Tired of the comments already

[DBZ]

You know, "you're STILL pregnant" ones. Oh friggin make me puke already. I am NOT at my EDD yet and I have a history of going to 42 weeks. I was thinking of telling people that they changed my EDD to 3/14 .

Anyone have good comebacks for these people?

[angieluvsramon]

Originally Posted by DBZ

You know, "you're STILL pregnant" ones. Oh friggin make me puke already. I am NOT at my EDD yet and I have a history of going to 42 weeks. I was thinking of telling people that they changed my EDD to 3/14 .

Anyone have good comebacks for these people?

No good comebacks but I am seriously of getting these phone calls

**ring ring***

Me:hello
Them: no baby yet???



uuuggghhh why cant they just call and ask how Im doing today??Or what Im gonna do today?? Why is it always "are you having contractions?" or is the baby coming?

Just leave me alone already! I have already hung up on 2 people and yelled at my mother and if these people dont get the hint pretty soon I think Im gonna make them listen to my moans when Im in labor.

If another person calls me and asks me if the baby is coming Im gonna SCREAM! :

[studentmomma]

I'm having issues with both of these... can't people learn to keep their mouths shut occasionally? MIL keeps calling - like she won't be one of the first to hear.

I have no good comebacks for people - though I'm dying to hear some. So tired of all the comments - I hope I never offended any pregnant ladies with all my questions...

[bluebirdmama]

Not in your DDC but for the phone calls you could say "Yes, last week but we didn't think to tell you."

Ok too nasty.

It's totally annoying isn't it? I wish I had something more realistic you could say. Hang in there.

[Leilalu]

really? I get the "how many more months left?" comments

Last time people were making strange comments out the wazoo. Either they learned better, or I carry it well this time.

I did avoid church last week however. I may go tomorrow, we'll see.

[gretasmommy]

[QUOTE=angieluvsramon;10667999]No good comebacks but I am seriously of getting these phone calls

**ring ring***

Me:hello
Them: no baby yet???


You: click


Just hang up!!!! How rude!!!

I have no snappy comeback either . . but thes sort of comments are the primary reason I am so glad to wait these last days at home! Not at work, where 30+ times a day someone would comment on my pregancy -

"Wow! It really has been a while since we've seen you!"
"I see you have something to tell us!!!!"
"Boy, you sure have grown!!!"
"When are you due?" "Are you *still* pregnant??!!!" (no, I had the baby and my damned stomach still looks like this! Sucks, eh?!)
"Do you know the sex yet? Have you chosen a name?"



Agggggggggggg!!!!!!!! I tried to very politely answer as little as possible, and then refocus on them somehow . . . .every so often i would need to bluntly say that the question was too personal . .. .

It's good to be at home with family now!

[~Robin]

feeling like I am going to pop and love when other people notice the fact as well.
The my wonderful DH shouts out doesn't she look like a WHALE!

[CherryBomb]

Yeah, it drives me nuts when you're weeks away from you due date and people are all "OMG YOU'RE STILL PREGNANT?!" YES I'M STILL PREGNANT!!

[rmzbm]

The other day I got "So, are you gunn'a have that baby?" I was beyond tempted to say "Oh...they come OUT?" Uggh, people don't get it when in a non preg. state how IRRITATING it is!

[New_Natural_Mom]

I get sooo when people ask me if I'm ready to have that baby yet. I have been on bedrest for 7 weeks actively trying *not* to have this baby. I have 4 weeks left. I will be ready for the baby in 4 weeks. What gets my bp up is these people KNOW I have been on bedrest. Can you be more insensitive. I swear, the next person that asks me that is going to make me cry. My DH's aunt keeps saying she wants me to have the baby before Easter. Uhhh, even if I did she wouldn't get to see the LO. But then she wouldn't see why I wouldn't want to bring my newborn so some god-awful buffet 2.5 hours from home with 1000 people in flu season.

Oh, and I will stab the next person who asks me if I am sure I am not having twins. I am not. that. big.

[KristyDi]

I must not look pregnant enough or something. In the last week or so no less than 5 people have asked me when I'm due when I respond, "Actually my EDD is this Monday." They look at me like I'm nuts. One sweet little old lady actually said, "Oh I don't think it's that soon dear." Huh? I promise I do actually know my own due date.

I'm sorry I don't look fat/miserable/bloated enough for you to feel like I'm close to the end, but I promise I feel fat/miserable/bloated.

[khanni]

Originally Posted by angieluvsramon

No good comebacks but I am seriously of getting these phone calls

**ring ring***

Me:hello
Them: no baby yet???



uuuggghhh why cant they just call and ask how Im doing today??Or what Im gonna do today?? Why is it always "are you having contractions?" or is the baby coming?

This happened to me a lot my last pregnancy. I went to 42 weeks. I eventually just changed my answering machine to say something like "The bun is still in the oven. If you are calling for some other reason, leave a message and we'll call you back" and stopped answering the phone.

[Leilalu]

Originally Posted by KristyDi

I must not look pregnant enough or something. In the last week or so no less than 5 people have asked me when I'm due when I respond, "Actually my EDD is this Monday." They look at me like I'm nuts. One sweet little old lady actually said, "Oh I don't think it's that soon dear." Huh? I promise I do actually know my own due date.

