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post #1 of 30
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My FIL/SMIL are staying with us for the weekend.

Last night, they were drinking - DH and I don't drink, so when it became obvious that they planned on just getting inebriated last night, we went to bed early. (8ish)

I woke up at 5 this morning, and discovered that they had spilled red wine on my sofa, and used my good beige bath towels to clean it up, and left the towels sitting on the dining room table. In addition to the red wine spilled on the sofa, they also spilled some of their personal lubricant on the sofa/floor, and left the tube on the floor.

After getting all that cleaned up, and the towels soaking in oxyclean (which thankfully DID get the wine out), I discovered that they spilled red wine on the wall, and didn't bother to even wipe that down.

The way our house is built, our stairwell is "open" from the third floor down to the basement. The steps don't connect to the walls except in a few strategic places. The wine was spilled at the top of the stairs on the 2nd floor, and splashed all the way down to the basement.

I've been scrubbing it with vinegar for the past hour, and you cannot tell that I've even attempted to wipe it down. We most likely just lost our 2800 Euro security deposit because of the stains on the walls.

I'm furious.
post #2 of 30
I am so sorry. I really think that they had no right to do that.
Have you tried to use the oxyclean to wash the walls with, that could help. Much much hugs coming your way. I really hate the lack of personal respect that some people have with other peoples items..
post #3 of 30
Did you just post this in TAO? If not then there are two of your FIL and MIL.
post #4 of 30
Thread Starter 
I posted about the towels this morning, before I discovered everything else.
post #5 of 30
What the...? :

Why aren't THEY cleaning it up?!

I'd make sure they knew you were cleaning up their lube the first chance I got, and maybe even toss them out on their rear ends.

How do you get drunk, have sloppy sex, mess up someone's home...and just LEAVE IT???? :
post #6 of 30
okay... that's weird & really disrespectful. why are they getting so sloshed at their sons house? and having wild lube sex? gross.

Are they still at your house? you should show them the wall & ask (or have Dh ask) that they help you wipe the walls down.... seeing you are 8 months pregnant with their grandchild!
post #7 of 30
Sounds like something a child would do...So SO SO sorry that at 9mths you are dealing with this.
post #8 of 30
I would hand them the lube and ask if they forgot this. Tell them you found it when you were cleaning up the mysterious red wine stains all over the house. I would ask DH to step in and say something, I mean ewww. Really.

BTW, since you said euro I am guessing you are outside the US. There is a product here called Mr. Clean Magic Eraser. Not all natural, but darned if that thing doesn't really magically erase wall stains. If you can find it I would give it a shot.
post #9 of 30
Yikes, that is just beyond disrespectful.

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The Mr. Clean Magic Erasers are a good suggestion. The only thing they didn't get off my very stained kitchen wall was a grease stain.

I know around here some apartments keep a supply of the wall paint on hand to fix stuff after tenants move out. Maybe after all else has failed you could ask to buy some of the paint from them and paint over the stains yourselves (or have the IL's do it) that might be cheaper than losing the deposit.
post #10 of 30
Personally, the only way I could calm down in your situation is if I wasn't the one dealing with the mess. I would not allow them to come back to your house. And if the mess was left out, I would be surprised if they ever felt like coming back for the shame. Your husband probably feels ashamed too, and hopefully knows this isn't his fault. I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this at this time. They are unsafe people, stay away!
post #11 of 30
Thread Starter 
DH took them out to dinner tonight...(they're paying, he's not!)

The Magic Eraser is working - how convenient they come in packages of 2, I'll be handing one to each FIL/SMIL when they get back.

DH is just as furious as I am...he doesn't know how hard the walls will be to clean; without that knowledge, his reaction was "That's effing disrespectful", and that he and I would just not say anything, as FIL/SMIL are leaving for Paris in the morning, and it will probably be years before we see them again. (Fingers crossed...)

When he gets home, I'll tell him about how difficult the stains are - he'll either back me up in "suggesting" that FIL/SMIL clean the walls, or he'll suggest that FIL paypal us the money to have it cleaned. He won't just let it go, now that it's hitting us in the wallet - in his opinion, that's taking money away from our kids, and you just do not mess with DH's kids!
post #12 of 30
And I thought my inlaws were bad!!!!


Ack! Can you find some solace in Ben and Jerry's? Do they have that over on the other side of the big pond?
post #13 of 30
IMO, if they lost you your deposit, then they should be paying it.
post #14 of 30
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Originally Posted by rmzbm View Post
What the...? :

Why aren't THEY cleaning it up?!

I'd make sure they knew you were cleaning up their lube the first chance I got, and maybe even toss them out on their rear ends.

How do you get drunk, have sloppy sex, mess up someone's home...and just LEAVE IT???? :
:

I would haul them out of bed with a bottle of vinegar and oxyclean and tell them to get to it!! That's amazingly disrespectful of them. I'm so sorry.
post #15 of 30
I would definitely have them be cleaning it up, and making DH the enforcer. Yikes. Isn't it bad enough that you have to deal with inlaws this pregnant, let alone stains?
post #16 of 30
gross...on the personal lubricant. you sound like you are handling this very well! i would be having a mega meltdown. so sorry you are having to deal with this.
post #17 of 30
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Originally Posted by mothernurture2 View Post
gross...on the personal lubricant. you sound like you are handling this very well! i would be having a mega meltdown. so sorry you are having to deal with this.
ditto that. Honestly, halfway through your story I thought, "I can't help her calm down, this is making me furious!" I would have freaked on them in a way that would only aggravate the situation and probably wouldn't have been very mature. Kudos for your patience and I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this in the first place!
post #18 of 30
Ewwwww and yuck and yikes!



post #19 of 30
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Originally Posted by gretasmommy View Post
And I thought my inlaws were bad!!!!


Ack! Can you find some solace in Ben and Jerry's? Do they have that over on the other side of the big pond?
Yeah, maybe ben and Jerrys would help the stains go away...

Man, that sucks. Big time. I would feel so stupid if I ever did something like that in my own childs house!


I would ask them to clean it up or leave, but I am very cranky lately.
post #20 of 30
dang! And this is your DH's father?? I would be horrified!!! And totally humiliated.
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