'm gonna start charting my crashes cuz they seem often and cyclical...although it would be midcycle?
Try and enjoy the flower show, I want to go but really its not child friendly so I will probably have to pass.

Sorry you are still feeling blah.

Shay
post #91 of 402
Thread Starter 
good morning mams!

a very small smell of spring at the garden show and things feel a whole lot better. i love that smell. i always call it dirt...a good thing.

and the meeting was invigorating

i have overbooked my day, and i just feel like burying my head in the sand and ignoring it all. maybe i will.

i'll check in later.
post #92 of 402
I always wanted to go to the flower show. I just can't swing the admission price though.

This month isn't looking too great. My electricity is still on, but I'm not sure for how much longer. My SSDI/SSI still hasn't come. A week into the month and still no money. I'm very glad that I bought extra diapers last month. I still haven't called the landlord to tell them why they haven't gotten the rent. I'm too afraid

The girls have a dentist appointment today in a few hours. I'm not looking forward to that.
post #93 of 402
everybody is having a rough week. to all my low income ladies

As for us I'll be getting out of the house for the first time in days. It isn't much as I just have to stop by the post office and savers(to drop stuff off) but it's something. I'm just getting a little stir crazy, as is Sara. Last time we were out was this weekend to grocery shop.
post #94 of 402
Hey ladies. Quick intro since I've been slacking on those the past couple months. I'm Kristina part time wahm to Annette age 6 in kindergarten, Joseph age 2 at home with me and little boy edd tax day if he stays put that long. My wahm stuff is sewing, but my sewing machine is dying and I haven't heard back from a lady on freecycle who said she had a machine I could have. My dh works in construction which is rough here in FL. He managed to fall off a ladder and mess himself up pretty bad earlier this week. He has a cut low on his back that probably could have used stitches and a messed up knee. He was supposed to be mostly working outside this week and we have had a ton of rain so we are short this week. Not fun with bills needing to be paid and things needing bought like a car seat so the boys aren't sharing one when the little one gets here.

For some good news I have an update on what happened with our pc issues. Our pc is being bought through Aaron's and is almost paid off. Last weekend I turned the computer off in the evening and when dh turned it on in the morning the monitor was badly messed up. Just a huge chunk of electrical interference with tiny bits of screen on the edges that actually showed what should be there. We called our local store and things went downhill from there. The manager of the store accused me of lying about the monitor to dh, so not a good idea The manager was trying to claim the screen had been hit by a baseball, we have none in this house, and it had fallen. He then decided that we could keep paying for the broken monitor with the pc payments and pay $50 for a used smaller monitor. At that point we contacted the national customer service. They put us in touch with the regional manager who was so helpful. He told us the local manager should have just given us a phone number to call the company that made the pc and that was it. In the end we were given a new monitor from a different brand as they didn't have any of the same brand for us. The local manager also had a very different attitude with dh when he went in to pick up the new monitor. This isn't the first time we have purchased something through Aaron's and we have always had great customer service in the past so I'm very glad that the regional manager was able to fix things so well. I would have hated to have to tell how bad the local manager screwed up and not have things fixed in the end.
post #95 of 402
Hi mamas! I wanted to stop in since I've been kind of MIA for awhile now.

We're getting settled in the new place. It still isn't all out together. We need 2 more dressers and a computer desk. I'm sitting here on the end of the bed with my keyboard on my lap, the mouse is on an overturned laundry basket and the monitor is precariously balanced on top of a box (that should be unpacked!) LOL

The landlord did prorate this month for me since the girl stayed almost 2 weeks when I had already paid for the month so that helped out. I'm so scared to go through that little bit of money I have and not have that security to keep the bills paid.

The gas bill is horrible! I got it put in my name on the 11th of Feb. I didn't even start staying here until the 20th and they ended the billing cycle on the 24th. Guess how much the bill was? $90!!! I keep the heat around 65 but sometimes a little higher when it gets really cold. I am scanning craigslist for some electric space heaters. I haven't gotten the electric bill yet....I applied for LIHEAP so hopefully I'll hear from them soon and that will help a lot.