I'm sorry I don't look fat/miserable/bloated enough for you to feel like I'm close to the end, but I promise I feel fat/miserable/bloated.

I'm in the same boat.

Dh said today that he had this irresistable urge to bounce my tummy like a basketball. I said "don't you dare, my belly button is so sore today!"

[OmJaya]

I'm so glad to read this thread! It's been soooo hard and I've been avoiding calling my family members 'cause everyone only wants to know one thing. We went to the convienence store the other day with DS in the stroller when we normally leave it outside and the guy working exclaimed "oh my god!!......oh, I thought that was the baby". I felt so angry even though I know people don't understand how it feels when you get to this stage. I feel so anxious myself and I think that others should be removed enough from that feeling to keep themselves in a supportive place. I'm planning on my mom being at the birth and still everytime I call she says "sooooooo, are you feeling anything?" me: "no" her: "nothing at all?" me: "nope" her: "welllll, it will be soon" in a sing-song voice. Ugh! Mom, when I'm feeling labor, it will be what I say when I call! Leave me alone! My EDD is tomorrow and I wonder now how people get to 42 weeks and keep their head straight. I told my mom today we were thinking maybe the baby will be around St. Patrick's Day. She looked surprised and asked if I wanted to go that long. I'm like well I can't really decide that! I said it to her to acknowledge that it could take that long.

[JustJamie]

I haven't gotten too many comments this time around, except my stepmother-in-law was starting to annoy me on Saturday...DH and I took FIL/SMIL down to the city market to experience "German shopping", and after walking around for five hours, my feet were starting to swell, so we headed home, and DH stopped for take out so I didn't have to cook.

She started in around 5:15, wanting to know why I was "still" up, and hadn't gone to bed yet! Um, geez, lady, do YOU go to bed at 5:15? Yes, I know I was sitting on the sofa, because I was trying to elevate my feet and reduce the swelling, NOT because I was tired!!!!

Then again, Saturday night was the night FIL/SMIL decided to act like teenagers in my house, so maybe she was hassling me to go to bed so that they could have privacy on my sofa. :

[MonP'titBoudain]

After weeks of being on modified bedrest and dealing with some (minor) ptl issues I'm finally 37 weeks and ok with having a baby. But, it's like everyone has forgotten how many weeks an ordinary pregnancy is! Every day I'm getting calls asking if anything is going on. I'm sure now that I will go to 42 weeks! I wonder if my MIL is worried that since we're having the baby at home we might not tell her about the birth for awhile? She certainly seems most anxious of all the family, but I would never do that to her. who knows what she's thinking?

[Sweetmilo]

My fav comment is "omg you're pregnant" (I'm the receptionist at a vetrinarians office)

I usually respond with.....

so that's what's wrong with me??? thank god, I thought I'd been possessed by aliens

they usually laugh, and go on to the next obvious question.

Here's another one for you...I go line dancing weekly, i LOVE it, and last week 4 people (ok I won't censor, they were women, older women at that) came up to me asking me if I was ok. the 4th woman was unlucky. I grabbed her arm, and started yelling, I'm in labor you have to help me!!!!

She went kinda pale and said really???

to which I responded, do you think I'd be here if I weren't ok? No one else bothered me after that......

[JustJamie]

Originally Posted by Sweetmilo

My fav comment is "omg you're pregnant" (I'm the receptionist at a vetrinarians office)

I usually respond with.....

so that's what's wrong with me??? thank god, I thought I'd been possessed by aliens

they usually laugh, and go on to the next obvious question.

Here's another one for you...I go line dancing weekly, i LOVE it, and last week 4 people (ok I won't censor, they were women, older women at that) came up to me asking me if I was ok. the 4th woman was unlucky. I grabbed her arm, and started yelling, I'm in labor you have to help me!!!!

She went kinda pale and said really???

to which I responded, do you think I'd be here if I weren't ok? No one else bothered me after that......

LOL I love your sense of humor.

[dianna11]

HA! Even my mw is saying this and my EDD isn't until THursday!!!

Granted, my daughter was born 10 days early, so we were all preparing for this baby to come even earlier, not I'm sitting around with nothing to do but wait!

It's still cute (for now) that my mom calls every day to see how I'm doing, but I think I will be stepping up the cranky after Thursday.

[Smokering]

Yep. And the comments I get aren't even consistent! Within the last, oh, week or so I've had 'You look ready to pop!', followed by 'When are you due? OMG, I thought you were like four or five months pregnant, you're tiny!', followed by 'You can't hide that bump any more! Any day now, is it?', followed by 'You must be pretty close to due--June, is it?', followed by 'Wow, you're huge!'.

I honestly don't know what to think any more! I've been 'smallish' for most of my pregnancy, so I'm used to those kinds of comments--maybe that's why the 'you're so big' ones are really grating on me. I have some weird childhood body issues, so I have to keep reminding myself that being 'small' isn't a compliment or a Good Thing; I'm 37 weeks pregnant, I'm allowed to be as big as I want!

So far Mum's the only one who's done the 'Are you in labour?' thing when she rings up... it's driving me a tad batty. Oh, and there's a creepy old guy at church who keeps bugging me for my 'exact' EDD, which I'm not disclosing to the general public. Then again, he did kind of disgrace himself by asking my husband solicitously 'So how are you doing?' Everyone in the room, including me and DH, immediately responded 'How's HE doing?!'