We've all been sick for the last week. I'm feeling a bit better but still not 100%

I got a job though. I'm not proud....it's McDonald's BUT I get to work 8pm to 2am so I don't have to worry about childcare. My oldest is more than capable of holding down the fort. The payment she requested was having the cable box in her room (for the on demand) Tv means way more to her than me. We got the package deal with Comcast for $99/mo. I could have lived without cable but my uncle offered to take care of it for a few months until we're on our feet. I have my orientation today at 4pm. It's only minimum wage and 30 hours a week but for not working for 4 years it's as goos a place as any to start.

I went Wednesday and registered for 2 classes over the summer. Just an English and Math but it will get me started. I begin the paralegal fast track program in the Fall.

I'm sure if I'm frugal and careful about my spending I should be able to just work this job until after ds turns 2. I'll feel a little better about him going to childcare then. He's just still so much more immature than the girls were at his age and I don't want to push him before he is ready.

So keep your fingers crossed for me that I can make this work. I have a plan and I want to make it work so we can have a better life here pretty quick.

Hope everyone has had a good week!
post #96 of 402
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Originally Posted by Oceanjones View Post

I got a job though. I'm not proud....it's McDonald's BUT I get to work 8pm to 2am so I don't have to worry about childcare.
I'm sure if I'm frugal and careful about my spending I should be able to just work this job until after ds turns 2. I'll feel a little better about him going to childcare then. He's just still so much more immature than the girls were at his age and I don't want to push him before he is ready.
Just wanted to say please don't feel any shame in your job, hell a job is a job and you have to do what you need to do to survive. The fact that you are able to work hours that don't involve paying for childacare is a good thing.

Shay
post #97 of 402
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post #98 of 402
hugs all
no news is good news right? nothing to update here. 18 days til my first appointment its not coming soon enough. i have to get off the computer and call dentists and see if they will see ds and dd for the first dentist appointments also need to get my teeth worked on...
post #99 of 402
hope everyone's doing okay? sounds like March has come in like a lion for a lot of us.(does anyone else know that saying? in like a lion, out like a lamb?)
we can only hope, right?
post #100 of 402
Hi everyone, I'm going to join in b/c I feel like I definitely need some support this month.

I'm Maya, 23 wk p/g with #1, stepmom to a lovely 10 yr old DSS that we have full-time. I work full-time and DH is at home right now, unable to find work here b/c he doesn't speak French. We've officially applied for welfare this week since there doesn't seem to be any other option for us. DH is enrolled in government-sponsored French classes for the next two months. Hopefully, he can learn enough to land a job where he can b.s. his way out of any complex French inquiries. I sincerely hope he does, b/c I'm working a mat leave replacement, and once the girl who I'm replacing decides to come back, I'm sort of screwed. I can go on mat leave sooner, but I'd rather work until mid-June so I can have time off with the baby.

If there's one thing I worry about constantly, it's money. I don't want to. I know it's not good for me and the baby, but I do anyways. My credit is shot. So is DH's. We have bills we can't even begin to paid (credit card, hydro, phone), and it seems like we're *never* going to get out of this. I had these silly dreams of having an "ideal" pregnancy where I'd get to sit back, relax, exercise everyday, and enjoy myself. Instead I'm nearly 6 months p/g, working full-time to support my family. My coworkers are appalled and constantly ask why DH isn't working

If we don't get financial assistance, soon, I don't know how we're going to make it. We found out recently that we were (gasp) 3 months late on our rent...I thought it was just 2 My parents forked out the cash for us, but they can only help us so much. I used to have a big ego problem about being "poor", but now, I just want us to make ends meet and have bills paid. I want to avoid getting evicted right when the baby is born. I don't mind the frugal living anymore, and I don't mind the food stamps. I just wish there was a light at the end of this tunnel, where we didn't have to watch every single penny to make sure my DSS and I eat well. I guess working in the world of finance, surrounded by all these people who make huge salaries every month and look down on me for being in the situation I am eats at me. I hate being some kind of pariah...
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